He's Accusing Me of Cheating on My Birthday! | KARAMO

Well, I've been accused for ever since from the beginning, almost 2 years of being a cheater. And I'm just tired of it. I'm just frustrated. I'm worn down. I wanna feel like I'm a somebody again and a mom.

Got it. How was your relationship in the beginning?

It was great. He was really good with the kids. I fell in love with that. I fell in love just his worth ethic, him, bringing me, telling me I'm pretty, no matter, even if I was feeling down and out, he was there.

A gentleman.

Yeah.

That's sweet. When in the relationship did it change?

When he decided to tell me that it was over and he didn't wanna be with me and he disappeared and was gone.

And how long into the, 'cause how long have y'all been together?

We've been almost together almost 2 years.

2 years. And so at what point did he say this, that he wanted it to end?

In January.

So a couple months ago?

Yeah.

Okay.

It was just whenever. At the beginning of this year?

So a year in, he said he wanted it to end?

Yeah.

And then what did he say his reasoning was for?

Because I don't know exactly. I just, I guess because he didn't feel wanted and needed and I don't know.

So you assume it's because he didn't feel wanted and needed?

Yeah.

Okay then. And how bad have things gotten?

It's gotten pretty bad.

In what ways?

I mean, it got to where whenever he was gone and he told me to leave and he came back, I was still there and I fought with him. I punched him and, you know, I stood my ground because I wasn't doing anything. I didn't deserve it. I'm not a give, I don't give up.

Why stay if you continue to argue and he's accusing you of cheating?

I love him.

Okay.

Just, I can't put it in, as many words in the world. I just can't put it in there. He makes me comfortable. He brings out the person that I wanna be. He tells me I'm a good person.

Yeah. Are you scared that without him you can't bring those qualities out in yourself?

Not really because he gave me that confidence. He brought that back out of me and showed me that I could be on my own and I could do it on my own. Because before we got to actually living together, I lived by myself. You know, he showed me how to get my own place and, how to be a mom again.

Got it. So what were your other relationships like before this?

Toxic.

Toxic.

Abusive. Just, I don't know, like it's pretty bad, you know? And I just don't want it to get to this. I mean, today's my birthday and I don't want—

Well, happy birthday. Wow.

I don't want to, I don't wanna feel not wanted. I wanna feel like a human and a, a person, you know? There's not much women out here that are willing to be faithful or they wanna do two wrongs and two wrongs don't make a right, you know? I just wanna be his forever.

Yeah, you wanna feel wanted by him? Yes. Okay, I get that. Were you married before?

Yes, I got married at 16 years old.

And how old was the guy that you married?

He was 25.

Wow. Wow, okay. 16 to 25, okay. What made you wanna get married then?

'Cause of my childhood and I wanted to be a mom. I wanted to be a family. I wanted to be loved.

Got it.

And I have 5 beautiful kids.

When you say your childhood, what do you mean?

It was rough. I didn't have mom or dad, you know, like just, I didn't have that family. I had a stepdad and then they split up and that's, where it kind of like I didn't know where to go in life because that was my dad, you know?

Yeah. Well, the producers tell me that you're, is it your biological father?

Yes.

That lives with you now?

Yes, and we have a good relationship now.

Got it.

But it took many, many years to get that.

Got it, got it.

For me to feel comfortable and trust him too.

'Cause he wasn't in your life.

No.

But now you're taking care of him.

Yes.

I understand, I understand. And you have 5 kids, you said?

Yes, sir.

Okay. Aaron says you don't appreciate time he's putting into this relationship.

That's a lie.

Tell me why.

Because I appreciate everything that man does. I may not say it, I may not act it, but I try to be the wife and take care of everything that he doesn't need to come home and do.

Well, everyone, I think it's time that we welcome Aaron to the show and get his side of the story. So everyone, welcome Aaron. Hey Aaron.

How's it going?

Good, nice to meet you.

Nice to meet you.

So what do you have to say about what you just heard?

