The 7 Princess Wounds: Part 6

You know, none of us get through childhood without some bumps and bruises along the way, right? Well, we can either heal from those bumps and bruises or we can continue to stay stuck. And that's what we're doing throughout this entire series Inside Mom Master University called the Seven Princess Wounds. It's healing from that wound you didn't even realize you had to become the queen that God designed you to be. And today we're, we're going down under the sea to discover the wound of injustice. So hold on tight, take a deep breath, and let's dive right in. Welcome to Mom Mastery University. The education every mom should have had, but didn't. I'm Hannah Keeley, America's number one mom coach. And class is now in session. Hello there, Master mom, and welcome back to Mom Master University. We are not just knee deep, not just thigh deep, we're about like shoulder high, right in this series called the Seven Princess Wounds. Now, I hope you have been able to watch or listen to all of the other parts. This is a seven part series and we're in part six now. Now, if you haven't listened to the previous ones, don't go anywhere. Stay here. Because I have a feeling God has led you here for such a time as this to maybe discover something about yourself, about your childhood, about where he wants to lead you in the future. So stay here, but definitely go back and listen to the other parts. I think it's going to be really, it's going to serve you really well. So today we're talking about the wound of injustice and we are going under the sea to discuss Ariel, the only princess who is a mermaid. Now, this is an age old tale and it's all about. Well, you probably already know Little Mermaid, right? But this wound of injustice is where we grow up with a certain set of beliefs and standards. And we have such a hard time developing flexibility to go beyond that. So let's go ahead and start it off with a story. So once upon a time, there was a mermaid princess who made her home in the sea. She was the daughter of a king who ruled the entire ocean kingdom. She was allowed full reign of all the waters with but one. She was to never engage with the ruthless and unrefined human people. She was perfectly happy with the arrangement until the fateful day that she emerged from the waters and took her first breath of air. She saw the world differently, she felt differently. And she realized that humans weren't the horrid creatures her father had taught her they were. Would she retreat back to the safety of the water or embrace this new species against her father's command. Yeah, we're talking about the Little Mermaid. You know what I'm talking about. We've all seen the movie. We've all enjoyed those mermaid fantasies, right, of being a princess living underwater. You know, if you think about it, how did they look so good? How did their hair stay so beautiful? Like, I don't know if any of us could ever pass as a mermaid, right? And then they would come out of the water and their hair still looked good. How did that happen? Anyway, I digress. We're talking about the wound of injustice. And. And this is what Ariel is showing us today. So Ariel, the mermaid princess. She was the daughter of Triton, the ruler of the seas, right? And of course, Triton, he held some bias. He was very prejudice against humans because of his past experience and exposure. You see, we always go into experiencing exposure as the first step in this process. But we have to understand, our parents also went through their own experience and their own exposure. So the experience that he had had with humans was not very beneficial to adopting a good attitude toward them. As a matter of fact, it was. He had in his mind that they're horrible people. They're ruthless. They take over the seas. They're. They're terrible. They're bloodthirsty, right? That's what he learned from his experience. Now, our brain is always doing three things. It's deleting, it's distorting, and. Okay, now our brain is always doing three things. It's deleting, it's distorting, and it's generalizing. So the way we see the world is not always the way the world is. It's the way that. Well, it's just the way that we see it. So some people can look at a glass and, you know, the whole. It's half full, it's half empty. It all is a matter of perspective. But when we experience certain things in life, when we're exposed to certain things, what happens is our brain starts generalizing. Now, this is with. If you're talking about King Triton, his experience, he began to generalize. Well, this is my experience I've had with humans. Therefore, all humans are like this, right? It could be deleting. It could be like, okay, any information I have out there that says humans are good, I'm gonna delete that because it really doesn't match my perception right now. Also distorting. Maybe the experience that he had with humans was not really that bad, but he had to really give himself evidence of this belief that humans are bad. So he made it in his mind, much bigger and more horrible than it actually was. Now that's just explaining a few things that how the brain processes information. Now, as moms, we kind of do this. An overload, right? We're always. Our brain is trying to operate so fast because we're trying to make sure, you know, we always have that open cognitive field, and we're trying to, like, get all the information around us. And that's just how the mom brain operates. So we're processing really quickly, and we don't even realize how we came to the beliefs we have. Now. Think about this. If you have this wound of injustice, usually that means you grew up with parents or caretakers or in a community that holds certain bias or prejudice or is deleting information