Hinesh Chauhan frames discipline as a collaborative journey between parents and children: a process of mutual understanding where rules (for example, a curfew) are framed as privileges and opportunities to learn responsibility. The speaker emphasizes open communication about expectations, consequences, and the reasons behind rules, with the overarching parenting goal of raising resourceful, resilient, empathetic critical thinkers.
Okay, the time's come. We're here again to talk about discipline, because another thought came to me right after I finished recording and really that it's. It's a journey for both you as a parent and the child. Right. It's a collaborative process. You're trying to develop a relationship where you each understand each other. They understand that you're looking out for their benefit. And like I said, everything I do is to raise resourceful, resilient, empathetic critical thinkers. Those. That's the foundation of all my decision making and what I explained to my kids now that they're old enough to understand that and for your child to also be able to understand their journey, their boundaries, and the impact of their decisions. And it's not just because these are the rules. You have to follow them well, in the example of staying out late past a certain time that was mutually agreed upon is that it's a privilege for you to grow out that late. And for me, I want to go to bed, maybe because I'm old, I'm like, you know, I need my beauty rest. Right? I do need it. That's what it is. And so having a conversation on. On this is what we agreed to. This is what happened. How you broke it, how you didn't follow it, you didn't respect my rules, you didn't communicate it to me, you didn't manage my expectations, and perhaps you had me worried. So there's a lot of factors that go with coming home late. It's not just coming home late. And the journey is to be able to communicate that the journey is growing together and realizing as a child that, oh, my dad, my mom's looking out for me. And this is why they told me I needed to be home at this point and for the child to recognize and for you to recognize in the child that they're also trying to figure this out. Right? They don't know this. For us, it's like, yeah, well, they should know better. Well, they don't know better. They don't. And especially if you've got a boy, if you've got a girl, they understand it in different ways. And I'm lucky to have each of those because I'm watching them sometimes. Deep breaths, deep breaths.
