Karamo coaches two people through a conflict rooted in abandonment fears. When one person shuts down, the other builds walls in response, creating a cycle. Breaking it requires the person who feels abandoned to stay vulnerable instead.
Do you wanna be friends with me? Like, I feel like you're good with us either way. And that's what's just, that's what's concerning to me. That's what hurts me.
Well, that's a bit of my ego because you decided to cut me off. So I built up that defense mechanism to protect my feelings.
I'm glad you said that because it goes to the piece of work that I need you to do. Because when you get triggered about feeling abandoned, you give them the bricks to start building the walls. Your action of not being willing to be vulnerable and open Because you are in your feelings and I understand why. If I have felt no one's gonna support me, of course the minute I feel that sign, I'm gonna put a brick there. But then you can't be mad when he puts a brick on top of that. So what you have to understand right now is that if he gives you an opportunity for y'all to move forward, if you ever get triggered again, you can't be the one to shut down and say, you know what, then I'm done. Because that is only gonna keep you in a cycle where he's always gonna be like, I'm not gonna deal with you.
Okay.
Woo! That came easier than I thought.
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