Karamo explains how lack of intimacy in relationships breaks communication and creates false stories. When partners don't share what they're feeling, the other person fills in blanks with worst-case scenarios like infidelity. The real problem is emotional, not physical.
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I think that there's an extreme lack of intimacy. Yes. And that intimacy is causing heartache, it's causing the communication to break down, and it's also causing narratives to be created in our minds that may not be true. And I think sometimes when we forget in relationships, when we don't have somebody who is going to tell us what's going on, we end up filling in the blanks. Okay. And I think what's happening right now is there is a little bit, and I'm gonna be honest with you, especially going after this, where you're filling in blanks. It's like, if he ain't coming for me and I'm right here and I got all this and I'm beautiful, then there gotta be somebody else. There has to be somebody else. And I think what has happened through that of you accusing him has caused you to feel like, you know what, I need a break. But what's going on is that you're keeping everything inside. Oh no. Your intimacy issues, more than you know it, is not about here. It's more about up here.