KaramoYour Guide To Unlocking Your Best Self

Don’t lose yourself for fear of losing someone else. #karamoshow #shorts

21 Feb 2024 · 0 min

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In this YouTube short, Karamo counsels a guest (Speaker B) who feels deep guilt and indebtedness toward a supportive mother who helped her escape homelessness. Karamo points out that feeling obligated to stay in a relationship simply because a partner was present during hard times creates a codependent dynamic. He uses the metaphor of a shattered mirror to illustrate that trying to repair a broken relationship by simply taping it back together will not restore its original reflection. Karamo advises that the couple must each do separate, individual work to heal, rather than attempting to fix the marriage together while fearing loss. He emphasizes that staying out of fear will cause the guest to lose herself, whereas personal growth can eventually allow a healthier partnership.

Even though you've had a supportive mother and you've had supportive parents, you've been through your own things and you have guilt for anybody who does something good for you. You said outta your mouth, she took me outta homelessness. You also said other things that show you feel indebted to her because of the fact that she was there for you in your hardest moments. Just because someone's there for you in your hardest moment doesn't mean that you have to then continue to be with them in more hard moments. And that's what you're doing.
And I, how do I change that? How can I fix that?
Well, you don't fix it together. You can't smash the mirror together and then try to piece it back together and hope your reflection's gonna be the same. And that's what y'all are doing. That's what that marriage proposal is. We smashed the mirror and now we're gonna put some tape on it. Look, we're married. And then we're gonna hope that we can see each other. You can't see each other. You have to do that separately. This is separate work that you all have to do. You two are extremely beautiful and intelligent and driven people that literally y'all can do so much together if you were healthy. But right now y'all not healthy. And so the more you stay in this because you're afraid to lose her, you're gonna end up losing yourself.