Doctors mistakingly suture my womb with my stomach

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So I want to specially welcome the both of you to this episode of Stories. Um, and for those who are joining us, um, it's been a while, um, I want you to specially welcome with me Mr. and Mrs. Aladekoba. That name is a powerful name, first and foremost. I'm not sure I've heard that name before I met you guys. Very unique name. You are from Idoni?

Idoni.

Idoni, not Idore. Ah, okay, I think I was mixing them up. Where is that?

It's in Ondo State.

What part of Ondo is that?

Very—

Riverine?

No, closer to Edo State. Okay, that's where the Federal Government College is located.

I know this school, Rufus Giwa Inowo. It's a polytechnic. You know, I served in Ondo State. Oh wow, just had a bit of here and there. I was a prayer coordinator and other. And so good to see you, man of God. You, you are from, um, Ogun State? Yeah, Ijebu.

Ijebu de.

Let's leave that. Just for those who are watching, we are the only ones in the Bible. Yes, at least the Yoruba side. So you guys are not there. You guys have survived so much, you've been through so much, and your story is one that millions of people need to hear. To be inspired. Um, now I'm thinking of which one to start with. Well, let's start with the story of your supernatural conception and supernatural birth.

Okay.

Um, you have two— one in respect to that— two.

Yes, yes.

Let's start with the Which one do we start with? Let's start with the issue of the ruptured womb. Okay, how did it start?

So, um, I'll never forget March 27th, 2022. Yeah, 2022. Yes, I was— so it was a Sunday, went to church, sang, and then— so at the time, the work I had, I used to go to inspect. So I was a food safety quality management specialist. So I, I used to go around to restaurants, um, stores to inspect for my company as a third-party consultant. Yeah, so part of my job was of course driving around to different cities. No, in Calgary, Alberta, Canada. Yeah, so that particular day I was supposed to go to Lethbridge, another city in Alberta. So I had driven, of course, gone to church, I'd driven to Lethbridge, um, Sunday evening so that I'll start work Monday. I was going to be in Lethbridge for the week. Yeah, so interestingly, um, about 12:30 AM, I can't forget, so into Sunday into Monday morning, about 12:30 AM, I was just feeling really uncomfortable. Then I called my husband, I said, "I'm feeling very uncomfortable." At this time I was about 18 to 19 weeks pregnant. So I said, "I feel like I'm having a heartburn, but it doesn't feel like a heartburn, just please, doesn't feel normal, like the normal heartburn." So I was still uncomfortable, then about 1:30 I was like, "Okay, maybe I should try and throw up, maybe I'll get better." Because if it's a heartburn, I mean, like, it will relieve me. So I remember going to the washroom, I threw up, and honestly, the only thing I remember was I just remember saying, Holy Spirit, this is not the agreement. Holy Spirit, this is not the agreement. And I didn't know that I passed out, but apparently I passed out in the washroom. In the washroom. And about 3:30, 4 AM, I woke up. I was on the floor in the washroom.

You passed out for over 3 hours?

Yes.

Wow. Blanked out?

Blanked out.

Wow. Continue.

So when I woke up at that 4 AM, I was sweating. In fact, I was sweat out. I remember I was sweating. Then I woke up and I was like, because I was shivering, I was on the floor, bare floor tiles in the washroom.

September? September?

March.

March? That's still cold. Yes, winter. Yes. Wow.

So I tried to stand up, I couldn't stand up, so I just crawled back to the hotel, into the room, and then I got on the bed and I called him back. And I was saying, in hindsight, he told me, you were sounding— you were picking your words one by one. And then I remember him saying, put on your video, let me see your video. So I struggled to put on the video of the camera, and then he told me at the time when he saw me, I was white. Now I didn't have— I didn't know all of that. I said I had turned white. And then I remember him saying, call 911. I said, no, when you come, just start coming. Come now. Leg Bridge is about—

you got the call that night?

Yes, yes, I got the call that night.

What was it like?

It was like, um, because I'd seen her go through the original heartburns that were really heartburns, I thought it was one of it, but she had never said pray.

Hmm.

So immediately she said pray, funny story, I was actually— I should have slept but I couldn't sleep. So I just put on my video game to pass away time, maybe that will make me fall asleep. That was when they called Femi Lazarus. She said that, I dropped the game and I started to pray.

