True Forgiveness: The Power of Letting Go | Beyond Your Default Podcast

You can say, oh, I forgive them, or I forgive myself. But if it happens to be temporary, like then next week, all of a sudden you're beating yourself over the head again. It's not forgiveness if it's conditional. If I don't ever do it again, if they don't ever do it, that's not forgiveness. Past is ongoing, motivated by fear or anger. Is anywhere in that conversation fake forgiveness, not really doing the thing that you need your brain to do for it to be forgiveness. True forgiveness, if we think about this, it's permanent, it's unconditional. Your state or you state the past is over. It inspired or it was inspired by love. And it does take time to. To reach this true level of forgiveness. And again, I love Oprah because on this slide, there's a quote from her that says, true forgiveness is when you can say thank you for that experience. I call back to the whole thing that I said about my math teacher. For years and years and years, I wanted to punch him in the face. Then I wanted to go back and say thank you.