A 20-year-old with trust issues learns that the problem isn't other people—it's that she doesn't trust herself. The host says stop the defensive behavior, stop caring what others think, and grow up.
You're not healthy with each other at all. And the core of why y'all not healthy with each other is because you both have trust issues. The way that you fix trust issues is you have to start trusting yourself. Do you trust that you can be a better woman?
Yes, I could be a better woman by changing my actions.
And what does that mean?
Not doing petty stuff I do, the childish stuff I do, start being more mature.
So the first thing you're gonna do is I'm gonna tell you to get rid of this defense mode is you gotta stop worrying about what other people say about you.
I've heard that a lot.
It might take you some years to get to that place where you grow. I'm hoping that this can be the first step in the catalyst that's gonna get you there, but you can. This, I'm glad y'all came here because this is a moment for, you 21 and 20?
Yes.
Y'all are babies and this is the first moment that y'all gonna have somebody in front of y'all that's gonna tell y'all, y'all deserve better. Y'all don't have to be these women. Y'all actually can be the best women I know y'all can be.