A woman feels betrayed after her best friend pulled away to focus on marriage. Karamo tells her she's not responsible for her friend's choices, but she is responsible for how she responds. Without clear boundaries and real vulnerability, trust stays broken.
You know, you got married and you married success and I just felt like you just left me behind. Like you didn't show me no love. It just took me to a whole nother level of thinking like I can't trust people now.
Now let me tell you something. None of that is your responsibility. Let me be very clear. Your responsibility is not to navigate her emotions. Can you at least receive what she said, understanding that wasn't your responsibility?
Yes, I can receive it because I've missed her as a friend. Like I have missed her as a friend. There's been certain instances where I felt like Oh dang, Carmeitha would've gave me great advice for this and she wasn't there. But I did not know the way that she was feeling, like I used her because I wouldn't use her for anything. I wouldn't use anyone. I would not use you. I'm very sorry if you felt that way 'cause I did not. And I miss you as a friend. I honestly do.
Now I will say this, when she didn't set the boundaries and weren't clear about the boundaries, your feelings got hurt. And you gotta be able to navigate your feelings as well. True. Because I can see right now when you get hurt, you'd be like, ah, nope, nope.
I mean, it's normal though, right?
No, it's not. No, it's not. We not about to normalize unhealthy behavior now on the Karamo Show.
Thank you.
No.
Ma'am.
Because I heard it. You saying, go talk to your man. Can your man let you out? Because you were trying to see if you could provoke her so that she could show you some emotion. Exactly. Which would allow you to be vulnerable.
That's true.
That's why people do that. And so if you would've been vulnerable instead of trying to provoke her into vulnerability, then you could've probably heard her a little bit clearer.
That's a possibility.
Possibility. But you're hearing each other now.
Yeah.
You're hearing each other now.
Yeah.
Would you be willing to take the first steps to start to rebuild the trust and the communication in this friendship?
See, don't say it, she give me that face. No, I was just playing. I was just playing. I thought you changed. I thought she changed. I was just playing, I was just playing. I am. But all of that, ah, that gotta stop, 'cause I don't respond well to that. Like, that makes me feel like— Girl, that was 10 years ago. I jumped down your throat. Whatever happened 10 years ago, I don't give a damn now. How about that? I'm confused, because you wanna know why? I'm confused. You just did the same thing over. This is why I don't talk, because you still got that same personality. It's my person. What am I gonna do, morph into another person?
Let me think, and I'm gonna tell you this. I can see the personality traits that are so positive in you and I see the ones that are unhealthy and I just watched it get played out again.
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