DNA: Brother Or Scammer? | KARAMO

Jay has been searching for his biological father and his father's family since he was in high school. I want y'all to take a look at Jay's story right now.

When I was 7 years old, my momma showed me a picture of my dad. I didn't start searching for him until high school. I started having like a bad relationship with my family. I was homeless for a period of time. After a while, finding my dad and his family became really important to me. When I reached out, I was first met with rejection. I was blocked off Facebook. I tried numerous times to reach out to other family members. And over time I was hoping someone would just respond to me. I finally met Mickey and Nita at TGIFs a year ago. I really felt like they was a part of me and we had like a connection. And I'm hoping and praying that it's proven that we are related today so that my search for my family will finally come to an end.

All right everyone, so first we're gonna meet Jay's alleged sister. Please welcome Nita to the show. Hey Nita, how are you doing?

Hi.

So I wanna know, when were you initially contacted by Jay?

It probably was like about a year or so ago. It was on Facebook. So he end up messaging me and he was like, "Hi, I'm your brother." I'm like, "Brother? Like, no, you can't be my brother." I'm like, "I'm too old to be found out about a brother." So I just ignored it. I was like, "I don't know who he is." So, you know, at this point I'm like, I just knocked it off at that point. So then probably like months later, He ended up contacting my mom on Facebook. And so my mom was like, "A boy named Jay is like, he's your brother." So she told him, "Can you please send me a picture of you? I wanna see who you are." So he ended up sending her a picture and she was like, "Oh yeah." Like, he famous in my life.

So I'm like, "Well, tell him to call me." What did your gut tell you when you finally first talked to him?

It was just like, who are you? Like, where did you come from? You know? His mother was telling him about us, that he has sisters. So if you really wanna know who we are, we wanna meet you. We end up meeting and we sat down, we talked to him and we was just, he was just telling us a story how he was raised and, you know, all the things that he'd been through. And my sister was just whatever about the whole thing. So, I was like, well, let's get to know who he really is at this point. Yeah, of course, give him a chance. Yeah, let's give him a chance. And that's what it was.

So I wanna know, why did you feel like, 'cause my producer said you felt bad for Jay. Why did you feel bad for him?

Because the way how he told us how he was treated, he didn't have the holidays or he didn't have that person in his life to be there for him or whatever he was going through. And I was like, well, He didn't grow up how we grew up. We always had everything, so we just can't bring it on him because he didn't have it. So let's really get a chance, 'cause he might be our brother, so we can give it to him.

Yeah, it's a good perspective. I wanna know, how do you feel about being here today and getting these DNA results?

Nervous, 'cause it's been so many years. We don't know. I'm 30-some years old, you know, 25 years later we finding out that he's our brother. You know, I feel really bad because I really want him to be my brother.

But your sister doesn't feel this way?

No, she don't.

What is she saying?

She like, "How do we know?" Like, she's a daddy's girl, you know? So everything that he's saying, she was like, "Well, when time come, we'll find out. But today, we not finna be doing this for him." You know? So yeah.

She got the guard up immediately.

Yeah, definitely.

Makes sense. And how do you feel about the fact that your sister's sort of apprehensive?

I'm kind of mad at her about it because you just can't just based off that he's not our brother 'cause we don't know. It's been so many years to the point where let's just give him that chance.

Yeah. I mean, but look at that. We have one sister that's saying, I'm open to this. I hope it could be. And you got another sister that's saying, I don't want anything to do with this. You are not my brother potentially. And if you are, I don't want anything to have with this right now. I think it's time for us to meet your sister Miki to get her side of the story. So let's everyone welcome Miki to the show. How are you doing, Miki?

Hi, how you doing?

Good to meet you.

Good to meet you.

Both y'all are so fly. Okay, right? Y'all see it? They look great. So I wanna know, we heard it, the difference already between you and your sister. Your sister's like, she's open to this and you're very much like, I'm not about this. Talk to me about your feelings.

First I wanna say this is a scam. We met him at, first of all, I told him, listen, he reached out to us on Facebook. So I'm like, we don't know who this person is. We need to meet him in a public place. We're not gonna go to his house. He's not coming to ours. He don't need to know our address.

Yeah.

So we got there and then he started breaking down his life story and Pretty much he needed money.

Oh. So from your perspective, you think that it was the fact that he had a hard life that he needs money?

Yeah.

Is that why you're so skeptical about this?

I'm just skeptical 'cause it's been, I'm 38 years old. I never heard anything. Like we don't know anything about this. Never heard of it.

Well, there's one person that's in all of this that we need to hear their side of this story and that is Jay. So everyone please welcome Jay to the show. How you doing? Good to meet you, man. Good to meet you. All right, so Jay, you've been trying to find your family constantly throughout the years. Tell me what this journey's been like for you.

The journey has been very, very crazy. Like, it all started when I was like just a kid. I would just ask my mom for pictures of my dad and after a while she would get annoyed and like she finally gave me like this one stash picture of him. And I kept it all the way up until I felt concerned enough to reach out. And that was when I was 18. I was always protective of my siblings. I have 3 other siblings. And during high school—

Are you the oldest out of your siblings on your mom's side?

Second oldest.

Second oldest.

Second oldest, yeah. And it was very emotional for me 'cause they always had their fathers around. And me, I was just like the odd one out. My mom would tell me that I had 2 other sisters by him. So I never knew what they looked like. I only had the picture of my father and that was it. And I graduated from high school. She didn't show up to my graduation and my family members did. They believed in me. And, but the, it was still one other person that I wanted to be there.

And which was your father, potential father that you've been. I can, I, I'm just thinking about that. You're holding on to a photo that you got as a little boy of this man that you're hoping could be your dad?

