Three people debate what commitment really means. One says fear of commitment is actually fear of being hurt. Another argues that without a clear, labeled partnership and reassurance, the emotional pain keeps building.
I'm afraid of commitment for sure, I'd say. I just feel like I'm being, if I'm in a relationship, I feel like I'm being controlled and limited.
I wanna give you real language. You're not afraid of commitment, you're afraid of being hurt.
Hmm. I'd say so.
You not giving me that commitment hurts me. Do you see that?
But I am committed to you by being with you every day, caring for you, like talking.
And that's great, but I can do that for like, no offense, but I could do that for my cat. Like I can be there for my cat and support my cat. I need you. I need you to give me the validation when I need it. I need you to be my man, my rock, like not just someone I'm with right now.
I feel like I am that, but you just want to put this title on it for everyone else rather than for us.