Can I Be In A Relationship with A Stripper?! | KARAMO

So tell me about your relationship with Felicia.

Well, Karamo, this has been one of the wildest rides I ever been on in my life. We had a hot steamy relationship, a threesome type relationship going on for like 6, 7 months back then, right? So fast forward, we kind of fell outta touch. About 10 years go by. I done married, had kids, all that. But I'm divorcing at this time when I run back into her. This is actually round about my birthday, which is April 1st, April Fool's Day. I threw a party at a strip club. Actually, I had a nice young lady on my lap at the time when I seen Felicia. When I looked back and I recognized, "Hey, hey, come here." She was back there looking good too, you know?

So you knew when y'all were meeting, you got back together, that she was an adult entertainer?

Well, she wasn't as much back then as she were when I hooked back up. Up with her at this point.

Got it, okay.

This was like in '17, 2017, 2018. So from that point though, when I seen her that night, yeah, she came home with me and really basically since then she ain't left.

So did you have an issue with the fact that she was an exotic dancer, yes or no?

Well, it's a double-edged sword. I respect dancers, but she can't be my woman. That's not who I choose to be with you know, to lay with.

So then why stay with her if you have that boundary? Well, that's your choice.

Let me get back to what she said again. This is her words. Her words. I'm not going nowhere. And she meant that. 5, 6 years has passed by with that being her stance.

I have been— See, when she said that, I took that as she's not going anywhere with you, meaning like she's staying by your side. But you tell me what she's saying is that I'm not giving up exotic dancing.

No, she was saying she not going nowhere. Even she gonna stay dancing and she's still not going nowhere. She not leaving. She staying with me.

Got it.

So basically, to be honest, Karamo, she really attached herself to me.

You weren't attached back?

I was trying to shake her off. Get, no, I don't want, I mean, 'cause let's be honest.

You know what, players fall in love too.

Let's be honest. Come on now.

You're right, you're right. You're right. That is true.

That is true. That is true. But all I'm saying is I felt like I deserve a better woman than that.

Okay.

I don't knock her being an exotic dancer.

Why do you suspect she's cheating?

Man, she got a lot of MIA time. I can't even call this girl phone during the day. If I'm at work, I can't call her and say, "Hey baby, how you doing?" She don't never answer. In the beginning I used to ask her, "Why you didn't answer my call?" It done got so bad years ago, about 3 years ago, I stopped calling her phone.

Well everyone, I just wanna make sure you know Mr. Kobe wants to know if Felicia's having sex with her client and if she's cheating on him. But I think it's time that we see what your girlfriend has to say about all this. So everyone, please welcome Felicia to the show.

I haven't been cheating on him, but I do have friends that do call my phone and a lot of these are men from the club. They do say certain stuff on my phone, you know, and maybe it's up to me. A phone could tell you a lot of things But it can't tell you the truth. If you don't have evidence—

It sounds like you're deflecting.

Yeah.

Because we haven't got the phone yet and a phone does tell a lot. Yeah, it does. The phone will tell you exactly where you at, what you doing, what you saying, how people are communicating with you. And she got a whole lot of MIAs.

And you do too.

That is the reason why I have unlocked the phone. And so we unlock both of your phones. Will you stay if we find something in his phone?

Yeah, because I wanna work this out. I'm tired of jumping from relationship to relationship. Relationship, who knows when the end is coming? You know what I'm saying? And I don't wanna go into the end of my life knowing that I could have had something special with this man even though we been toxic all these years. Somebody can help us. I'm like this, I've been through his phone before a couple times and I found things in there that I didn't like.

Will we find anything in your phone?

You may find, you gonna find a whole bunch of text messages.

What do you want to happen today?

I just wanna get everything out.

We want to get everything out.

Everything out.

Okay, okay. Well, listen, uh, Felicia wants to know if Jacoby is cheating. That's her— your main question, right? Well, I think it's time to unlock the phone. We'll go with yours first. Felicia, you want to know if Jacoby is cheating on you. My Unlock the Phone investigators searched through Jacoby's photos and apps and we found nothing suspicious. Photos as well. It's like y'all a little shocked by that. Y'all a little shocked. They're like, oh, okay. All right, Felicia, you also want to know if Jacoby was cheating. He says he is not. My Unlock the Phone investigator searched his texts and found that he is not telling the truth. We found 3 suspicious texts stating that he is single. Here, we can give you, and talking to other people. Here, you can gimme this. This is as of May.

That was my birthday too.

Huh? Oh, that was your birthday?

My birthday, May 23rd.

Yeah, she ran off on me.

You did too.

You ran off to go with your ex-wife to To my son's graduation from the Navy. He's in the Navy.

Why come I couldn't come?

But I wanna know this, how do you feel about the fact that he's saying he's single?

Oh, yeah, you know.

'Cause we broke up.

I'm not even surprised. She said she was single. Nope, I'm not even surprised about that because that's been an issue once before where around Christmas time we were at one of his friends' parties for Christmas and his friend's wife has a homegirl that came by and they hooked up. This lady was in my apartment, well, you know, as he call it, it's his apartment, but when you share an apartment with somebody, it's both of y'all's. Regardless if your name on it or if your name ain't on it, it's still—

Well, Felicia, I think it's time to get to unlocking your phone. So you want to know if she was cheating on you. My unlock the phone investigator searched her DMs and found nothing suspicious at all.

