Monique ThompsonLicensed Professional Counselor-Supervisor & Infidelity Recovery Specialist

What to do IMMEDIATELY when you find out your partner has cheated

17 May 2026 · 2 min

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This content was created by Monique Thompson. This content was uploaded by Monique Thompson. This is a YouTube video titled "What to do IMMEDIATELY when you find out your partner has cheated" (created 2026-05-17T19:31:58Z). It features Dr. Monique Thompson speaking in a single-speaker, instructional/consultation-style monologue aimed at people who discover a partner's infidelity. Dr. Thompson advises viewers not to rely on the partner to calm them, to get a professional appointment immediately, to stay with someone until they can calm down, and to wait until they are calm before attempting communication. Metadata available includes a thumbnail URL and the content type (YOUTUBE).

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I'm Dr. Monique Thompson, and I help couples manage through recovery after finding out someone has cheated. I'm going to give you a tip here. The number one thing that you might want to do is rely on your partner to help you calm down. You may want to say, I want to talk, I have questions, you need to answer these questions so that I can calm down, when actually it's the reverse. You're needing to calm down. So that you can communicate. Well, how are you going to do that? Typically, you won't. I'm just being honest with you. You won't. This is exactly why I recommend anybody and everybody, when you find out that your partner has cheated on you, if you care about them and you cared about them before this happened, it is going to hurt. The kind of hurt you cannot possibly imagine. The kind of hurt that is just— you feel like you're gonna lose it, right? This is the day to get on somebody's appointment book ASAP, because no matter what you try to do, your brain just will run from you, find itself someplace else on fire, and you'll have a lot of bad thoughts, a lot of bad thoughts. So if you don't want to be who you see on TV, then immediately after you find out, get an appointment and stay, stay with whoever you find until you can calm down. down so that you can communicate. It doesn't mean that you're communicating to resolve and reconcile or that you're threat— you, you don't know what you're gonna say when you finally calm down. But trust me, it's the calm before the communication that works. All right, follow me for more tips on what to do when you discover your partner has cheated on you.