Hmm.

In between that, I fell asleep, woke up and they continued praying and then I called him. I wouldn't have pressed, but I just had the impression to press for her to show the video. So when she did, and I saw how pale she was— now let me describe the paleness. Now we know how hotel lights are, side table lamps. For you to notice that somebody is pale with that kind of lighting.

Yeah.

So I said, you know, no, knowing you, you want to say I can manage. I said, okay, give me your friend's number who live there. So I called him to call 911 and to go to the—

he was closer to that place.

He was closer to that place. Ledgebridge is somewhat remote. The fact that he decided to go and live there was actually the first miracle.

A miracle in itself.

So I called, I said, I'm only 15 minutes away, I'll drop my daughters at the daycare and go to her.

Wow, wow.

That was what happened.

That was what happened. That was— so at that point, I wasn't panicking because I didn't even have the full— I didn't know how severe what was going on was.

Yeah.

So I got my son ready here in Calgary, 2-3 hours away, got him to school, and I said, you know what, at this point, let's just go and bring you back.

And the paleness was because you had become anemic?

Yes, so apparently I had been bleeding internally. I had no idea.

Boy, boy.

And so, because when the paramedics finally came and I was like, oh, I was like, oh, I'm pregnant. And like, are you sure? I said yes. Because they check like, well, we can't feel anything. I say, yes, I can't feel the baby moving. That's what I said. I can't feel my baby moving. And then they just radioed, we're bringing in, you know, they use all their codes. So when we got to the hospital, there was already a room waiting. They were just, they were just waiting to receive me. And so when, when we got in and the doctor came, he said, oh, that, you know, we— you've been bleeding for close to 6 hours. All I see is blood, and they just saw fluid in the abdominals, in, in the abdomen. They didn't even— he was like, all I see is fluid, fluid, fluid. And I was like, but I'm pregnant. Like, we can't see the baby. So at that point, uh, they had to— of course, they did the scans, and it was more like the baby was now in the abdominal cavity. It was now in my stomach. So apparently the uterus had erupted. The baby was no longer in the uterus anymore. So yeah, yeah.

And then the, the uterus ruptured.

Yes.

Then the fetus in the uterus came out of the uterus.

Yes.

And now the fetus was now in your abdominal cavity.

Yes.

Which had blood vessels had broken, so there's blood now. Yes, in your abdominal cavity. And that has been for hours.

Yes.

You know, the fact that anyone is even alive for an hour with such that you have described is beyond a miracle. That was why you passed out. You were bleeding and your brain wasn't getting enough flow. Please continue.

So at this time, um, the doctors came and, you know, we have to rush into emergency surgery. We have to— at this point there were two options: we have to take out the baby, we have to— and then from what they could see, they said we're going to take out the uterus as well. So, um, I think you had arrived at that time.

And for those who are watching, the uterus is the womb.

Yes, so I, I remember I didn't even know that they had actually given me blood even before all of this conversation because I had like, he just said, oh, they had given me blood and all of that. So I remember when he arrived, we called, um, we called your elder brother, we called our pastors, they prayed, and the only thing I remember telling the doctor was I said, the baby you can have That's okay, I'm fine with you having the baby. I said, but you can't have my uterus. And he looked at me strangely. I said, anything you do— I said, you can have the baby, that's fine, but you can't— I said, whatever you do, you have to keep the uterus. Because I had— they brought papers, of course, um, Canada, they bring papers, you have to sign everything. And then I was like, can he sign? They said, no, I have to sign. So I told him, I said, I'm signing does not mean I'm giving you, because I said, I'm just going to sign, but whatever you do keep my interest. He looked at me strangely. Anyway, then I remember when we got into the theater, I looked around, I counted them, there were about 15 people. And I remember there was a doctor that came and said my— she had, she already, she had a surgery that was scheduled, but she said, oh, the mood has her surgery. And she was like, she just wanted to be here to see this special person that they had brought in for this emergency surgery. So I counted the way— I had 2 anesthesiologists because they couldn't find my veins. And then the only thing I remember before going, I said, I just said, um, Holy Spirit, into your hands I commit everybody that's going to touch me. I'm coming back alive. And then you take it off from me.

