A short YouTube advice clip by Hinesh Chauhan about co-parenting communication after separation. Chauhan urges caregivers to imagine the other parent’s perspective, treat routine check-in messages as genuine questions rather than criticism, and respond factually and without emotion, using concrete examples (e.g., forgetting a swimsuit) to normalize small parenting mistakes.
You. Now I want you to start thinking about what the other party feels like. So your ex wife, who had probably control, oversight, the responsibility over the kids for everything, now no longer has them under her nose or is aware of what they're doing, where they are for maybe 50% plus or minus a whole bunch. So you're going to get messages that are curious and it's not because they're trying to micromanage you. It's not because they're trying to be critical. They're trying to understand what's happening with their child or children in the moment. How are they eating, are they safe? Are they okay? Knowing that you may not have all the know how or be familiar with the routine, as familiar as they are. So take it at face value. Do not read into text, do not assume tone, do not assume any sort of negativity from it. Just take it at face value, for it is a question. I'm going to answer it without any emotion and answer objectively without any attitude. Yes, the kids had this for lunch. Yes, they went to bed. You know what I forgot? Little Johnny, little Abdul's bathing suit for swim lessons. So he went in his underwear. He didn't seem to care. And he wasn't the only kid there because guess what? We all forget stuff for our kids. And who cares? These are little people that poop their pants. If swimming in your underwear is a problem, I think that they need be, maybe need to have a little reality check. So take a deep breath, never ever react to those messages. Coming up next.
