I Need To Come Clean... I Cheated On My Boyfriend! | KARAMO

So what does your man say you're caught between?

Karamo, you're not gonna believe this. You're not gonna believe this. He says I'm caught between two.

Two? Y'all play so much. Okay, why he say you caught between two? Two. Okay.

I mean, he's accusing me of cheating. He's accusing me of being a liar.

Okay.

A narcissist manipulator. He thinks I'm going back and forth between men. Yeah.

Oh, that's crazy. Crazy. How long has the accusations been happening?

3 months into our relationship. Immediately, he's constantly accusing me, constantly accusing me of doing this and that and this and that.

So you sent my producers the text he sent you. Let me see this. Okay, it says, "I'm safe. You know I ain't got to catch nothing. You can trust me. You just in between. I don't wanna wait around till you got back to that." Oh my gosh, who typing like that? That's crazy. Does he always accuse you of cheating like this?

He does.

He does.

That's how it is all the time.

What?

Yeah, 'cause he's trying to deflect from what he's got going on.

That writing is wild. Okay, so why do you not live together?

It's too much pressure for me.

Yeah, too much.

It's too much, yeah. If he already treats me like this when we don't live together, I can only imagine how much pressure it would be living together.

Makes sense.

Yeah.

You have a really pretty face looking at you.

Wow.

Thank you.

Really pretty.

Yeah, you're welcome. Is there an age difference between you two? How old are you two?

There is a huge age gap, 30 years between us.

Oh.

Just about 30 years, about.

Oh, okay. 30 years age difference and he's writing like that?

Yeah, right? Right? Girl, take that.

And how long y'all been together?

We've been together 2 years, but we've known each other for 15 years.

Okay, 2 years, known each other for 15. Okay then. And how do you feel about him?

Honestly, I love him. You know, he's a great support system. Yeah. I really do. But that's just relationship-wise, he's too much. Yeah, I feel like he's insecure. I feel like he's a narcissist. Yeah, and I feel like he's sucking the life out of me. That's genuinely how I feel.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. So are you, but you're not doing anything to give him insecurities?

No, that's why I came here.

Got it. 'Cause you called the show to unlock your phone, but decided you wanted to come clean instead? Hold on, take a look at this. Somebody, what's going on? Can we turn this on?

So I chose not to unlock my phone because I've been lying. Just recently, I did start talking to other men. Angel knows about one guy that I was dealing with on a breakup, but there's actually two guys, and I never told him about the other one. I slept with one of the two men, and the other one is just someone I go out with. I've sent some nude videos. There is an adult content video. It would definitely hurt him if he saw those videos. There's also some messages between me and one of the other guys. About me being pregnant by the other guy. Angel knows nothing. This was a few months ago. And I went and got an abortion. This whole coming clean is really hard because I know it's gonna hurt him. I will continue to see the other man.

Girl.

At least I came clean, Karamo.

You did, but I asked you just a minute, before my shady producer was like, you wanna come clean? I was like, you doing anything to make this man insecure? So clearly.

I mean, but he's been like this from the beginning. Okay, he's been like that, okay. Yeah, he's been like this from the beginning. I have not always stepped out.

Okay, so this is just recently.

This is just recently.

That you became in between, 'cause he was right, you in between too.

Yeah.

Okay.

Yeah, he was right.

So how do you think he's going to react to this?

Honestly, I think he's gonna be upset and hurt. Yeah. Yeah, but at the same time, you know, he's lied and cheated on me a lot. Oh, he did? You know what I'm saying? He's gotta be understanding in some way or another. You know, if I forgave him, he needs to forgive me.

All right, well, your boyfriend Angel's backstage. He also watched your confession. So everyone please welcome Angel to the show. Hey, how you doing, sir?

I'm good, my boy. How you doing?

I'm good. How you feel about what she just confessed?

Not happy. She has to do it, man.

You should be understanding because of all the things that you've done to me. You've lied and you've cheated.

I lied? I did what?