A lot of it sounds pretty accurate, you know what I mean? Some of it's not completely true. And I think the biggest thing is if you appreciate something, then you show it. And she admitted right out here in front of everybody that she doesn't always show it or say it, you know what I mean? I say that I appreciate what she does. And you know, whenever you get into a routine or a pattern and things change, it's evident that there's something different going on. And early in our relationship, I'd work long hours and I was gone a lot, and I believe that sometime in that missing time where I was gone is when we started having difficulties.

That's not true.

And you think the difficulty is because she didn't appreciate you?

I think the difficulties was because she didn't appreciate me being gone.

Got it. Do you feel that when he was gone that you still respected him and showed him the appreciation?

Yes.

Yes. You do? Okay then. So my producers told me earlier that you are both still married?

Yes.

Technically, yes.

Technically?

Yes. Technically, yes.

Tell me what does technically mean? What kind of marriage?

She never got divorced.

I filed for my divorce, but during the COVID everything happened. My attorney has not gotten back with me. I've tried multiple times. I'm willing to go and pay for another divorce because I love this man. I wanna be with him.

Okay.

But I don't wanna put up with the bullshit of cheating and I'm always doing this, I'm doing that.

I am so tired of the same argument we have at home and when I say, how was your day? And ask details about the day, I'm automatically accusing her of stuff because in the past I've made accusations.

No, it's not because of accusing, of saying that I'm cheating.

It's not always an accusation.

So if you ask me that.

Listen, people don't defend themselves constantly.

Why do you believe that Lacey's cheating on you?

Because early on, I had a friend that I would bring over and hang out with and became mutual friends with.

And that's not true. It is. At all. He brought him into my home.

Okay.

Yeah, I brought him to stay. He'd come and stay with us and stuff and hang out. She calls me and tells me about a funny story that happens with the guys that were there. And then about an hour or two later, he calls me, tells me almost verbatim the exact same story. You know what I mean?

And I never talked to him at all.

And she says she never talked to him. He tells me she told him. And even if it wasn't nothing wrong with it, why lie about it?

Yeah, I didn't trust him.

That right there lets me know I shouldn't trust you.

I feel like it was a game and a setup between him and his friends.

Were you setting them up? Was there some game you played?

I mean, what exactly would I gain from, what setup would there be?

To see if I would cheat or see if I was a faithful person. And I'm faithful to you. I love you. Then why would you even say what you're telling me right now?

It doesn't make sense. What you're saying doesn't even make sense.

It makes sense.

If things are good and you trust two people, there's no reason not to bring those people into your life or around each other.

Well, for one, he wasn't at my house.

There's trust, right?

For one, you should not bring someone to your house if it's your friend and you're gonna have him stay the night there without you there.

Who cares if I'm there? What if I work out of town for 3 months? I can't have my guy friends come over?

You can't bring none of your guy friends. I said no.

So I'm gonna ask, because this is very interesting. I wanna know by a raise of hands, Do you think he was wrong for leaving his friend in the house with his woman? If you believe it's wrong. If you don't, if you think it's okay that he left his friend in the house with his woman, raise your hand. Only a couple people. It's funny, I'm on the side of the fewer people.

I should be able to trust that person.

If I trust my partner, I should be able to have a friend stay there and not worry.

I didn't even know the man.

Well, my producer are telling me right now we have a ping coming in Ooh. From your friend Jeremy, who was actually staying at the house when you weren't there. And Jeremy says that he has something that he needs me to hear.

Hey Karamo, this is Jeremy. Hey, so one thing I need you to know, I did sleep over at Lacey and Aaron's house 6, 7, 8 different times when Aaron wasn't even home. I did sleep on the couch and nothing ever happened between me and Lacey. I mean, she's a better woman than that. I'm a better man than that. She's just trying to focus on being a good woman, raising her kids, having a good household. Aaron needs to give her a break. She ain't got time to be fighting off rumors about nothing like that.

Thank you. OK. Thank you.

I'll tell you, the way he started that, I was like, it sounded like he was about to say something, right? Right? Yeah. But how does that feel for you? Do you feel vindicated by that?

I felt good, yeah.

Do you believe him when he says that? Or do you still have questions?

Me and him are still friends. I'm the one that asked him, told him to get in contact with him.