I hope he is, and that's why I'm here to find out, and I appreciate you giving me the opportunity.

Yeah, no worries, no worries. My producers told me that, my producers told me that your father blocked you.

That's true. It took a lot of courage to just message him, and I was on there, I looked at, I made sure, like, I had the picture in my hand typing and I was like, okay, I saw him, I saw them two. I was like, so this is it. And I was like, should I do it? And I built up the courage to text him and I let it be for a little bit, waited 24 hours. I came back the next day and his page was gone.

What did the message say that you said to him?

I reached out, I said, hey, my name is Jerrez. "My mom's name is this and I'm going through this situation right now and I just want you to be here." And to no reply.

That's it. Did you all know that your father blocked him?

Not at that point we didn't till we actually got a chance to meet him.

How do y'all feel about the fact that your father blocked him? Do you think that was the right response? And there's no judgment in this statement. I'm just wondering like for you. I see your face already. You like.

25 years. I mean, if someone come Facebooking you saying I'm your son, I mean, I would.

You block him too?

Yeah, I'm like, why? My thing was, I don't understand why it would, his wait so late to even tell him who his father was or for him to wait so long to even mention at 18. Like, that's my thing. Like, we should have known this a long time ago.

Yeah.

You know?

It's not about any currency or anything like that. It was just about having a bond. That's all I wanted just growing up.

You said your siblings had their own father. And so you didn't feel connected there even though you had a relationship with your mother and father.

But that is not my dad's fault.

Honestly, I believe it is. He has to answer it. He has to answer it.

But I don't, at this point too, I really don't think it's his fault. I just feel like we don't know how it was told to him if he had a child.

Did your mother say that she ever told your potential father that she was pregnant?

Twice. Yes, and that's the thing. That's why I say he has to answer.

Got it. I understand. Well, how do you feel when these two beautiful women responded?

It lifted my energy a little bit. I just want to have a potential bond with them, and that's all I'm here for, no matter how they feel.

Well, yeah. What was your experience meeting them? 'Cause I heard their point of view.

Well, for me it was like, it was kind of awkward 'cause they was just staring at me.

I'm like, I'm on my own.

I believe that I have some of the characteristics and I believe they picked up on it.

I wanna take a moment for this because I understand that everyone's just meeting him for the first time. Y'all only known him for a year, but we did a lot of digging in your background and we heard about how you've worked very hard to pull yourself up. You've worked very hard. Can you tell me a little bit about that?

Growing up in high school, I was like a hothead, you know? But I switched my ways. I became a coach online.

I'm like a personal trainer.

I'm in school for real estate. I'm working a job. I'm doing my best to be something. I wanna be a product he can be proud of. Something they can be proud of.

Yeah.

You know? Like my potential other family members on their side, they can be proud of. And that's what I'm trying to build. I'm trying to build a legacy.

I wanna let you know this because being abandoned, 'cause basically that's the feeling you're having, is abandonment. It's feeling alone. And for the fact for you to recognize that the anger was not the right path and for you to try and do all of this, whether this is your father or not, I need you to know that we are proud of you and that you should always be proud of yourself. Because for you to make these choices shows the man you are. Are you ready for this DNA outcome?

Ready.

25 years right here. If you don't mind opening it and reading the results out loud.

I feel like this is like the next chapter right here in my hand.

Yeah. OK. I know you're grieving. I know you're grieving. I know you're grieving. I know you're grieving.

I know you're grieving. I told you.

Hold on, I know you're grieving, but this is your brother and he had nothing to do, he had nothing to do, hear me out, he had nothing to do with the decision your father made. You hear me? You hear what I'm saying? Sit down. I want you to really hear this right now because I can see your hesitation. First of all, I'm very happy for you. For you, that you have found answers and clarity, 'cause you deserve that. And all the work you did for yourself has led you up to this moment where not only can your family be proud, but you can be proud of yourself. But I know you're grieving right now. I can see it. You are grieving. But you gotta remember, the decisions that adults made just have nothing to do with y'all. You are just right now dealing with the outcome of it. But let me tell you something. Who your father is to you in your mind, you don't have to grieve that. He's still the same man. He's still the same father that you can be his daddy's girl. You can still love him. You can still support him. You just now have someone else who can be there for you and can love you.

I'm sorry.

What's on your mind now? You got two sisters. It's confirmed. You got two sisters. I got two older sisters. I will tell you, as the youngest of four sisters, It's dope to have older sisters, all right? And they fly, they fly. So I already know they gonna like be able to guide you, show you some ways, you understand?

Yeah.

How does this feel to you right now? Oh, you got answers, 25 years, there's no more questions.

It's the ultimate clarity, you know?

Yeah.

Like it all paid off, keeping myself sane.

Yeah.

You know, like almost died a couple years ago to pneumonia and I wasn't gonna get the answers. And I was just praying to like just get me through this, to just this puzzle piece is all I wanted.

Yeah. Now there is a key person who blocked you and that's your father. And you have to understand that you're gonna have to give him a fresh start from here. You're gonna have to be like, you know what? If you can say to him, I'm your son, unblock me, you gotta be open to him, to him going through his process as well. Every one of you is about to be on a journey. And so anytime you start feeling anger, you start feeling like upset, you start feeling like maybe I wanna be distant, maybe they don't like me, maybe they do like me, remember everyone is on their journey and you have to be patient with each other. Does that make sense? Yes.

Makes total sense.

Yeah, so just be there and y'all support him 'cause I already can tell if your daddy anything like you, girl, you sweet, you sweet flop, but you sovereign. And I like it, I like it, I like it. That strength, I love it, okay? And so, but I'm just saying, support him 'cause he's gonna need his big sisters right now as he figures this next chapter out.

And thank you so much.

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