Femi LazarusCEO at Femi Lazarus Consulting

There are rooms that can change your life. Get into the right rooms and learn even by observation.

8 May 2026 · 2 min

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In this motivational monologue, the speaker explains how to recognize and benefit from being in the "right room" – a setting where the people present are individuals you admire, such as mentors, high‑flyers, or members of privileged gatherings. The core message is that true learning in these environments comes from observation rather than showcasing your own knowledge. By staying quiet, asking concise questions, practicing deliberate pauses, maintaining eye contact, and avoiding phone distractions, you signal that you understand the culture and are ready to absorb insights that most people miss. The speaker stresses that the proof of knowledge is the transformation it brings to your life; you should only contribute when invited, using the 10‑minute interactions to solve problems rather than dominate the conversation. Ultimately, surrounding yourself with people who learn by observation sets you on a path to far‑greater success.

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One of the ways you know you are in the right room is that the people who are gathered there are those you look up to. The right room is usually not— it is not always about colleagues. People most times underestimate it. It could be a mentorship platform, it could be a privileged gathering, and sometimes the conversation may not even be directed towards you or in your direction, but the fact that you are present there to observe what an average person may never see will change the rest of your life forever. I believe that one of the most important learning culture of high flyers is observation. Observation is the invitation to see what may never be said. There are rooms you get into, nobody's— nobody— you are not trying to show knowledge. They know that if truly what you know is true, you should have changed changed your life. So you keep quiet here and learn. The proof that you know what you know is that it has changed your life. So when you find yourself in right quarters, forget your contribution until you are invited. You are here to pick. You have 10 minutes with a person, that 10 minutes could be spent pouring into you, but all the 10 minutes was spent you talking. If what you know could have solved the problem, then you should have solved it. You find yourself in spaces, you ask short questions, you wait for the answers, and And sometimes even when answers are provided, you practice the practice of a pause. When you practice that, it is you drawing the people's depth to say more. Learn to maintain eye contact to show you are following. You're not pressing your phone in the midst of that conversation. As things are said to you, you are practicing the pause to draw for more. They understand that this person understands the culture of this environment. When you find people who learn by observation, you have found the person we's gonna go very far.