Simon Sinek tells us the simple question to ask your friends

Find a friend you love and who loves you and ask them the simple question, why are we friends? What specifically is it about me that I know you'd be there for me no matter what they're gonna like, I don't know I can count on you. You're always there for me. And you have to play devil's advocate. Good. That's the definition of a friend. What specifically is it about me that I know you'd be there for me no matter what. And you're gonna go through a few rounds of this. They're gonna hate you, and eventually they'll give up. And eventually they'll start describing themselves. And this is what my friend said to me. My friend said, look, Simon, I don't know. All I know is I can sit in a room with you, I don't even have to talk to you, and I feel inspired. And I got goosebumps. Because what they do is they articulate the value you have in their lives, which is your why. And it's the thing you give to the world. That's why you had the emotional response, because it tapped something deep inside you. And that's when you know you're there, which is you'll either get goosebumps or you'll well up with tears or whatever it is. You'll have an emotional response to something they describe in themselves. Because the thing you give to the world, your why, is the value that people take from you.