Yeah, you were having an experience then.

So, um, and for those watching, I just want to say that please don't do life without God. Yeah, yeah, it's too costly. Now, when I dropped my son in school— I'll give timelines— it was around 8 o'clock in the morning, in the morning. All I did was pick my wallet so I could get gas if I needed to, and I dropped him in school, heading straight to Lek Bridge. On the way, like you said, I called my eldest brother who was a pastor in the US, told him what was happening. He prayed. Then I called my pastor, Pastor Femi Lazarus, in Nigeria, and I said, 'Sir, this is what's happening.' And he only prayed one prayer. He said— he said two things: one, drive safely, and two, that only the people that God has ordained to be in that room will be in that room, which corroborates—

wow—

as she said. And then I, I was driving, but I was not settled. I was not at peace that all would go well. And then, wow, when I passed one— I can't remember the town, but I take pictures and they complain that I take too many pictures. Anything I say I want to take. That was one day I wished you took— I was settled enough to take a picture of what I saw. As I left the town, normally when the rays of the sun go through the clouds, it is, you know, you can see the lines.

Yeah.

But on this particular day, I saw the straight lines normal, and then I saw lines extending either side like wings, and then also lines extending up. It was like a large angel. Immediately I saw that, I knew all was well. Wow. While this was happening, was At the same time, all the experiences she was having, the questions she was answering—

wow.

So when I came, was just about when they were going to wheel her into the theater, and she just said, please keep praying. And then I just kept praying, went to sit down and waited and waited for— looked like it was not going to end.

The surgery lasted how many hours?

I don't know, it was maybe 6, 7?

It was about, it was about 4 or 5. Okay, yeah, it was about 4 or 5 because at this time, yes, it was around when my son was closing, which around 2:30. So yeah, around 4 or 5.

Wow.

Yes.

Wow. So they were able to—

so they, they brought— so they brought out the They brought out the baby, and so when we were done, of course, when we go back to recovery, I remember as I came out, when I recovered, the nurse that brought me out, I remember her saying, um, baby, you're a miracle. And she just said, you're a miracle. Then I smiled.

The nurse was talking to you?

The nurse was talking to me.

As at the time this was happening, you were how many months pregnant?

So that would be about 5 months, just close to 5 months pregnant.

Yeah, yeah, that's your second trimester. Okay, continue.

So we got— we went into the recovery room, and I remember the doctors coming with the other specialist, and he was trembling. I'll never forget, he was really trembling, and he said—

a white doctor?

A white doctor, yes. He was trembling, and he said— he told me, said, I don't know how you survived. Because just a couple of weeks ago I had a similar situation. The lady did not survive. So then he kept looking at me.

But in essence, nobody really survives such— yes, many things. But let's continue.

Yeah, so he looked at me and said, um, of course they'll start with, we're sorry you lost the baby. But again, he says, I don't even know how you're here.

Wow. Your, your womb.

Yeah.

And then, yes, and then it goes and your womb, we were able to save it. Wow.

Was there— was it— were you guys told any protocols, whatever was responsible for the rupturing in the first place?

Not entirely, but when we cast our mind back, which now leads to us son's preg— um, when we had our son, our first son, um, I remember, cuz in that pregnancy, um, after giving birth, I was bleeding internally. And the only way we found out was because, again, another miracle was the doctor who did the delivery then in the US, she just appeared in my hospital room around 2:00 a.m. and said she could not sleep, and somebody just kept telling her she has to go and check on this her patient. So when she showed up, she said, check her blood. So they were checking my blood every 2 hours, and they need to give her the report. And she said, so the next morning she came about 10 o'clock and said, your blood level is dropping. So they had, they gave me, um, so they gave me blood. And then by afternoon she said, we've given you 6 pints of blood, but your blood is still dropping. So it means that there's something going on. So they brought in a specialist that evening and it was like, it looks like she's bleeding internally because there was no bleeding out. Again?

That's the first time?

That's the first time. So he's like, we need to take her back into the theater.

And you were pregnant then?

