Hinesh Chauhan argues that mothers typically keep most childcare and housework even after returning to work, creating resentment that drives many women to initiate divorce. He explores why rebalancing these duties is so hard, from continuity of care to control over how things get done.
So part whatever of these videos I'm doing, 70% of women initiate divorce. So where were we? We're back at mom's at home, had a child, first kid, mom goes back to work, still holds on to some of the responsibilities, or most of the responsibilities she had from staying at home. Dad's out working, comes home, is tired, puts up his feet, has a beer. I'm exaggerating. I know we, we've pulled our weight in different ways, but I'm talking about the general challenges and complaints that wives and moms share at the point of divorce. So then you decide, wait a minute, we're gonna have more kids. This will all blow over, right? Everything's gonna balance itself out. So child number two or more comes along, Mom's back at home with the child or kids and doing all the things related to child rearing and the domestic responsibilities with taking care of those kids. Fast forward a few years. Mom's taking care of doctor appointments, taking care of lunches, taking care of laundry, taking care of parent teacher interviews, making sure the kids have what they need for school and so on. Then mom goes back to work. Is there a rebalancing of responsibilities between the mom and dad? Generally, no. Now, there are also factors that I've seen where there are, call it convenience or control, where the parent that was staying at home, the moms hold on to those responsibilities and don't want to give it up because they have the continuity, they know the history of their kids, they have the health cards and so forth. However, that imbalance of responsibility needs to be balanced out in other ways. More on this.
