A short YouTube clip by Hinesh Chauhan offering direct co-parenting communication advice: answer simple questions plainly, avoid engaging with disrespectful or sarcastic messages, set boundaries by refusing to respond to disrespect, and always evaluate actions/words by whether they benefit the children.
My ex mother in law called me a sarcastic. I mean, she's not wrong. Was that warranted? Probably not, but she wasn't wrong. Don't be that guy. In texting your, your ex wife, if she asks a question, just answer it as you would want them to answer you. And when it comes to any heated message, if it's disrespectful, just put a line in the sand and express that you don't appreciate being communicated in that manner and you won't provide a response or entertain any communication in that way. So essentially you're doing a little Pavlovian action here and training your ex wife on how to respond and how to communicate with you. And the same goes for you. If you get a response, if there may be any sort of tone in it, dismiss it. Look at what that message is really after. Is it, does little Abdul have his math book? Yes, he does. And the message comes across as, I hope you didn't forget Abdul's math book. Yes, he's got it. We're okay here. That's it, that's it. Don't engage in negativity. It doesn't serve you, it doesn't serve her, and it definitely sure as fuck does not serve your kids. There is no benefit to taking the bait, nor is there benefit to poking the bear. Nothing good is going to come from it. And at the end of the day, if you're wondering, this would be fun. Yeah, it could be. It could be. But is it going to benefit your kids? What decisions benefit your kids? What actions benefit your kids? Kids. What thoughts benefit your kids? What words benefit your kids? Keep that in mind in every single action and every single step you take, in every single text you send, what's best for your kids.
