Karamo offers a framework for couples recovering from infidelity and dishonesty. He says to "go back to day one" by reestablishing honest dialogue, clearly stating needs, and reaffirming shared values. Self-awareness matters: entering a relationship without tools to manage personal struggles causes more damage.
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Our guide here, or our point here, is always to guide you to get to the healthiest place. When I talk to my producers, I say, what is it gonna need to take so that these people can see that how they can build their relationship? That is in every daily meeting we have. And so if I know that he feels that there's distrust because you've cheated and that you've lied about it, then there needs to be transparency to say, let's move forward. But when you don't give that, again, now he's gonna start feeding off your energy again. So I just wanna make sure you're clear about that. Now secondly, for you, I realized quickly in this relationship You didn't express quick enough to the woman that you fell in love with that you were drowning. And then you found a woman that you felt like, oh, we can build together. And instead of telling her, I don't have the tools, you let her get into a house with you and you don't even know how to build this up, which is unfair to you because you didn't know he was drowning when you got together, did you? No. That's what broke the trust for you because now the thing he tried to go do was build himself up, which I give you credit for that. You said, let me figure this out on my own. But then now it shattered the trust. So what I encourage you all to do if you're going forward in this marriage is to go back to day one and start being honest about where you're at, the things you're feeling, be honest about the things you need without saying, I'm gonna be here to help you as well. You gotta help yourself, you gotta help yourself, but also reestablish what y'all values are in this relationship.
