Karamo responds to a viewer asking how to come out as gay without family rejection. He reframes the process as "letting people in" on your own terms, using a house metaphor: you decide who gets access to your personal space, and you owe no one entry.
So the girlies been in the DMs, so I got another DM for y'all. Okay, here it goes. It says, "Hey Karamo, how can I come out as gay to my family and not be rejected from them? I love you and your show." Girl, well, first of all, I don't think you have to come out. I have said this a million one times. I do not subscribe to the term coming out. I think that term is antiquated. I think the actual act of what we're doing is letting people in. And when you realize that when you let people in, you realize that you have the power not them. So you let them in when you want. It doesn't mean that you're ashamed of yourself or that you're not comfortable, but everyone does not have to be let into your life. I think that old outdated thing of like, I gotta get up, make a grand announcement at Thanksgiving dinner, is not the tea no more, okay? You let people in when you feel comfortable. And if there's one person you want to let in and not someone else, that means they haven't earned your trust. They don't deserve to be in your life. I want you to think of yourself as a home. Okay, this is your beautiful house in here that you decorated. It's great, you feel comfortable, you feel safe. If someone knocks on your door and you feel like they're gonna come in here and mess your stuff up, would you let them in? No, and that is okay because you're protecting your home. But if somebody else knocks and you say, yeah girl, come on in, let's have a cup of tea, that's fine. So understand and reframing that you get to let people in when you want to. There is no closet, girl. I know y'all been— they've been telling the girls that there's a closet you gotta come out of. There's no closet. And if there was, I would've found it a long time ago, and there should've been a pot of gold in there for all the BS we've been through, okay? So let people in when you want to. This reframing gives you the courage to know that this is on your timeline, not someone else's. No one has the power to accept or deny you. It is your power, your power, all right?
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