Reason #5 Why infidelity counseling fails (even when you both want to fix it)

Infidelity recovery does not fail because you don't want to recover. It doesn't fail because you're not in therapy. It doesn't fail because the other person hasn't apologized or because you're not willing to forgive them. It fails because of this one thing. The one thing is you're not able to really talk about why it happened, how did we get here, and that's because you cannot emotionally regulate yourself to have that deep The conversation, and that's because you have not dealt with the trauma. Reason number 5 is you're not talking about how did we get here, why did we get here. But really, reason number 5 goes back to reasons 1, 2, and 3, which have everything to do with dealing with the trauma. You have to talk about how did we get here, why did it happen. And in order to do that, you need to have that emotional trauma, that betrayal trauma dealt with. So there's reason number 5. It's not that you don't want it to work out, it's that your nervous system is not letting you. I'm Dr. Monique Thompson, infidelity recovery specialist. Reach out, let's see if we can work together.