Hinesh Chauhan walks through what divorced dads need to learn when they're not the primary caregiver: morning routines, insurance details, school contacts, comfort items. He normalizes the struggle of picking up these tasks and calls for empathy between parents.
So what happens when most dads get told that their marriage is over where they're not the primary caregiver? There is a bit of a learning curve to climb up. There is. How do I do this with them? What's their morning routine? I have to get them dressed, I have to take them here, I have to do this. Where's their health card? Where's their insurance information? Which teacher do they have? What do I call? Who do I call? Who do I message when they're sick? What do they need? Where's their little stuffy. All these things that weren't in their day to day responsibilities and it's not a bad thing. That's the reality. If you're not killing spiders and pulling out slimy hair from drains all the time, is that something you're going to be good at? Dear moms, wives etc, who now live on their own. You don't have someone to do that for you. Not that I'm saying that's all men do, but it's just an example that I hear many women say I have a spider. E help. Ew. What do I do? My drain slow. I need someone to help it. It's your hair. Guess what? I don't have that problem anymore. That's a lie. I have a daughter. At least in my bathroom, no issues. So what happens? Dads have a hard time in this space. They have a hard time adjusting to now. Having to take care of their amazing little people and be responsible for everything when the kids are with them. Yeah, that's a bit difficult.
