A boyfriend struggles with his girlfriend's OnlyFans success because he grew up with a traditional breadwinner father. He feels insecure using her card to pay for dates, embarrassed by her public promotion, and jealous when her explicit content goes to other men, even though he helps film it.
Why does it bother you that she makes more money?
It bothers me that she makes more money than me because I grew up in a household where my father was the breadwinner in my family and he worked 2 jobs and my mom would be home cleaning up, cooking, all that stuff. But it's like the roles are reversed here in our relationship. So you stay at home cooking and cleaning? Yeah, I do that too. I don't have a problem with taking care of everything that needs to be done. But it's like I'm just not used to it because at first I was the breadwinner and—
Who pays when you two go out?
I pay, but I be using her card and it's kind of embarrassing for me because it's like I don't be having the money like that all the time. Yeah.
Going back a little bit, she has an OnlyFans. Outside the money, how does that make you feel? And do you play a role in her OnlyFans?
I play a role in her OnlyFans because I take the videos, I come up with video ideas for TikTok or whatever she does. But I have to deal with the emotions of, I have to deal with the emotions of seeing her like that and men like in her DMs like, let me see this, let me see that. And I gotta be the one taking those type of videos. So.
That's interesting. 'Cause I did think about that perspective of like the emotional toll it takes on you to take photos like this. That's not just gonna be shared between you two. Now it's gonna be getting sent to other men. So I wanna focus a little bit on that. What is that emotional toll that it takes on you? Does it make you, how does it make you feel?
Sometimes it makes me feel like insecure because I'm like in my head, like my mind will play games with me. Like, damn, if this guy could get this from her, like what else can they do for her with a little bit more money? But I know that's just my mind. I know she's not that type of person. I would never.
I would never do anything to disrespect that relationship.
Like, she's happy about, you know, she's doing that, but sometimes it plays with me because I'm like, damn, she gotta do this. She has to send these type of photos to different men in order to get that money. And I just get embarrassed sometimes about her posting it. Or when she like promotes her OnlyFans on Instagram, all my friends see it. I don't know who else is watching it.
I just feel like sometimes you need to, like, and I talked to him about this as well, sometimes he just needs to train his mind to be stronger than his emotions. 'Cause at the end of the day, somebody always has something to say about anything anybody's doing. Even if they're doing something good, people have something to say. So it's like—
