Don’t Leave Me…Save Our Family! | KARAMO

All right, everyone. When someone lies to, cheats on, or insults someone they love, feelings of rejection, abandonment, and fear can set in. Now, Ray Ray admits that he made some, if not all, of these mistakes in the beginning of his relationship with Quanisha. But he also says ever since their son was born, he has been a changed man. But Quanisha, lack of trust has caused her to constantly accuse him of infidelity. And he says she isn't as innocent as she would like to seem. Everyone, please help me welcome Ray Ray to the show.

What's going on, man?

How you doing? All right, so Ray Ray, I want to start off. How did you meet Quanisha?

Well, fulfilling my dream job as a 20— well, when I was 20 years old, you know, dancing, what I did for a living. I got bookings. I do parties, costume parties. I do parades, et cetera, like everything.

What kind of dancing is it?

Hip hop dance. I'm actually a hip hop dancer at that.

Yes, sir.

So when you met her, you were talking to other girls?

Yes, yes, I was.

Okay, tell me about that.

Well, at this moment of time, I had literally 3 girlfriends. So I'm living life, trying to be a little player, not looking for love, you feel me? Just living life, just trying to do what the young kids, just running around, just living.

So you were 20 when you met her. Were you really ready to be tied down?

No, I was not.

Okay, so then why'd you get in a relationship?

It just hit me to the point where I had to talk to myself like one day I'm gonna have to sit down some way, you feel me? So it just went like from there.

All right, so I wanna go back because I know you said you met her when you were a dancer. This you dancing back here? 'Cause I got a video of it. Yeah, get it, get it, get it, get it. That's that B-more dancing, right? That's that Baltimore dancing, right? Yes, sir. Hey. Hey. All right, sir. So exactly where do you dance?

I dance in North Carolina.

Yeah. So, but do you dance— what type of parties do you dance at?

I dance at kids' parties. I dance in costumes. Elmo, like different characters, everything.

Oh, so you one of them guys that we see go viral in the Elmo costume or Dora the Explorer costume?

You probably seen me go viral. It was a long time ago. The Kung Fu Panda went viral.

Oh, yes.

OK. That was me. Yes, sir.

OK. OK. That was her. Yes, sir. You met Quanisha at a party, like a kid's party?

Yeah, it was like a teen party where I was already booked there, you know.

So I understand now why you said you had 3 women and it's because I, no listen, I can see it. You at a kid's party, you dancing, all the ladies are like, oh, he fly, oh, he's good with kids. Got it. Add 2 and 2 together, I understand.

Yeah, I'm trying, you know.

And so at that moment when you met Quanisha, it was, you just said, I gotta do this.

Yeah, something about her, it was just, different about her.

So how did you feel when she told you that she was pregnant?

So the way it went, we was arguing and we were going back and forth, back and forth. I was packing my things like I was telling her I'm about to go. So she hit me with the, oh, you're not going nowhere. You can go and let them girls know if you think you about to go over there. Yeah, cut them off. You got a baby on the way. So I'm like, got a baby? What are you talking about? She never gave me, never told me nothing about it until I was doing all of this until I was about to leave. So she hit me with that. I'm like, man, you gonna try to make it seem like you trying to trap me or something? Like you making it basically saying you want me to choose my career and stuff over for you.

Okay, so once she got pregnant and you knew it, were you faithful to her during the pregnancy?

No, I really wasn't. I ain't gonna lie, like I was, I wasn't.

Okay, so when did you actually stop cheating on Cornesha?

I literally stopped cheating right before my son came.

Okay then. So there was a little cheating while she was pregnant? Yes, sir. Okay then. But when your son came, what made you say, "I wanna stop cheating"?

Like, it just hit me to a point because I had a time where my dad was in and outta my life. So I looked at that and talked to myself and like, I wanted to give something my son never had before, well, I never had before.

Got it. So Quanisha says that she believes that you're still talking to women on your phone. Is that true?

No. Not no more. Not no more.

Why do you think she feels that way?

'Cause she's probably doing stuff herself.

Oh, so you think she's cheating?

Yes.

Okay. Did Quinisha bust out your windows?

Let me tell you about that right there. See, what happened was we was at one of my family member house. She assumed I was there with a girl. The whole time it was one of my other family members. She done hit the window, busted the window. We getting up, Running out the house like, what in the world going on?