Okay.

Because I do believe him.

Well, listen everyone, I think it's time to unlock the phone. Aaron, we unlocked your phone. And is there anything in here that you're worried about Seeing?

No.

That you're worried about Lacey seeing?

Almost everything that we've ever had issues with or anytime I've talked to anybody else or even things became to where it sounded like it might have been sexual in some sort of way, she already knows about those.

Got it, okay then. And those are things you talked to my producer about as well?

Right.

Okay then, so we're looking out for other things, correct? Okay, great. Well listen, Lacey, there's specific things you want to know. Lacey, you want to know if he's still communicating with his ex ex. Aaron said he is not. My unlock the phone investigator searched his texts and found he's telling the truth. Lacey, you also wanna know if he's still communicating with a specific woman you believe he slept with on January 28th, 2024. He said he is not. My Unlock the Phone investigator searched his phone and found he's telling the truth. Lacey, you want to know if he's talking to any other woman online. Aaron, you said you're not. My Unlock the Phone investigator searched his apps and found he's telling the truth. So from what I'm seeing here, he's being honest and committed. So how do you feel knowing that there's nothing else going on?

I feel good.

You feel good about that?

I just don't wanna hear that I'm the cheater. I'm not doing nothing.

Got it.

I just want to feel the same way you made me feel when we first got together.

And that's why we came here, is to put to bed some of our differences because we both don't trust each other enough and that lack of trust causes us to I say hurtful, mean things in anger and it's not fair. It's not fair to her, it's not fair to me and it's not fair to our kids.

[Speaker] Got it. So now that you've heard this, can you start to trust him fully?

[Speaker] Yes.

[Speaker] You can? Okay then, good. Well Lacey, we unlocked your phone. Is there anything in your phone that you need to tell us about, you wanna tell Aaron about before we find this? Nothing at all? All right, here we go. Aaron, you wanna know if Lacey is still communicating with one of her exes. She said she is not. My unlock the phone investigator searched her texts and found she's telling the truth. Aaron, you wanna know if Lacey is communicating with any guys online. She said she is not. My Unlock the Phone investigator searched all of her apps and found she's telling the truth. Now this was an interesting one. You want to know if she was DoorDashing from 2023 to 2024 to see if she was going to other places than where the home she was staying. She said she was. Now my Unlock the Phone investigator searched her GPS and then cross-referenced places from that app and found that she is telling the truth. She was always where she said she was going to be. We even went further back in her phone and there was nothing on there.

Awesome.

So now that you've heard this, do you trust her? Yeah. You do? Yeah. Yeah?

I feel like I can start reopening that door of letting trust be back in our relationship. 'Cause I don't have to doubt from, you know what I mean, what I don't know.

Yeah, there's nothing there. We've now heard from your friend who stayed at the house. We went through the phone, we went to the past, and there's nothing in there that could even suggest that she's cheating on you or doing anything duplicitous.

Thank you so much.

Nothing at all.

Awesome.

So I'm sad for whatever the trust issues were. The thing that we know is that you'll never be each other's first love, but you need to build the trust in your relationship if you want this to be your last love.

Thank you.

That's pretty important. You know? Are you two ready to do that work to rebuild that? Yeah. Yeah?

I think this gives us a good groundwork, you know what I mean, where we can start from the bottom now. You know what I mean? 'Cause neither one of us can say that the other one's doing something wrong. So everything from here on out is just building the trust up.

Yeah.

Instead of tearing it back down.

Listen, I'm so glad that I could help you two get these answers. This is a moment that I could tell both of you needed to start to heal.

Yes.

What's going on in your mind right now?

I just feel horrible about some of the ways I've been towards her.

Yeah. Do you wanna say anything to her right now?

I'm sorry. You didn't deserve it. I love you. I love you.

Yeah.

I think—

I think this is the reset button you both needed to say, let's move forward. Happy birthday, baby. Yeah, happy birthday. Happy birthday. You got vindicated, you got answers. Yeah, well, your wish came true for your birthday and I wish you both the best of luck. Seriously. Yeah, you deserve it.