A short YouTube talk by Hinesh Chauhan arguing that humility and self-awareness are the two most important traits for successful leaders and for fathers who are co-parenting after divorce. He advises divorced parents—especially dads—to ask for help, lean on each other, and support their ex-partners because cooperation benefits their children.
So whether it's with divorce coaching or in my management consulting practice, there are two characteristics that make or break a person, really, if you want to be successful as a leader. I've found that these two attributes are by far the most important in everyone I've worked with, everyone that's worked for me, anyone I've worked with or for. And in the businesses I serve now, it's easier to work with the senior leaders or the business owners I work with when they are humble and self aware. Those two characteristics are so valuable. So with dads, dads, the same goes when all of a sudden you're out on your own with your little kids and you no longer have that partner supporting you that would have been the primary caregiver. Those who are humble, they don't know what they don't know and they're self aware to know that they're challenged in these areas and can reach out to their ex partner and say, I don't know this, what do they need for this or that? And it's okay to ask. You don't need to have ego for that. It's all but your kids, right? And the same goes for your ex partner, your ex wife calling you or messaging you asking for help in something. It behooves you to support them because ultimately the better off the two of you are, the better you can parent. So if she needs to help you, she should support you. And if you need to help her, you should support her. You didn't do everything within your relationship, she didn't do everything within your relationship. So it's only natural that both of you do not have all the answers. Lean on each other. You're still family. You may not be married to each other anymore, but you're still family. You're still family.