that. That may be helpful to change their perspective, or they're distorting what reality really is to reinforce their perspective or. Or they're generalizing. Everyone is like this. So imagine if you grew up with. In a household that was racist, you learned like, you know, this is how all these people are all the time. They act like that, generalizing. We're deleting things that are helpful information to adopt a better perspective. We don't even take that in. And also we're again, just changing information to fit what we believe. This is called injustice because justice means it's fair. We're allowing equal opportunity for everyone. Everyone is a child of the most high God, and that's what justice looks like. Injustice comes through when parents or who you grow up with has a very narrow belief system. And. And it comes across as not being. Just not being fair. It's the wound of injustice. This wasn't really fair that I grew up with this perspective. This wasn't really fair how I was taught. It wasn't open, it wasn't flexible. It wasn't resilient to things. It wasn't. It wasn't receiving other information that was out there. I was given a very. I want to say. I don't want to say like narrow, but I want to say very specific rule of conduct. Here's how people like me and you are. Here's what people like me and you believe. Think about this. I've done a lot of work with people who are church hurt. They have come through with a lot of. A lot of religious trauma around their church's belief system. So a church may be like, this is how you have to believe. This is how we believe. And if you want to be part of us. You believe this way too. Have you ever seen that in your church? Or maybe it was like a certain political party maybe Grew up, you grew up in a very conservative household. And it's like all of these people think about it. Deleting information, distorting information, generalizing information. All of these people who are not conservative, all of them are wrong, they are idiots, then nothing makes sense for them. They're evidently deficient somehow. Same way when you, when you grew up in a very liberal household, you may have an attitude. All these conservative people, they're so, they're so like, they're just like tight fisted. They're narrow minded, they're not taking it, they're not open, they're not resilient. They're old fogies. Like you probably have this idea around a certain political party or a certain religion or maybe denomination or a certain race of people. It may even be sexist. So you may have grown up in a household where women do this and men do this. And all of a sudden when you started branching out in a, you know, with different attitudes, with different pursuits, it could be like, that's really not how we do it. If you want to fit in with our way, then you need to change. This is why it's called the wound of injustice. It seems in, in just to operate like that because you're not really being open minded, you're being very narrow minded. So when we understand this, we have to know what happens in us. So let's go into that experience and exposure is you grew up with a very strong belief system, right? Closed to other beliefs or other ways of operating or other standards of living. Also, you grew up in a very non tolerant household. This is how we believe. Everyone else is an idiot. No, everyone else is wrong. We're right. Everyone else is wrong. This basically sums up this wound of injustice. And the hard thing about growing up as a child in this is you're constantly reinforced that our way is the right way. And when you adopt that mentality and you voice that mentality or you side with that mentality, you're reinforced for that. You're, you're like reinforced for reinforcing their mentality. So if you like echo their thoughts, if it comes out of your mouth, if you're, if you side with them, if you, you know, then you're reinforced for it. Yeah, that's right. That's the way to believe and you're part of us. And there you go, kid. Now of course I am generalizing all of this as well. So you have to understand that we're always doing one of those three things. Deleting, distorting, or generalizing. And this is one area, this wound of adjustments where we see that almost like it's. It's just so picture perfect how we can see this operating in our brain. Now, when you grow up with that type of doctrine, you have a core belief that I'm right. It's almost like a twofold core belief. I'm right and I can't be wrong. So that's that. You know, a belief usually has two sides. Everything has two sides to it. I'm right. And also with that, I can't be wrong. Now think about how that will show up in your life. When you face things that are contrary to how you believe or how you know how to operate, all of a sudden you're not open to it. You're very. You're not resilient, not. You're not flexible. It's like, no, no, no, no. I've got to be right. I've got to be right. I've got to be right. And all of a sudden, sometimes your way doesn't always work. And now it creates a resistance. But I can't be wrong. So do you see how I'm right can lead you on a narrow path, and I can't be wrong, can lead you to frustration, anger, and almost grief that your way may not be the right way, but you can't be wrong. So there are no other options, right? So think about this. Let's put it into the faith formula. Why don't we do that? Because that's step number three. So the faith formula. We know this is how everything inside Mom Master University. This is how we do all of our stuff is based upon Romans 12:2, that we don't conform to the pattern of this world. The pattern of this world is always trying to change their behavior. That doesn't always work. What we do is we change our belief because we don't conform