No, I had given birth. So you had given birth? I had given birth. The baby was out at this time. So which was why it was strange that she came back to check because it was like, you'd given birth. Yeah. So she said, so when they came back and they were going to take me to the theater, and I— so the way God works, God has showed up for us. That's why he said you can't do life without God. That evening, I had a Nigerian nurse by the name Isoken, and she walked in and she looked at me, she's like, are you sure you're ready for this surgery? I said, no, I think I'm going to die. And then she said, so when they came, she said she can't go for the surgery. She told them, and she said, I'll call you when she's ready. Then she closed the door and said, let's pray. So we started praying. So we prayed for about 30 minutes to 45 minutes, and I told her, I said, I'm ready now to go. She said, are you sure? I said, yes, I'm ready. Then she called them and she said, she's ready to go for the surgery. So, but this time around, because they couldn't cut open again because I had had a CS to have my son, they did something called an embolism. An embolism. So now when we flash back, they're saying maybe it was where the embolism was. Nobody really could tell.

Were you having PE, pulmonary embolism?

So that was what they said was when I had my son.

You were having pulmonary embolism?

Yes.

That's an emergency. Please continue.

So that was just to cast our mind back, like, so that's what we think may have happened at the time when we were having this, uh, second, um, son. So that's just to answer the question.

So in this case now Of course, you lost that pregnancy. How was that for you?

It was— now, our son, his singular prayer has always been not to be an only child. So we were happy.

Yeah.

We had not told him that we were expecting his brother. We wanted him to get that surprise. So when we lost it, it was very, very heartbreaking, especially given the fact that they asked us the question, do we want them to take away the baby, the fetus, or do we want to see it? And I looked at my wife She was in tears and she said that she wanted to see him.

I said, you'll see, you'll see.

No, because they also asked us if we wanted to do a funeral service.

So I said, let them bring him first.

So they brought him. By face, he looks so much like his brother.

Wow.

And, uh, with tears in our eyes, we said— I told her, I said, you know what, We will not treat him like a dead child. However little time we have with him before they take him away, we'll do what all parents should do. We'll name him. Wow. So we carried him in our hands and we named him. And the name I had in my spirit was Idumu. A name that didn't look like anything that was going on.

Yeah, yeah.

But I have I know God's voice, so I said, "Idunnu, thank you for coming.

We love you.

We are glad that you came, even though it was for a very short time." Wow. So we took turns taking pictures with him. You took pictures?

Yes.

Do you still have the pictures?

Yes, we do.

Why do you still have the pictures? What do you feel like— how do you feel when you see the pictures?

Um, so for me, it's more of, um, for me it's more like a testament to God's faithfulness that I'm alive, that I'm still here. Um, because like, like we know, in fact, a lot of people— so my aunt is a doctor in the US, and when we called her in the hospital, she was weeping and she was saying, I don't know why you're here, because from her experience as a doctor, like you said, most people don't survive. So she said at the moment you passed out is when you should have died.

Yeah.

So she said— so she was talking to him, said, you're talking to me. Yeah, I can't— yeah, you're, you're speaking. Nothing happened to your brain.

So that's another thing. There ought to be a— to have been a damage in your brain.

Yes.

For that period that you passed out, it's It's strange how nothing happened. It doesn't make medical sense. How you even fell, was it from standing height? Why didn't you hit your head while there was no supply of oxygen to the brain? Questions, questions, questions.

In fact, there's even one more question, and it was later that she recalled and told me that she said she woke up sweating. The reason why she was sweating was when she passed out, She fell face into the shower curtain. So the shower curtain was over her face. So that was where the sweat came from.

And it didn't suffocate you?

No.

So that was where the sweat came from.

You know, I must say this at this point, that it may not look like it. Let me give you an illustration. Some elite organizations, if they want to take a person out, like to take a person out, they like to do it in a way that it will look like an accident. That's, that's the height. I see that. I also have discovered that the opposite of it, when God's angels are out to rescue the heirs of salvation, God's children. They find a way of doing it in a way that it may look like natural coincidence. Everything from what was happening when you passed out, how you passed out, where you passed out, that was supernatural. That, that Everything. The fact that you're here, you have cognitive abilities. Um, you also spoke the other time about pulmonary embolism, which is an emergency. Um, even though I still have to, you know, when we talk about that, I need to be sure that we're saying the same thing because recently— anyways, PE is a serious matter. You, when it is detected, you don't want to take the person out of ICU because anytime there's clotting, person can— not even can, is dead except quickly attended. So you here, talking to you now is a miracle. Well, let's talk about the emotional aspect of it. How did you cope emotionally?