You've lied and cheated again.

I lied?

When?

For a whole year straight, you were cheating.

A whole year?

A whole year.

Where was I at?

You know where you were at. You know where you were at, Angel. You do. Still lying. You're still lying. You're still lying about it. You're not gonna come clean? I came clean. What about you? It's your turn.

I didn't cheat.

This is what I deal with.

So you've never cheated on her?

Nah.

Not once? No.

Yes, he has.

Okay, all right.

Yes, he has. I've seen the messages before.

Why is she so convinced then that you've cheated?

I don't know. Look, I have some exes that keep hitting me up and like I can't get rid of 'em. They're like cockroaches, you know what I'm saying?

He's lying, he's lying. You're lying, Angel. No, I'm not lying.

I keep telling you, these bitches keep calling me. What am I supposed to do?

Well, you gotta be mature enough to just admit it, Angel. Just admit it.

So when they call you, do you call them back? Do you respond?

At times when they're calling me on a new number, you know what I mean?

So when they call from a new number is the only time, but if they're calling from a regular number, you don't respond?

Yes, yes.

So why were you accusing her all of the time?

Because if the shoe fits, you know what I mean?

Now he was deflecting.

I moved away, an hour away.

Why don't you just tell them the truth, Angel? Just tell them the truth.

What's the truth?

That you're a liar and cheater.

I'm not a liar and cheater.

You pushed me to cheat on you, you did.

I pushed you? It's my fault.

It's your fault, Angel. And I grabbed this man's phone You forced me to him.

You dropped the ball with this. Are you hearing yourself?

I am hearing myself.

Are you hearing yourself?

Yeah.

Do you hear yourself?

I am hearing myself. Do you hear me though?

First of all, do you understand how a conversation works, right? I talk and then you talk, okay?

Okay, uh-huh.

How is it my fault that you cheated on me?

I'm not gonna have a conversation if you're not gonna be honest. I'm not gonna listen to you, I'm not gonna allow you to speak, I'm not gonna hear anything if you don't be honest.

So how do you feel about the relationship?

I moved away on purpose. She's out and about doing her young bitch shit.

You've known each other for 15 years. Yes. Why start a relationship 2 years ago?

Look, I'm not gonna lie to you. I love her. She's everything to me.

He was a good support system. I lost the father of my kids and I needed somebody to lean on. Got it. And so I leaned on him.

She's been the only thing that just put me together, you know what I mean?

So both of you needed each other in your most vulnerable times. And so you decided to create a relationship out of that.

I said, let's try it, yeah.

Do you feel a sense of relief knowing this now that she's been cheating?

A sense of relief? I'm fucking fuming right now.

Yeah. You're pissed off.

I'm pissed, beyond pissed.

Even though you do you, you're pissed and you're fuming.

You sat there and just admitted it to me. I haven't admitted to shit 'cause I haven't done shit.

I don't know why you just wanna admit to it. You'll feel better. I feel much better now. I'm glad that I came clean.

Well, I'm glad you do.

Angel, you claim you have never cheated, so we unlocked your phone to find out. Well, Angel, you refused to unlock your phone.

That's right. Why you didn't unlock your phone if you didn't have nothing to hide, Angel?

What are you hiding?

Nothing.

You just continues to lie.

Why don't you come clean though? She's already admitted it. Just come clean, Angel. So then why not unlock your phone if you feel insecure?

Like I said, like those two women, they keep calling me and I do conversate with them once in a while.

Okay, so you have conversations?

Yeah, I don't know.

So you have conversations. Have you had sex with them?

Yes, he has.

Okay.

Yes, he has. He absolutely has. That's why you need to unlock your phone.

So why not just block women if you're saying they're such?

Come on now. Why you don't block them, Angel?

Because of the way shit's going, you never know. I mean, seriously.

Exactly.

Oh, so you wanna keep them holding on, keep them stringing along so that way you can take out her ass.

Think about it.