to the pattern of this world. We are transformed by the renewing of our mind so we can test and prove what God's will is. His good, pleasing, perfect will. So what does this look like? If you're talking about the wind of justice. So let's take Ariel here, okay? Think about her. Her whole theory, way of living is we are right mermaids, we're the right species. Humans are bad. They're all bad. I need to stay away from them. We need to battle them. We don't allow them space. We don't allow them in our terrain. We have our world, they have their world. So this thought, I'm right and I can't be wrong. How does that feel? Well, think about it. Your defenses are up because you hold on to this as your identity. You hold on to this belief system as really part of who you are, right? So it means you. You feel, like, tight. You may feel angry. There's like a hardening, right. Of your attitude. There's a hardening of your perspective. And that shows up as that stiffness, that tightness, that you're not resilient, you're not flexible. Now, how does this show up in your body? Think about it. A lot of people with this wound of injustice, they've grown up as, like, being taught their whole childhood, this is the only way you should be. Everyone else is wrong. Well, what happens when you're exposed to something that goes against that? Well, I was raised very conservative, but then I talk with, like, this person who is very liberal and what they say makes sense. I'm kind of understanding. And now it's like, oh, wait a minute, now what happens to my whole identity? Now it comes crashing to the floor, right? So what we do, I mean, one of the symptoms that comes up with that rigidity in your belief is bone issues, because that's our. That's the rigid core of our existence. So you'll sometimes have hardening of the arteries, bone issues, because that, that assist, acidity is starting to, like, break down on the bones and your structure is starting to crumble. Think about it when you're exposed to something, like when the Little Mermaid was exposed to Prince Eric, I think that was his name, right? When she was exposed to Prince Eric, all of a sudden it's like, wait, this old belief system is starting to crumble a little bit. And now I'm so confused. So are my parents right? Are they right? I'm confused. And so sometimes we will hold on to that belief so hard that there's rigidity in our bone structure. And, and we do have problems like aches and pains in our. In our skeletal system or hardening of our arteries and sometimes acidity, which, like, you know, you can have, like, acid indigestions, that kind of thing, because you have a hard time digesting other beliefs that are not your own. Now what does this make us do, feeling that tightness? What will we do? We will always look for evidence to support our belief. Think about it. What you scroll and look at on your account, on your social media account, whether it's Instagram or whatever, or tick tock, whatever you are used to seeing pop up, you can see. That's, that's what I believe because I like things, right? Instagram, social media, like, social media knows you better than you know you. I will say this because they're looking at the things that you like. They're looking at your viewing time. How long do you stay on something? If you're seeing like a press conference and it's very conservative or it's very liberal, it'll see how long you're staying on that to listen to it. And if you're liking things that go along with this certain viewpoint and they'll start showing you more and more and more of that. So, for example, one area that I'm very passionate about is to stop the mutilation of children according, to like gender identity. I'm very much like, opposed to pushing a belief on children and then doing gender affirming, if you want to call it. See how I did that? Like, I'm even showing you my belief system. Like, I'm like, that's stupid, right? I just showed you by my, by doing the quotes, like looking at myself right now. Look how I am developing like that rigidity around my belief. But I'm just so opposed to putting a belief. And if some, like, they'll like taking girls who have tomboy personalities and now, oh, you must be a boy, or taking boys with like feminine personalities and oh, you must be a girl and indoctrinating them and then leading them to medical procedures that could hurt them for the rest of their life. So I'm very opposed to that. Now you see this showing up in my feed all the time, right? I'm like, all these different accounts and other accounts find my account and then they're finding this account and they're all related. It's like, oh my gosh, this is happening with the school system and I'm, I'm following it. So you can tell my belief system by what is being shown to me inside of social media. So this is, this is what we do, our actions is to gravitate towards communities or look for evidence that supports our belief system so we can know, Yep, I'm right. Which goes back to the thought. Do you see the faith formula? It goes all the way back to the thought. So the thought is, I'm right and I can't be wrong about this. And so when we hold that on again, it can lead through this whole how you feel becomes what you do becomes what you have. Now what do you have As a result of this, you have safety in a community of like minded people. But you also have a limited community of, of people because it only, you only will surround yourself with people who believe what you believe because your brain doesn't like to feel threatened. Once your brain has a belief, it's like, good, I, I can operate in this efficiently, it'll support me. I can operate in this. When you're faced with contrary information, your brain has to work too hard to process