Ah, very important question. So I'll say the first few months I was, I was, I was, I was grateful, but you know, there's— I was grateful, but I remember I was talking to one of our big elders and he told me, said, you know, you can ask good questions. So then I got into some So after being grateful, yes, my life, I got better. Then I got into my question, um, question mode. And I always tell my husband, I said, don't worry, me and God, we have an agreement. I remember there was a point I couldn't pray, not because I, I just felt like, did God, why did God abandon me? I mean, I, you know how, you know, the scriptures. I mean, I've grown up in the church, but I mean, I had a personal walk with God, obviously. So it was a case of, oh God, I'm your child now, I'm serving you, I've done this, I've done all of this, you know. And so I had questions. And I remember, um, at those points when I couldn't pray or read my Bible, I just used to listen to music. I'm a music person, so I just— I'll put on worship. But I had questions, I had doubts, um, especially when people around you start— we're having— we're giving birth— friends, we're having children, and you have to go and celebrate with them. Um, was it hard?

Yes.

Is it still hard? Sometimes, yes, because you're like, but the Bible says, "No one shall be barren in the land." I'm not barren. And then sometimes you look at it, and then at some point I'm like, okay, maybe I'm grateful for the one I have. But no, the Bible also says that our children will surround our tables. Then you look at all those scriptures, and I remember I was talking to my sister, she was like, "You know, you are very spiritual, so you'll be giving me spiritual answers." I said, "No, far from it." Apart from being spiritual in that sense, I still have my emotions where there are things I wanted God to do for me, and it felt like as if God had abandoned me at some point. But like I said, it was hard. But did I find my way back? Yes. Because again, doing life without God is not it. So emotionally, Um, I was scarred for a bit. Um, I even said, well, we're not trying to have any child anytime soon.

Yeah, please continue.

Yeah, so for me, um, emotions was—

did you develop fears?

Yes, uh, yes, lots, lots, lots of fears. He can, he can corroborate that. What kind of mood swings? I think there was a time I actually lashed out at him. I said, because I didn't feel like he was mourning the way I was mourning. Like, he kind of like— I felt like he just moved on with life and I was going on with life. But because I hadn't seen him maybe mourn or grieve the way I wanted him to grieve, so he felt like, ah, I'm going through all of this and you are just— you just moved on with life.

How do you want him to grieve?

I don't know. That's it. Like I said, it was just part of the mood swings and emotions of— maybe I wanted— I felt like you should hold my— I don't know, hold my hand, come and cry with me.

Wow.

Wow.

Have you healed?

Very important question. So recently, I think about 3, 2 months ago, we, we, we were having a conversation. I was praying and that was what God actually dropped in my mind. I was like, I was asking myself, have you really healed or you're still hurting? Because I find that, and I was telling that, I find that most times we hide behind Behind our biblical lingua, everybody asks you, "It is well, I'm fine. God is good. The Lord is great." We say it, it's just like— and I have to actually check myself that, "Are you really healed?" And I would say, to the large extent, I would say I'm about 80% healed.

Did you mourn Man of God?

Well, um, I had never lost a child before, so I didn't know how to respond. One thing I do know is that I have, um, a calling towards fatherhood. Fathers. I know that when that happened, everything about that stopped. Because like she said, she asked us questions. My question was, how do you— how do I lose what I'm supposed to minister to? Was I grieving? Oh yes, I got— so I did two things. I bottled it a lot because I wanted to put up a strong face for her, and then I had a coping mechanism which was video games.

So I'll play long into the night to take your mind off it, my mind off it.

I'll share a very particular experience. The day we were having Thanksgiving in church for the celebration of life was the same day another family was dedicating a baby. I had to close my eyes to dance and and block out that they were celebrating what we wish to celebrate. But that was tough, but I knew what the scripture said about— I call it tough joy, tough celebration. Yeah, it wasn't easy. Yeah, I'm glad some of our friends recorded it so we have that footage for posterity. But I It was tough, and dealing with it spiraled out of control on my job, which I believed was part of the reason why I lost that job, because there were so many things.