So hold on, she didn't even bust the windows out of your car, she bust the windows out the house?

Yes, yes, yes.

Oh my gosh.

Like, I'm looking like, what in the world going on?

And is this your family's house or your house?

Yes, it's the family house.

So this is your family's house.

Yes, and they looking at me like I'm doing it. I didn't do nothing. She's assuming, going along with what she thinking in her mind.

Yeah.

So I'm looking, we went outside and everything. I had a dog almost ran up on her. I'm like, oh, like you got a baby in your stomach. It can't do that, it's gonna hurt my boy. No, it can't do that. Then it's gonna hurt you too. So I'm looking at her like, what are you doing? Like, why are you out here? Like, what are you doing with yourself right now?

Go home.

You have a baby in your stomach. You feel me? Like, it's the principles of everything at the end of the day.

All right, so let's go ahead and meet Premisha right now to get her side. Premisha, come on out. Premisha, you look fly. I'll tell you that much. Nice to meet you.

Nice to meet you too.

Yeah, take a seat. What do you have to say to Rae Rae about what you heard?

Now why are you sitting on this show lying? You have not been faithful for 2 years. Let me talk, you had your time to talk.

Man, I'm not doing that with you.

You been cheating forever. When I first started talking to you, yeah, I met you and I knew you was talking to multiple females. But you also told me you was dropping those females to be with me.

So when did you realize that Rae Rae was cheating?

When I first started talking to him, I realized he was cheating when the girl posted him on social media And she tried to cover his face with an emoji and everybody in my family member was sending me the picture, but I know what this man look like, I know what he, you could cover his face all day long, but I know what he look like. I know how he dress. I mean.

So how did it make you feel when you find out, when, how Ray Ray reacted when he found out you were pregnant?

Well, we was arguing. And yeah, I threw it out there that I was pregnant. And when I told him that I was pregnant, it immediately was, he wasn't ready to be a father. But it's not what you want, it's what I want. I already have two other kids, I'm not about to get rid of my child because you don't want a child. Either you step up and be a man, or either you can go.

Yeah, okay.

Exactly, but that's the thing, that's the most thing I was telling you. I was not financially ready, I wasn't emotionally ready, I told you that, I was 100% 'cause I was not ready at the moment. You came to me with two kids, which I was already doing that father figure with that. What can I do? When I'm trying to process, what can I do?

If you didn't want a baby, you shouldn't have been out there. You were still doing it with me. It doesn't matter, you knew the consequences.

So Ray Ray left you for another woman, how did that make you feel?

I was very high risk with my son. Um, it's like he didn't care at all. Like, he was out here just staying with the female, like she was posting him all over social media. He was posting her on social media, like, they was laying in the bed together and I'm home and I'm pregnant and it's like, he didn't care at all, like.

Is that true?

There was never no pictures of me posting, I was never doing that.

But you were with her, so you were with her.

If anything, I'm gonna be sneaky about it.

Oh.

He's lying. I have proof that he was with a female because it was all on Instagram and everything of him laying in the bed with the female. He had broke his phone and one day he logged into my phone on social media And something was just like, go check his social media. So I checked his social media and like, I just seen like my eyes was full, like I seen it all like—

And this is during a high-risk pregnancy? Yes. So what happened during that high-risk pregnancy?

Well, he, when I saw the stuff on Instagram, I saw that the girl had sent her address for him. I called one of my friends and I told her to come get me and we went to where the address was and y'all did go take a crowbar and I went over there and I showed my tail because you really playing me in my face when I've been here for you when nobody else wasn't, so.

Why y'all clapping for her taking a crowbar out? Why y'all taking a crowbar for? When y'all clap for a crowbar. Okay. I understand your hurt, your pain. You felt like at that moment that's how you would react.

Yeah, because I was faithful for a long time and when you get tired, you get tired. I done been through that before, I done been hurt before. So it's not like he didn't know that I had been hurt before. It's not like he didn't know my past or what I've been through.

So the violence was based on underlying other trust issues. I got it. So how's the relationship been since your son has been born?

When my son was born, he left me in the house after I came home from the hospital for a whole week, had my car. He went and stayed at a family member house.

And my producers told me that you were laying in bed with staples in your stomach.

Yes.

And you were alone for a week.

Yes.

Ray Ray, what's going on there?