this and open up different beliefs. And that's just too hard. And your brain is resistant to that. So what we will have is often like minded communities, but limited communities. And we don't go out there, we don't try new things or, or hang out with different people or, or maintain flexibility. And I was talking with someone this morning about this. The brain does not age. The brain merely stops being active. So understand this. What if you kept on feeding your brain new concepts, new ideas, you didn't shut things off, but you were more open to that. And so that's kind of how we heal from this wound of injustice. But first we have to elegantly blame it. That's step number four. So we have to think, what if this wound of injustice, it gave me a foundation of belief, okay, so it did serve me in some way. It gave me a foundation of belief, it gave me identity, it gave me like minded people, it gave me community support. But also, what if this wound of injustice is allowing me to intentionally work on developing compassion and flexibility? Now compassion and flexibility is not always something we'll intentionally choose. We don't wake up in the morning and say, I'm going to work on being more compassionate or I'm going to work on my brain being more flexible and more open. We don't see that. We're only faced with situations where we're like, well, I gotta learn how to be compassionate, I guess, or okay, well, I gotta learn how to be more flexible. We almost have to face a situation that does not have compassion or does not have flexibility so that we can operate in that. So knowing that once we can realize, I can elegantly blame it for giving me a reason to intentionally work on being more open minded. Like what a beautiful opportunity. And what if your parents or your community or you know, where you grew up, your, your church or like whatever that was that had that doctrine that, that was, I want, I don't ever want to say forced upon you, but that doctrine that was shared with you, that you adopted as your own, what if they were doing the best they can. And what if they were trying to find their identity? What if they were trying to find their place in the world and the only way they could do that was this set of beliefs, this belief system that they allowed you to adopt. Is that okay? 100%? Of course it is. Everyone's trying to do the best they can with what they got. So if we know that, you know what, this is just a beautiful opportunity to practice compassion and flexibility. Now we get to be more intentional with it. Now that leads us to number five, which is forgiveness. Now, again, if you are not inside Mom Master University, this is when I'm going to say, what? Why are you not Mom? Master University is a university full of moms who are doing so such amazing work around their mind, around their body, around their spirit. And we are just growing, growing together. Now, one thing we are doing inside Mom Master University, we have an entire workbook that goes along with this entire series and inside that work, but we also do extended work inside Mom Master University. So I want you to look in your workbook if you're inside Mom Master University, and there's a beautiful prayer there. And forgiveness is something that we don't ever have to feel like doing, and it doesn't always have to feel natural. We do this because we're obedient and God told us to forgive. So this is a thing where, like, if you grew up and you felt like your parents or your community was very inflexible, this is where you can love them, see them for the flawed people that we all are, Right? And forgive them for doing what they didn't even realize they were doing. They thought they were just, like, helping you believe what they believe that helps them through life. They didn't know they were indoctrinating you with a certain belief system that maybe limited you in some way. So this is why sometimes we'll forgive someone and then like a week later we're like, see him? And we're kind of angry all over again. We're like, oh, man, I thought I forgave them. Yes, you did forgive them. Those feelings are just echoes of that wound of injustice that was previously put in there. So it's just echoes. Echoes doesn't mean it's real, really there. It's just kind of. It used to be there. So we can allow forgiveness and then move into it with our emotions as it proceeds. We don't force it. We forgive and they will. Then we allow that decision to take root, and eventually it will result in our feelings. So where do we Go from this, we go to step number two, which is the lie to truth bridge. This is where the princess and the queen, they kind of need to have a powwow together, right? Like, they need to sit together, share opinions, grow from each other. So the queen needs to understand from the princess's point of view, oh, here's how you came to this belief. And I can love you in that space and I can understand you. And this is where the princess needs to listen to the queen. And the queen will say, I have a different truth for you that I want to help you understand. So this is a bridge. This is why it's called the lie to truth bridge. Because once we have held onto a lie and we realize, wait, that has limited us in some way, and then we adopt a truth. It doesn't always change overnight. Sometimes it does. Sometimes it changes in that moment. You get a truth about something. Wait a minute. No, I can be loved now. I don't have to, like, hold back from that. And sometimes it is an instant change, but usually it's a bridge. We have to go from the lie to the truth and have to work the lie out of our mind while we work the truth into our mind so that they can now take root in our soul. So what does this look like? Well, the lie is I'm right and