You lost the job in the process? Oh yes.

And it was— so I've, I've seen a lot of losses. 2021, I lost one of my sisters, then this happened. 2022, and then another of my sister passed in 2020— 2024.

So biological, biological.

So everything just burst and I couldn't cope with work. I was dropping balls left, right, and center and everything. And I was put on the performance path, which is like you have a, a set time to pick up your performance. I felt I was on track. I was let go a week before that time, but at that point I knew that, okay, before everything gets out of hand here— that was the first time I opened up to her about how I was feeling.

So you were bottling it up?

Oh, I bottled it.

But she wanted to see your expression?

Wanted to see my expression.

When you had your first son, you had experience too.

Yes.

What happened then?

Okay, so with his pregnancy, so, um, just for, for some, um, for those watching, for some clarity. So before I even met my husband, I had a myomectomy in, I think, 2009 or 2009, I can't remember, which is, it was a fibroid, um, yeah, removal. That's myomectomy. And so one of the things I had said when we met was, I don't think I can have children. So just in case, point. So when we found out that we were pregnant with my son, we were very happy. And so one of the things we discovered about, um, 5 months into the— 5 to 6 months pregnancy was that I had a placenta previa. And so I remember we went to our pastor and told him, um, we have a placenta previa, want to pray that the previa move so that the baby can— because the baby was breech— that the baby can move. So that was the prayer points. Okay, so now what happened was, with all of that, I just had a leading in my spirit that I told him. I said, I don't want to have this baby in Nigeria. So started putting things in place. Eventually we got to— when I got to the US, from the very first scan, um, they said— so they, of course, they did scan, blood work, and they said, um, the baby is breech, she's anemic. Of course, with all the medical terms, we need to take her in, we need to bring out the baby as quickly as possible. So this was at 35, 34, I traveled at 35 weeks, I think.

Yes.

So then I just told them, I said, can we wait till 36 weeks? So they said, on the condition that I don't go anywhere, I'm just on bed taking— so they had prescribed some strong iron tablets and all of that. But the doctor still said, like, 2 days later she calls like, no, we've scheduled you for delivery, but you're going to delivery. So now, CS, yeah, sorry, for CS. And I still had the placenta previa, um, and the baby was breeched. So when we got into the theater, so they were like, okay, CS should be about 30 minutes to 45 minutes. At most.

Yeah.

So what God had prepared for us in a way was the doctor being proactive. I would say it was Holy Spirit as well, was instead of having the delivery in the normal, um, labor ward delivery, they actually had it in— they had scheduled it in the operating— the major operating theater.

Yeah, yeah.

So they had brought pediatrics down to the operating theater, they had brought all the other units to the operating theater. So we got in and it was time. Okay, let's bring out the baby. Let's cut. They cut. They couldn't get to the uterus.

So what do you mean they couldn't get to the uterus?

So, um, in hindsight, so flashback, so we found out that at the time when I had done the myomectomy, they had— when they were—

did that in Nigeria?

I did that in Nigeria. When they were sewing back, they had sewn the wall of my stomach to the uterus.

Oh boy, they sutured— yes, your uterine walls with your stomach. Yes, they sutured your womb. Yes, with your stomach.

Yes, interesting.

A student doctor did that.

No names. Okay, so we— anyway, so I remember she said the doctor was telling us this afterwards, that she just looked up and she saw that my water had broken somewhere around here, which is weird because again the baby was breeched. So they had been looking for how— because they didn't want to cut my stomach, that would have been another whole drama entirely. And so eventually what we found out was that the placenta previa that we had been praying to move was what actually kept the pregnancy in place.

If not, the baby would have—

would have fallen out.

My God.

So as the baby developed, the previa was accommodating him. That's from the way they explained it.

What you thought was a problem was like the hand of God carrying that baby. It didn't just carry the baby, it protected your life. Yes, because you could have had, um, another internal bleeding as the baby expands. It could have effect also on your stomach wall since they've sutured them together. Many things could have gone wrong, and either, either, either of them could have actually cost you your life.

Wow.