That's great.

That's great. Jacoby, you also want to know if Felicia is having sex with her clients. My unlock the phone investigator searched her apps and found one suspicious transaction for $150 from someone named.

Oh, okay.

That's not to say anything. It's not to say that you're cheating, but you wanna explain?

Okay, I'll explain that. My car actually quit on me and I called my dad, my dad didn't have the money. So I called him, he's a club owner. This is the man that he's been suspicious about thinking that I'm sleeping with him, but it's nothing like that. This man gave me $150, which I paid him back, which it was a loan.

Well, it don't even matter about that 'cause we actually done already been through that anyway. Okay. And that transaction, I was definitely upset about, you know, for her to even call another guy, period, for money.

But you didn't have it, so.

I gave you money also. You got money from me also. You don't remember that?

It wasn't enough.

But I gave you money also.

But it wasn't enough though.

So still though, you know, I still don't like a woman that feels comfortable.

I'm the type of person that's gonna pay anything that I have. I pay you your money back. So why wouldn't I pay nobody else back? Would you treat?

Which is true, which is true.

Kobe, you also wanted to know if she's cheating. And so my unlock the phone investigator searched her texts and we found 3 suspicious texts. Can we see what these text messages are? All right, hey, what you doing? You at work? Damn, you okay? You safe, baby? These are, I guess, just some of the clients that you said, you said already that hit you up, that you're communicating with.

Sometimes I see that and I might not even respond to it.

Okay. So I gotta also just let everyone know that the day that we unlocked your phone, it showed that there's something that had been tampered with as well on the phone. The thing for me is that unlock the phone was unimportant and it was unimportant because y'all are already aware of what you've been doing.

Right.

For me, there's two bigger things that are at play here that are pretty heartbreaking for me, which is first, the way you talk to her. And talk about her. And the way you say things like your own words, 'cause I write 'em down, "I deserve a different caliber of woman." You also said, "I don't knock that type of woman," while yet you still knock her. And it's the woman that's next to you. You getting emotional right now? I'm gonna cry. Here you go, love. Here you go. This is a woman that I know you keep saying that she stuck herself to you, but you chose, you're choosing to be in this relationship as well. You're choosing, and I believe a part of you is choosing to be this, because you know in your core that this is a woman that's sticking by your side. She's gonna support you, she's gonna take care of you. You know that she's going to do all the things you need and to be a provider for you. And yet for some reason you are breaking her down even though you met her in this environment and you had the choice to say, you know what, I'm not gonna date you. So why stay in something and beat her down? Why not just leave if this is not the caliber of woman for you?

Why not leave her?

Why not leave her? And don't you give me that excuse again, she not going nowhere.

No, no, no, no, no, no, no, seriously. Now, I done fell for the woman. I love this woman.

But you're talking about her in a negative way. You see things of her caliber.

I know, I know, I know.

She deserves an apology for that. I'm so sorry.

Wait, wait, hold up, hold up, hold up, hold up, hold up, hold up. Seriously, I'm so sorry for all The wrong I've done to you, all the bad and negative things that I said to you, you know I love you. I can be a better man to you and I will moving forward and I'm sorry.

I appreciate you taking that. I appreciate you standing up. I appreciate you saying those things to her. What we've seen in her phone is she's not cheating. Right. And I pray that is the truth because what I'm trying to help y'all do is get to a place where y'all can actually start building. That's who you said you want. Yeah. But you have to understand that she's also just a human being that at some point it's gonna be tiring of someone telling me I'm not enough, I'm not of caliber. 'Cause what you're doing is you're keeping her self-esteem low so that she won't wanna leave. Because if her self-esteem was high enough, she would understand like, hey, maybe there's somebody else that could be out there. Which brings me to you. You, it completely breaks my heart that you are in a space in your life where you do not realize that starting over is not a bad thing, that you don't realize that happiness doesn't have to come with all of this. And I'm not encouraging y'all to break up or anything like that. What I want you to do is, have you ever seen any relationships that ever been healthy?

Not really growing up.

None, yeah. I know a woman right now, she is 47 years old. She was in a relationship where she never saw anything modeled that was healthy. She got outta the relationship a year and a half ago and she has now been doing the work, doing great. And she finally got in a relationship with a man who is treating her like a queen. And she just called me and said, "I thought I couldn't start over. I thought it's better to deal with what is crappy in front of me." instead of going and get something better.

Right.

Can you see your future being happy? Not really. It's hard. Imagine this, if you somewhere and you can't see the future ahead of you, it's hard to see it. But I'm gonna ask you this, if I tell you to look down, can you see the next first step in front of you? Mm-hmm. Can you see the next step you about to take? Yeah. You can see the next step, right? Mm-hmm. That's what I want you to remember is that you might not see the day when everything's gonna be happy, but you can see yourself taking one step a day. And if you take one step a day, one step a day, one step a day, you can get to a place where you can build your self-esteem. But you have to do the work, okay?

Okay.

Y'all both got clarity. You got some work to do. Stop calling your woman outta her name. You start working on your self-esteem. But I wish y'all the best of luck, all right?

Thank you so much.