Femi LazarusCEO at Femi Lazarus Consulting

If you want to know what frustration is in marriage then do this….

24 Jul 2026 · 2 min

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In this short YouTube monologue, Femi Lazarus explains that the clearest way to experience marital frustration is to be partnered with someone he describes as "dull"—a person who offers no intellectual contribution and merely gives empty affirmations like "mm‑hmm" or "wow wow." He uses vivid, sarcastic examples of such shallow communication to illustrate how a smart, intellectually engaged individual can feel stifled. Lazarus then shifts to a broader critique of laziness, sharing an anecdote about a poorly written direct‑message request for help that reveals the sender’s lack of effort and clarity. He argues that laziness benefits no one and even a lazy thief meets a swift end. The segment concludes with a promotional call‑to‑action, urging viewers to download the Femi Lazarus Digital Library app for the full message.

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If you want to know what frustration is in marriage, marry a guy who is dull or a girl who is dull. Anything you say, they just say it's deep. Oh yes, things that requires intellectual contribution, say, mm-hmm, mm-hmm, mm-hmm. What's smelling? They said you should talk, you are doing mm-hmm. Or you start hearing wow wow like ambulance, wow wow. If you are a smart person and you want to know what frustration is, engage, deal with a dull person. Now say my God. Anything, say my God. Wow. Yeah, no intellectual contribution. They've not exercised their minds. Somebody sent me a DM and said, um, hi Apostle, um, there's this project I have, I wanna ask you this. You know, I rarely respond, but I had to open that DM and respond, you wanna? You need money, but you can't even spell your problem. You wanna? Let me say this to you, laziness doesn't benefit anybody in any way. Even a lazy thief will be killed on time. Tell your neighbor, please don't be lazy. Get the full message on Femi Lazarus Digital Library app today.