And you gave birth? Yes, that baby. The, the surgery lasted how many hours?

Ah, it was about 3 to 4 hours.

4 hours?

It was 4 hours.

Both ought to be 35 to 40 minutes.

Yes, cuz I remember I was in Nigeria then.

I—

the last update I heard was we're going into to the theater and I waited 35 minutes, not 1 hour, 2 hours, 3 hours, 4 hours.

Nobody wants to be in such position because once you hear we're going to theater, 10 minutes you want to hear baby is out, we are working on mom now.

I remember I was sitting at this time, I'd gone to her dad's house to give them the good news but I couldn't enter because you don't have the news. So I sat on the floor, on the, uh, like a small stairway. I sat there waiting until they finally brought the news.

One of the very fascinating things about the both of you, maybe I'm telling you this for the first time, is that I love your relationship. I love the way you love each other. I love the way you— I don't know how you guys got here, but I think because of the battles you've had to fight together, there's a bond it has established within you, between you, and that's so powerful, you know, for anyone to see. Um, looking at all these battles that you fought, what has these things forged you to be?

Um, I think as individuals and then as a couple. Yes. So as a couple, one of the things that it has helped us to do is that we do not take each other's opinion lightly on anything.

Wow.

Your input No matter how small, it's very valid.

Wow, wow.

And when it comes to supporting one another's goals, we're each other's number one fan.

Excellent.

She recently transitioned— she likes book— she recently transitioned from food science to IT. In my head, I couldn't—

you are an accountant?

Used to be.

She is us. She said used to be.

So she has a first class in, uh, accounting, food, biochemistry, then moved to accounting, came to Canada.

Wait, sorry, you did biochemistry first? Yes. Then to accounting?

Yes.

Two different fields?

Yes.

You did biochemistry in Nigeria?

Yes.

And accounting in Nigeria?

Yes. KPMG, I worked with KPMG.

I came here, was— went to a foodware, whatever, and then I want to change to IT.

You're switching to IT now?

I've switched.

Yes.

So I said, you know what, I know you, you have my support, let me know.

Wow, wow.

Let me know any way I can help. And similar thing with me, when I do a lot of my media production, buying gadgets, or, you know, going on, on sets to do the work I know I have a backing. I know I have a backing. So as a couple that has— we know the power of agreement.

You stood in for us to cover our Holy Ghost experience in Toronto and Winnipeg. And Winnipeg. Can I tell you in honest, all honesty, in Nigeria we have very strong media base. But that's the best media production we've had outside Nigeria. That's the best. You didn't even— it didn't even feel like I was away from Nigeria. And for that, we are so grateful. We are so grateful. Listening to the stories you've shared today, I'm having different rush of emotions. It's enough for one to panic just hearing your stories alone, because one thing is obvious: each of the episodes that you survived, the devil was coming for two things, not just the baby but your life.

Yes.

So it means that this union is a union that the devil is not trivializing. He's not joking with it. He's trying to— he has tried to play a fast one. And like they always say, whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger. And that's where this strength is coming from. There are many pregnant women and also other families watching us from all over the world who— they've just been informed now through your story that if we keep our faith intact, we can survive anything thrown at us. Oh yes. That there is the Alade Cobas today, that we're having this conversation, is a miracle. That she's seated here alive multiple times over is a miracle. That she's seated here with her cognitive abilities, it's a big miracle. So we want to really thank God for you. There's still another one, but I understand that today you have to catch a flight, um, so that one will be me. In Canada now. This is you with us in London, so that will be me in Canada. And that one will be two stories. The story of number one, how you met. You know, I won't let that slide. I'll give you guys the gist later. The story of how you met, then also the story of your ministry men. You want to tell us about that ministry you have to men?

Yes, so, uh, it's called Present Fathers, and the vision is to raise a generation of men who will be present all through the lives of their children, not until when they leave the house. But because, um, the father's influence is one of those influence that is still felt whether he's there or not. Yes, you are, you are saying something. And of all the names that God has, it is only the name Father I share with man. And if, if he did that, is a testament to the importance of it, of that. And the reason why it's so passionate for me is, first of all, I didn't grow up with my father. So how do you tell me to do what I never had? But if not me, who else? Who else?

