In this emotionally charged interview, host KARAMO speaks with Brittany, whose mother repeatedly accuses her of being responsible for her father's death. Brittany recounts the painful moment when her mother sent a message blaming her, describing how the accusation shattered her, triggered intense self‑blame, and strained her relationship with her sister and mother. The conversation reveals a pattern of family conflict: the mother’s tendency to blame others, the sister’s attempts to intervene, and the host’s probing questions that surface Brittany’s grief, confusion, and desire to clear her name. Throughout, Brittany emphasizes that no one caused her father's death, that he knew he was dying, and that the blame placed on her is unfounded. The interview highlights the broader psychological impact of blame within families dealing with loss.
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So how does it feel to hear your mom say that you're the reason for your father's death?
It hurts. It hurts so bad. But that's who she is. She blame everybody but herself. I ain't got nothing to blame myself for. You left a bad message for Bibi too when you went. You bet you was the one for his death. Bibi was at her house crying. Like my mama, like, you can't keep doing them like that. You can't blame that girl for that. My daddy dead.
You got that girl on the phone. And I called her and I was like, Mama, what you do to Bibi?
She was like, don't be calling me, taking up for nobody. This my sister and you my mama. I'm asking y'all what's going on. You let somebody else call your phone and tell you a lie. Like, did nobody say that you was dead? We don't want you dead.
We want you to work. Every time I get paid, I take you out, don't I?
No.
Every time I get paid, I take you out to eat, don't I? No. I always, what you do? You don't show nothing. You don't care. You don't care, Momma, you don't. You wanna be lonely, do you? Do you wanna be lonely? You don't want us around, do you?
Brittany, you received a message from your mother that said she felt like you were the reason your father died.
No, I was in her face.
She was in her face.
We was in her house.
What was that like for you?
It broke me down. My sister had to come sit in front of me just because. And she was steady saying like, "It's your fault." And she was shaking her head like she doing now, laughing and shaking her head and said, It's your fault. I'm crying. I'm telling her, Mom, it's not. Like, I already blamed myself because I walked in that room. I heard my daddy breathing like that. She said, I heard him breathing like that all day. He been like that all day. I said, okay, well, Mama, I went back in the room. I said, Dad, I'll be right back. I love you and I'll be right back. He gave me his hand like this and I was like, okay, I'll be right back. I didn't come back straight back like I wanted to. I stayed with my kids.
And she called me like about 10 minutes later and say, "He gone." So you weren't even able to talk about your feelings in the moment because your mother immediately started to accuse you?
No, she waited. It took a minute. I'm coming to her house all day, every day.
And then one day it started.
And then that day she just said it like, and I don't feel like that's right. I told her it's not right for you to blame me and I blame myself. That hurt me to the core. Like, I can't stop thinking about that. That was on my mind all the time. It was. Like, every day.
Yeah.
But we also gotta get something clear too. My daddy knew he was dying. Somebody gotta stop blaming the other person. Nobody killed him.