I can't be wrong. Here's the truth. I can be open. What about that? I can be open. See that princess? That's all she knew, right? That's all she knew, was this is a way of believing all humans are bad, being a mermaid is the right thing and everyone else is wrong. That's all she knew until that day when she had a different experience with a human. So what if we have the idea that I can be open? I know that God is leading me. I know I have the mind of Christ, and I know that I can see situations for what they really are through the eyes of Jesus. And I don't need to adopt an opinion just because I need to feel safe. I can discover what my opinions are if I can be open to other information and really look at it through a filtering system of the Holy Spirit. So I'm going to read this. This is Ephesians 4,32. And this is where we're getting our truth from, because we always have to get our truth from truth with a capital T, which is the word of God. So check this out. It says, become useful and helpful and kind to one another. Tenderhearted, compassionate, understanding, loving hearted, forgiving one another readily and Freely as God in Christ forgave you. So my question is this. What if you could just preemptively forgive people? Because what we do, when we have this wound of injustice and we hold on to a narrow belief system, we're actually incriminating some. Someone preemptively. We're saying this person is guilty of something even before I know them. That's prejudice. Pre judging someone. So we have prejudge someone because of their religion, because of their race, because of their gender, because of how they look, because of who they hang out with, because of whatever. We just take these variables and we create a prejudgment around them. And with this narrow mind, this indoctrination of injustice, it's almost like pre incriminating them. They're a criminal before I even know them. So what if we could just do the reverse? And what if we could forgive before we don't? Even before we even know them into that relationship? It's like, you can't wrong me in any way because I've already forgiven you. That way, if there is a wrong, it's already forgiven. If there's not any wrong, you're all. You're just open anyway. So you can't go wrong with just pre forgiving every single person you come in contact with, right? So think about these words in here. Think about the indoctrination, the injustice, that narrow belief system that if you suffer from the wound of injustice, you had to go through maybe in your church setting or in your family setting or political setting or whatever that looks like, right? So think about these words. Kindness, tender hearted, compassionate, understanding, loving hearted, forgiving readily and freely. Do you see how those words truly show the character of God? So what if we can heal from this wound by adopting more of the character of God than the characters? Like the character of our. Of our spiritual family instead of our physical family. Right? The spiritual church instead of the physical church. What if we could heal from this by just being open and seeing people and operating with compassion? Exactly how our Heavenly Father does. So let's put this into the new faith formula. What's our thought? I am open. I am open. You can even add some of those words like I'm compassionate, I'm understanding. I'm kind hearted, I'm tender hearted. I preemptively forgive everyone. What if you could think that thought? Well, how does that feel? It feels open. You feel expansive. You're not so rigid and tight and inflexible. You're open. You can engage more with people and you can Engage with more people right now. How does this. What happens? What. What do you do? You start to build relationships. You start to build bridges instead of walls. And then what you have as a result, you have community. You have community. But this basically fills one of your core needs of connection and belonging. See, we can feel connection belonging by belonging to a strict ideology, or we can feel connection and belonging by being open to a world of people with different opinions and different viewpoints and different perspectives and different things that they can teach us. Being open. And you know what? I've got to just add this. One of those beautiful communities I've ever seen. It's diverse, open, it's sharing opinions and not operating without judgment. Is Mom Master University. I love that sort. And yes, I may be discriminating right there, but I love the sorority of sisters that we have inside Mom Master University. If you're not in, I want to invite you to come in. Now, let's wrap up the story. Okay. Take a deep breath, princess. Feel the grass under your feet and the wind in your hair. You no longer need to confine yourself to the water. You are given freedom and license to make the world your own. Allow compassion and kindness to course through your veins. You are never confined by your friends. You just didn't realize you could put feet to your dreams as well. The whole universe is yours, because your true king resides over all now. You can become the queen you were destined to be and live happily ever after. Thank you so much for hanging out with me here inside Mom Master University. And remember, go inside MMU and do the extended work. It does not stop here. We got work to do. So make sure you listen or watch the extended. Extended work around this part. The wound of injustice inside Mom Master University. I'll see you there. So what about you, Mama? Are you ready to enroll in the only school that will not only change your life, but also your legacy? Go to Mom Mastery University, where we dive deep into the biblical principles that give ordinary moms extraordinary results. Get enrolled today.