I was with her, man. I was with her. She said that just to make me look bad right now.

I'm not saying nothing to make you look bad, but we all know you stayed at a family member's house.

I was there.

You was there when I had our son, you weren't.

But you saying that I was never there.

But when I came home from the hospital, you went and stayed at a family member's house.

Exactly, I did.

Okay, you just said you didn't, so which one is it?

I'm telling you, no, I was at a family member's house. You said I was standing.

You stayed at your family member's house for a whole week. Um, when I was calling you and texting you, some days you wouldn't answer the phone, some days you was, but your excuse was that my brakes went out on my car and you had to get 'em fixed.

The car was whole lot about to break down. But maybe it should've broke down while you was in it. The axle was broken. So that's the main thing that's with a car anyway.

I'm gonna say this. One week to fix brakes is no excuse not to be with your son, newly born, in my opinion. Look at this, unhealthy. You left her while pregnant. You know that's unhealthy. You admit to cheating. I know it's unhealthy, but the biggest one for me that you said is the rejection. Rejection is the reason that there is no trust in this relationship. Because once you reject somebody, especially in a vulnerable place as pregnancy, that's when it's done. Quanisha, you up here too. All right, not only did you admit to cheating, which you know is unhealthy. Violently damaging property. Again, when you do that, you have completely broken trust because now not only can I not trust you with what's going on, but someone like the audience says, now I can't trust you with my property. I don't know if you're gonna overreact. But the biggest one that I saw for you, and you see it there, you see it, you have a bullying nature. Do you know that?

Yeah. So I feel like I wasn't wrong for busting the window. You done broke TV, so I mean, it wasn't—

That wasn't my windows. That wasn't my house.

You was there with a female, so it doesn't matter.

This is what you call a codependent relationship, okay? This is codependency. And the issue is that you have a child now that has made this codependency even worse. Because as we just saw this picture of each of you, where your rejection, where you're doing unhealthy things like breaking stuff, damaging stuff, lying to each other, The fact that you're coming back is because you are codependent on each other because both of you are afraid to be alone. Why are you afraid to be alone?

Because I done been through a lot growing up and with my past relationships.

Yeah.

And it's like when I jumped into a relationship, when I got outta relationship, I just rushed into one with him.

Yeah.

But me thinking he's gonna change and not do what my past did. I have a lot of joy when it's all 5 of us together.

I get it, I get it. Your girl's crying over here. Why you looking away? Look at your girl.

I don't like to see her cry. She know this. She know I love her. To the depth of my heart, I admit my wrongs.

Yeah.

But we have to move together, not one by one.

Oh, I know. Listen, but there's something, a reason why I asked you that, and it's very critical, especially for you as a mother, okay? Is because right now, I know you've had a lot of pain, and I know you've had a lot of people who have broken your trust and who have tried to break you. And the reason I brought that last one, the bullying, is because I want you to know that I understand that it's actually a defense mechanism. You're trying to protect the bit of your heart and the bit of your emotions that you have left.

Am I?

You're trying to protect it.

Yeah. And he knows that.

And I'm gonna tell you straight up, I am sorry for the past relationships. I am truly sorry for even the family members who are talking down to you. And I am even sorry for this man who's re-triggered you over and over again. And I believe both of y'all are triggering each other, but I will say I'm sorry also for that. And I'm specifically talking to you right now because as a mother, a lot of the things that you're doing, your kids are gonna pick up these behaviors and know if this is what's right or wrong. And so I want to teach you and empower you to know that you have to take time for yourself so that you can start to heal yourself so that you can start to figure out how to clear those voices out so you can get your strong self. You should not be jumping back into a relationship. And so when I'm gonna tell you right now, y'all moving back in together, is the wrong decision on the face of this earth. Listen, the comments were right. When someone said y'all gotta stop going on each other's phone, y'all gotta break this up, y'all doing tit for tat, they were right. And y'all need to start to figure out how to separate so you can build yourselves up alone and not together. And maybe one day when y'all get to a healthy place, y'all can come back together. But I tell y'all, if y'all stay and get back in the house, those children are gonna have the worst behavior modeled to them. And in 20 years, I'm gonna have your kids on this couch talking about, "I saw mommy and daddy do this." Is that what you want?

No.

Is that what you want? Then make the decision now for a better tomorrow. All right?

Yes, sir.

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