Monique ThompsonLicensed Professional Counselor-Supervisor & Infidelity Recovery Specialist

Reason # 4 why infidelity therapy is not working #infidelityrecovery #couplestherapy

11 Jun 2025 · 1 min

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This content was created by Monique Thompson. This content was uploaded by Monique Thompson. This is a YouTube video titled "Reason # 4 why infidelity therapy is not working #infidelityrecovery #couplestherapy" (posted 2025-06-11T14:30:47+00:00). It is a single-speaker coaching/informational clip featuring Dr. Monique Thompson addressing couples and practitioners about why infidelity counseling can fail; she explains reason #4—that clients must learn to self-soothe and emotionally regulate (especially after betrayal trauma) before attempting deep recovery conversations—and recommends therapists/coaches teach early-stage emotional regulation.

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Reason number 4 why your therapy might not be working for infidelity counseling or relationship infidelity coaching. I'm Dr. Monique Thompson, and I help couples recover from affairs. The 4th reason— if you look, watch the other 3 videos, you'll see reasons 1 through 3— but the 4th reason why your infidelity coaching or counseling might not be working is you have not yet learned to self-soothe so that you can have these deep, intense conversations. Think of it like going to the emergency room needing a major surgery and you don't have any anesthesia. You can't do that kind of major surgery without having something to help you bear the pain. Likewise, when it comes to infidelity, many people, the betrayed partner and the person who cheated, experience betrayal trauma. If you do not learn first from your relationship coach or your therapist how to self-soothe, how to get into a place where your brain can stay alert and calm so that you can have these deep conversations, then it's just going to fail. So first step, learn how to emotionally regulate. Your therapist or your coach should teach you that in the early initial stages of infidelity recovery.