Hinesh Chauhan (speaker) advises people separating from their spouse to stop fighting and to compartmentalize financial/asset division as transactional while prioritizing healthy co-parenting. He emphasizes removing emotion from negotiations, focusing on long-term best outcomes for children, communicating with extended family (grandparents) that family relationships continue, and setting practical boundaries (e.g., only interacting at children's events) while collaborating for the kids' sake.
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Thing, the next thing is stop trying to fight it. Stop trying to fight your children's mother. There's, there's the division of assets and all those financial aspects. There has to be a drive to remove emotion from, from that and compartmentalize it as simply something transactional. But there's got to be a prioritization of developing a healthy co parenting relationship and coming together to make the best decisions and, and have a lens to, to look at the best outcomes for your kids in the long run and focus on that. And the same goes for family in laws, extended family, they're part of the, the community, the village to help your kids. And there has to be a message to, to your parents to hurt her parents that just because we're splitting up it doesn't mean we're still not a family. She is still the mother of my children. I'm still the father of these kids, your grandchildren. And we need to come together to be able to navigate this and still oversee the rearing of our kids. And for example, my, my parents, our parents, the grandparents, my kids, grandparents spend time together. I don't hang out with my, my ex wife unless you know, we're at an event for my kids. And I wouldn't say we're good, we're friends but we definitely communicate well and we come together for the kids. At any point we'll sit next to each other. There's no, no, no drama. But it's taken time, time, energy and effort so it's get the support, look at the best long term outcomes for the kids and what's needed to be able to do that. And really it's, it's about healthy co parenting and.
