Jacqueline Snyder argues resilience isn't about never breaking. It's falling apart on Tuesday and showing up Wednesday. The measure isn't how well you hold it together, but how often you get back up, softer and wiser each time.
Most people think resilience means never breaking, and it doesn't. Resilience isn't the person who never falls apart. That person truthfully doesn't exist. They're just hiding it better than you. Now, real resilience is breaking and coming back anyways. It's the falling apart on Tuesday and showing up again on Wednesday. And I know you've been holding it all together. You white-knuckled thinking that if you've cracked, you've failed, but you haven't. The cracking is just part of it, and nobody strong got there without coming undone first. The difference isn't that they don't break, it's that they just don't stay broken. They let themselves feel it, then they get back up a little softer, a little wiser, and they keep going. So stop measuring yourself by how you hold it all together and start measuring yourself by how many times you get back up.
