A short YouTube monologue by Hinesh Chauhan on sibling relationships and how parents can supervise conflict so children learn to communicate, negotiate, and compromise. Chauhan observes that sibling conflict is natural (especially with close age gaps), recommends letting kids 'sort it out' under supervision with no hitting and guided talking, and shares a practical tie-breaker his children use (having the parent pick a number between 1 and 10) when dividing chores.
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Siblings will butt heads, they'll fight, they'll argue. That's the nature of being siblings. And the closer you are in age, the more conflict arises, and you don't really appreciate your sibling fully until you're probably into your 20s, at least after high school, regardless of age gaps. That's what I've observed. Tell me if you feel that's different. Maybe you don't like your sibling and you're in your 40s, 30s, whatever, but conflict arises. And as my kids went through conflict over the years, something I did was just tell them to sort it out. And I observed them. I wouldn't let it get out of hand. Idea was no hitting, but to talk it out. And over time, they've really developed a way to communicate what they're, what they're facing, what they're feeling, what they don't like, how it is just rubbing them the wrong way and sorting it out. And now when I intentionally give them combined chores to do their process to divide the labor or decide on things is to get me to pick a number between 1 and 10. So that's become their default method. But over the years, they've learned to communicate, to debate, to negotiate, to compromise. So I highly recommend that is get your kids to sort it out, supervised, on their own.