You saw the effect firsthand.

In fact, it was so bad that I thought, uh, because I grew up with my mother and I grew up with my sisters, my mindset was that women should do things for men.

Oh really?

Yeah.

Wow.

That's all. That's the only image I saw. They were doing everything and they were doing everything out of care and love, but it was leaving a hole in my heart.

Where you feel that should be a duty?

And I was clueless about it, but when Present Fathers came and God started to spotlight the gaps I had in my life, it was a painful experience, but at the same time it was healing and letting me know that I wasn't alone in this. There were so many people who are struggling with this, who are raising families.

It's a much-needed conversation.

Yes.

Yes.

Fatherhood.

Yes.

I want to take my time when we get to that bridge. And also because we need the input of what you do for men, not just in Canada. And thank God you're a media person. It needs to be noised on the rooftop. You know, and, um, but also minding your time today. I want to really thank you. I want to thank you both for sharing this precious moment with all of us. You didn't have to tell this story. You could have decided not to, um, but only God knows the number of people who have been healed through your story, and then who now find courage to survive their ordeals through your story. So I want to thank you, and I look forward to sharing another precious moment with you in Alberta. I give you my word.

Yes.

So, but before we go, I want you to speak words over the lives of the people. If anyone who is going through stuff, families or a thing, please go ahead.

Um, you know, the truth of the matter is that the family is the strongest unit where lives and destinies are shaped.

Yeah.

And the enemy knows that. If I was the devil, that is where I will attack.

Yeah.

So I want to encourage families going through hardship, especially the first category, husbands and wives. If you have kids and you are going through challenges, the devil is not after you, it's after your seed, because they're the next generation in the move of God. And if you can damage them with a broken home, it's halfway done successfully damaging them. Hold forth, don't let the devil get in between you. I pray that the wisdom of God and the security that comes from the love of God, because the love of God is security, that you allow it to shine the light on where the devil is attacking, and then you can survive it. I feel led to share with you this wisdom me and my wife had, and that is: whenever you have arguments, never let it go into the second day. Yeah, God has used that to save our marriage multiple times because we faced it And the question is, what's more important, the issue or your union?

Hm.

And I also want to pray for the young people watching. I survived a life without my dad, good man as he was, but whatever challenges you have in that area, forgive him and move on. It's for you.

Yeah.

For the men who have low self-esteem, maybe your wife is doing better than you. The truth of the matter is that God has brought your wife to add to your family. The resources that you're enjoying, look at it this way, God is bringing it through her. You are a blessed man. Don't see it as a challenge, don't see it as a competition. No, God has enabled you to be a platform that everything that is upon you, including your wife and your kids they flourish. I pray that God will make your soil flourish so that as they are planted on you, you grow and the fruits are in the multiple.

Amen.

And finally, you've heard our story. We are product of God's love. Yeah, but one thing we do, our secret is that we are connected to service. We came all the way from Calgary to be in the UK to be in an atmosphere, honestly, just to be here.

Interesting.

God does not take those things lightly.

No, he doesn't.

They are credited to you. In the day of trouble, you can go and bring them out as a weapon of defense. God bless you, my wife, and I love you. Apostle, thank you so much for the privilege.

Thank you. There's nothing you can do about it.

Thank you.

God bless you.

Wow, wow. We don't get stories like this all the time, and again, I'm thrilled when I think of the impact this will make, this will have on the lives of those who are hearing. Thank you.

Thank you so much.

Thank you. And to everyone watching, I believe you are as fired up As I am. And, um, you can take this from here: if people can survive this, what can't you survive? There is a God who shows up without making noise. He will show up for you also. Till I come your way again, I look forward to seeing you on another episode of Stories. Don't forget to like, to share, and then just drop comment. Let's know how this has Blessed you, and you know, invite someone to follow the episodes. Love you so much. Bye-bye. And when you got his contact, was there a spark in your mind?

Oh no, it was professional.

It doesn't come across as somebody that—

not at all. It wasn't my spec or anything, and yeah, and it was just professional.

Did you watch Lord of the Rings? No, I did not. The way build a ring back to each— so it was done with your agenda? Honestly, honestly. Today, right in front of us, we have yet another story, one that we will not forget.

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