Angel, I was so close to being on your side. I was like, hold on, maybe he really being honest up until this moment and up until you said that you keep communicating with them. So I would say that she's probably right, that you probably are emotionally or physically cheating. I can't tell which is one.

It ain't physically.

So you're emotionally cheating. Okay, so you're emotionally cheating. Thank you. Okay, great. So leave me alone.

Oh, I see you taking words outta my mouth.

Come on now.

No, no, no, no, no, no.

I asked you two questions. You said you're not doing one, which then means you're doing the other.

Angel, you know you're cheating.

You know you're sleeping with other men.

No, I'm not.

Yes, you are.

No, I'm not.

That's why you wanna unlock your phone. If it was just old simple conversation, you'd unlock it. You're hiding something.

I'm not unlocking shit.

You now know that she's talking to other men because she's checked out of this relationship. She sounds like she's been checked out for a while. It sounds like since you moved an hour away that you're checked out as well.

I mean, I choose peace. Uh-huh. I choose me. I choose me.

Feeling peace. Feeling peace. As you should. So this is my thing. If you two met at a time when you were both vulnerable, means that there was an honesty and transparency there about who you are. So my question, because clearly this is about to end, so why not in the ending of the relationship say, let's get back to that. This is, I did it. She just did that. She's mimicking how you started, which is in this instance healthy because she's saying, yeah, we got together. You knew all my baggage. You knew what was going on. Let me tell you. And now she's saying, as we end, here's all my baggage too. What she's allowing is for there to be a door to an opening of a friendship. Because if you support each other in your most vulnerable moment, there might be another moment where she could say, you know what, I can trust him. But what you're doing is the exact opposite. We know you're done, this relationship is done. So why not just give her the transparency so that you both could say, you know what, damn, we was both trifling. I did something, you did something. Yes, I'm mad. Yes, you're mad. But okay, we're finished and let's keep going on. Don't you feel like that'd be a healthy way to end this?

I mean, right now I feel betrayed. I'm not gonna lie to you. Like what I did?

So what did you do?

It's on another level of what she did.

Okay, then what did you do?

I just, I conversated.

Okay, and so you had an emotional affair?

If that's what you wanna call it.

What do you call it then?

I call it, I'm calling it conversating with somebody.

And those conversations, did you say things like, I miss you, I love you, I think about you? Never. Okay.

I'll tell you what they've said. I said, "Can you come over and smash?" And then? But no, I don't, I don't, that's not my get down.

And then what did you say? What did you say?

That's not my get down. You've known me, oh, you just brush it off and play and you know, kind of joke out of it.

So there was playing and joking. In those playing and joking moments, what did you say?

I'm the, I'm the—

It's okay.

He's getting choked up, yeah.

It's okay, you can be honest with her. She's just admitted, if you look—

I can't even look at her. Understand that?

Listen, we would know exactly what you said if you would've unlocked your phone. We could've given you exactly the clarity, but you didn't unlock your phone.

I'm a private person. I'm not gonna be, I'm not gonna go there.

You said that she was stuck between two things. The thing that you're stuck between is lying to yourself right now.

Thank you.

And that's the truth.

Thank you.

'Cause the thing is, is that I'm not gonna vilify you, same way I'm not gonna vilify y'all because y'all both been checked outta this relationship. She also, I just found out you changed your flight home. To a different flight because you don't wanna fly next to him.

Yeah, that's correct.

Right?

Yeah.

So she didn't wanna fly next to you.

So she did me a favor.

Exactly. Well listen, I'm glad that you were able to be honest and forthright. You done, you checked out, you finished, right?

Pretty much.

Yes, yes, yes. Pretty much, girl. Pretty much. Pretty much.

Hold on.

Pretty much.

Absolutely.

Okay, absolutely. Absolutely. And you got your answers now. You moved an hour away. I wish you and your exes the best of luck, and I wish you and the guys you talking to the best of luck. Okay, okay, that's it. Thank you. All right, yeah, all right, everyone make sure to come back so we can keep talking and growing. I love you all.