Hinesh Chauhan delivers a personal monologue about his parenting philosophy, arguing that kindness and gentleness are strengths—not weaknesses—and outlining goals like building empathy, resilience, resourcefulness, and critical thinking in children. He contrasts his approach with a stricter, "old school" upbringing, notes he has never spanked his children, and emphasizes creating trust and structure while avoiding harsh physical discipline.
Questions this video answers
No — "I've never spanked my kids."
Chapters
You know, I grew up with a very different style of parenting and what I practice could be considered as weakness, but it's not weakness. It's caring. It's helping your kids develop that strength and empathy by seeing that you're trying to be compassionate, you're trying to be empathetic, you're trying to understand where they're coming from. Because after all this, you don't get a guidebook or a handbook on how to operate your child right. Okay, you know what? After this agent needs this type of maintenance, you got to do this. You have to order these parts. Just doesn't work that way. You get flung into parenthood and you try to do the best you can right? With and try to damage your kid in. Damage your kid in the best way. Try to at least damage your child. How do you even phrase that properly? Try to not F up your kid. Right? That's it. And being kind and gentle isn't a weakness. It's. It's being compassionate. It's offering them that empathy and that respect to be able to develop them and guide them and create that resilience. So it's about creating the trust. And I feel if you came from a childhood where it was very strict and that old school method of parenting where, you know, even me before having kids thought, you know, what's wrong with the world today? What's wrong with the world today is that kids aren't beat by their parents. I was beat. I turned out great. I like to think so. I thought that was the answer. I've never spanked my kids. I really thought I would spank my kids. There's been no need. And I think they're high functioning humans and I actually think that at times they need to parent me. But shit, I've said this publicly, they've heard that does not apply to you kids. This is strictly for my social media for whatever outcomes I'm trying to achieve through this, which are still unclear to me. Not true. I digress. Being kind, being gentle, being uber patient with your kids is really what we need to do. They need structure. There are times when we need to, you know, drop the hammer on them. But just because we're you, our kids being raised in a different way, then maybe we grew up, doesn't mean it's weak. It's different. And really it's about teaching that empathy and it's not about creating weakness because you can strengthen them in other ways. And we'll talk about all the factors, like I said, the resourcefulness, resilience, empathy and critical thinking. The resilience. That resilience piece can be developed in other ways. More on that. Be kind.
