Monique ThompsonLicensed Professional Counselor-Supervisor & Infidelity Recovery Specialist

How to know when you’ve found “the one”!

29 Nov 2025 · 1 min

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In this brief solo talk, Dr. Monique Thompson, a relationship therapist with over 24 years of experience, explains that the primary way to recognize “the one” is an internal sense of safety. She advises listeners to look inward—scanning their bodies and trusting their instincts—rather than focusing on external behaviors. If you feel unsafe, she says, the person is likely not the right match; if you feel safe, they may be. She also encourages viewers not to be discouraged by odds or external opinions, urging them to keep hope in love. The message is framed as a practical, instinct‑based guideline drawn from her work helping thousands of couples.

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How do you know when you found the one? You feel safe. You feel completely safe. And when you're not with the one, you do not feel safe. You feel unsafe. So trust your instincts. The number one thing you can do to know if you are with the one is check inside yourself. Don't look at them. Don't look at what they're doing or not doing. Check inside yourself. Scan your body. Notice, do I feel safe and trust your instinct. If you do not feel safe, not the one. If you do feel safe, possibly we may have found that person. All right, the odds are in your favor. Don't let people make you think that the odds are not in your favor. Don't give up on love. Do not give up on love. I'm Dr. Monique Thompson. I've helped thousands of couples find their way back to rekindling, and people are always asking me, how do I know? How do I know when I found the one? And I'm telling you this one thing from over 24 years of practice: if you don't When you don't feel safe, trust that instinct. And when you do feel safe, trust yourself on that as well. Good luck. Thank you.