Forgiveness & Letting Go: The Power of Wiping the Slate Clean | Beyond Your Default Podcast

Well, I. I can forgive, but I don't have to forget. Yeah, I. Listen, I gotta call bullshit. Like, I just. That's the only way I know how to put it. And I usually don't curse, but I just. I just gotta call it, like. No, no, that's the whole point of forgiving is kind of wiping the slate clean. Forgetting about the historical injustice, loving them for the human that they are. Being able to show up as your best self for them. You're not gonna be able to do that if you put out 99.9% of the flame in your brain and let that 0.1% kindle. Because here's the thing that I know about. Even the smallest of flames, it can fuel up in seconds. So the next time you've let that little 0.1% sit in your brain and they do the smallest of things that shouldn't make you feel or do any certain sort of way, all sudden there's a damn forest fire in your brain again. And it's because that spark took fire because you didn't extinguish it completely out of the brain. Now, where I will go is that this doesn't mean that you allow to put yourself in the same circumstances that caused the initial interaction or grievance that happened. So you do learn a lesson. But the lesson doesn't have anything to do with the forgetting or forgiveness of the thing that taught you the lesson.