In this episode of KARAMO, host Karamo interviews a married couple, Kentrell and his partner (Speaker C), about the challenges they face in their intimate relationship. Kentrell admits he doesn’t communicate enough and feels his concerns are dismissed, while his partner describes his communication as disrespectful, citing insults, belittling, and yelling. The couple discusses how their sexual activity has become highly inconsistent—only two or three times in the past year—leading them to feel more like roommates than romantic partners. Karamo normalizes this pattern, noting that many long‑term American couples experience a decline in sexual intimacy. The conversation then turns to private masturbation: both partners say they keep it private, and Kentrell mentions his wife has expressed that his self‑pleasuring is a problem. Throughout, Karamo encourages vulnerability, validates the couple’s experiences, and frames the issues as common relationship dynamics rather than isolated failures.
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Kentrell, what do you think? What are your thoughts on your communication?
I don't communicate often enough. And so that's a problem on my end. But when I do communicate, I feel like my feelings get dismissed or whatever I care about gets dismissed, especially if she feels like she's not getting her desires met. And on her end, I feel like when she communicates, she communicates in a very disrespectful manner.
Oh, okay.
You don't have to insult. You don't have to belittle. And while yelling, that's just disrespectful.
Do you insult him? I used to, yeah.
What would you say?
You wouldn't even do it for me in the bedroom. Immature comments, but immature things you would say that aren't true. And I would say to him, like, I don't mean that.
She literally told me that everything she says she means, 'cause I asked her if she was just saying things outta anger at one point.
He asked me when I was upset. Of course I'm gonna be like, I said what I said. But that's because I'm mad, not because I mean it. Like, that's just not the case. Oh my gosh.
And how often do you have sex now?
[Speaker] Well, it is very inconsistent, but this year—
[Speaker] Stop it.
[Speaker] It's been 2 or 3 times, but it's always been inconsistent.
[Speaker] A lot of relationships that are in, have been together for a year, 2 years, 5 years, 10 years, for some reason, there's a point where the relationship just gets into a sense of like, we're not having sex anymore. We start cohabitating as roommates. It seems shocking to y'all, But this is a norm in America. And that's why I'm very proud of y'all for being vulnerable enough to talk about this. Because I know somebody watching this is going, she over here talking about not in my house. Okay, I get it, girl. I saw you, I saw you. We got you right there in the green. We got you. She said not in my house. Okay.
She making it harder for me. Okay, did she make it harder for you, sis?
But in all sincerity, this is really something that happens in a lot of people's relationships and homes. I have another question for you and it's gonna be a little bit more private, but I really do need to know this. When you all self-pleasure or masturbate, do you tell each other or is it something that you do privately?
