Someone spent a decade learning to control narratives, but it's damaged their relationship. The advice: stop the self-deprecating thoughts, recognize you're not the bad guy, and redirect your energy toward your kids instead of the partnership.
There is a double standard going on here, and I think that you're aware of it. I think you've been in a space where you have understood after 10 years how to control a narrative, how to get things to go where you want them to go. And I understand your trauma, and I understand you went through, and I also see your growth, but at some point you have to realize that you've grown apart and that there is so much damage that has been done in this relationship for years that the foundation is so unstable. You said he wanted to control the narrative when you first walked out here. Well, I think it's time for you to take control of that narrative back. That's the advice I got for you. I really do wish y'all the best of luck. And I want you to know, you haven't left here being the bad guy. What I've given you— No, I am, bro. I am. See, I am, bro. That type of self-deprecation is what's gonna keep you in a pattern that's gonna be self-destructive. What I'm trying to do for you right now is affirm to you that you're not the bad guy, but showing you that your progress should be channeled somewhere somewhere else. We see the progress you've made. It's just not for this relationship. It's for something else, which is those kids.
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