I'm a Dark-Skinned Afro-Latina, Why Doesn't My Man Want Me?! | KARAMO

So, Nancy, I just heard about what's going on in your relationship. Um, please tell me about the secrets that your man has been hiding.

Well, many secrets. I found a phone in the house. He fell asleep. I went through the phone. As soon as I alerted him. He broke the phone?

No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. And so once he broke the phone, what did he say?

As if he didn't know the phone was in the house.

He just said he didn't know it was there.

Yes, as if he didn't know the phone was in the house or what he had, any association to the phone. So I felt as if I had to interrogate him, which I did.

What did he say the phone was there for?

Oh, to communicate to family because I might go through the phone.

So he said he needed a second phone to communicate with family because you were going through.

Right.

So when he broke the phone, did he break the SIM card?

Everything went flying everywhere. Complete pieces everywhere around the house. I had to do a deep clean to find the SIM card, which I took as a hint. Let me go through it a little bit more.

Mm. So when you say to go through it a little bit more, did you take the phone to the store or something, try to get it?

So I took the SIM card and I went to different Cricket locations.

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

And which he was right by my side doing so. Let's all investigate.

Uh-huh. Why stay at this point?

Well—

'Cause 3 years, you got your doubts, you see that he was talking to other people. Did you ever confirm that he was actually doing anything?

No.

So never confirmed, but you had your doubts, you see that your self-esteem is being affected. What's going on? Why stay?

Well, it's the lover with the easy touch, and he has that touch. He's overall a kind man.

Okay.

He's never been aggressive in tone throughout this whole entire—

So he's kind to you?

Yes.

He's loving to you? Yes. Okay, then what exactly are you looking for in his phone then? Because I'm getting mixed messages.

Right. I'm looking for something closer to sexual infidelity.

You told my phone investigator that you wanna know if he's on dating apps.

Yes.

You wanna know if he's still talking to any of his exes.

Yes.

And you also want to know if he's going to motels.

Yes, so you know how Google can pin you to certain locations?

Yeah.

Now let's say you go to a restaurant and you're supposed to be pinned to that location, but why is it pinned pinning you to Motel 6.

How many times did he get pinned to a Motel 6?

Well, that's not the only hotel he's been pinned to.

Oh, he's been pinned to multiple hotels.

Right.

So who's lying, Google or the person coming home tonight?

And so what is he saying about that?

I'm working locally.

What does he do for a living?

Lawn care specialist.

Okay. Mm-hmm. So there is a possibility that he could be in areas where he could get pinned. If he working in a lawn, it's not like he's going to a corporate office and he has to be in the same building, same cubicle every single day. He's in the field. Karamo. I'm just trying to get, listen, I'm gonna hear his side and I'm hearing your side, but I'm just trying to put together because I'm a fair person. Like I wanna know. Yeah, you. Listen everyone, Nancy is tired of all the lies and secrets and wants me to unlock her man's phone. Everyone, please welcome Nancy's boyfriend Gary to the show so we can get his side. How you doing? Good to meet you. Take a seat for me. So tell me, how are you feeling about this?

Oh, it's a lot.

'Cause you know there's that saying, you seek and you'll find. It seems like she's doing a lot of seeking to find something about you. Yeah. Is there something that she's gonna find?

No, definitely not. Definitely not.

Nope. So why does she believe that you're hiding secrets?

Because I've had secrets in the past, you know, and we trying to get past that, you know what I mean?

Okay. What were the secrets?

Well, when I first came home, I told her I had female friends and she didn't believe me. She found out that they weren't just friends, they were actually exes, you know?

Right. So. Were you doing anything with these women? No. Then why couldn't you be honest with her?

Because, you know, typically women don't—

Tread light, don't generalize.

All right, all right, all right.

Right, right, right.

Because at the beginning it wasn't too clear. It wasn't too clear at the beginning. It wasn't too clear. I wouldn't want her to be friends with exes or other men. Right, right, right.

You were projecting onto her, which caused you to lie. Oh, wow.

Yeah.

Okay, okay, got it, okay. So then what about the second phone that you broke and that you had to go to Cricket for? Why would you break that? 'Cause you do understand that reinforces—

Yes, I got frustrated. I got frustrated because my family was feeling like she was reading my text messages.

Does your family like her?

They do, and they have their opinions a little bit, you know, but—

I've known this family for years. Years and I've earned and worked hard to earn everyone's trust.

I got a serious question for you as well outside of this. Are you attracted to your woman? Do you love her dark complexion?

Yes, yes. My mother's the same complexion as her. I love my mother. I love my mom.

Why the line of ladies look like J.Lo and, you know, light-skinned Afro-Latinas, but this is all chocolate here. This is all chocolate. I'm gonna need more, signification that you love this, that you want this, that you desire this. Regardless of your preferences.

Tell him, tell him.

Regardless of your preferences, regardless of your preferences, I need to know that you devour this because regardless of your past preferences, obviously that didn't work out for a reason. Sometimes the chocolate is best left alone. So this is how I feel about the entire thing. This is why I have access. And have gained access through the relationship of the phone. Because I feel like, okay, if you're not gonna come to me and tell me what's going on, then I need to make myself aware. That means I become—

You're choosing to talk to me though, but you're restricting me.

It's not restriction. If you feel free in a relationship and you're being honest in a relationship, then what is restricted? Freedom is honesty. Honesty is freedom. Enjoy it. Just be open.

Does she have this complaint often about you not feeling you not being attracted to her because of her skin tone?

Yes, she has brung that up.

Not at the beginning. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. Not at the beginning.

Can she trust you?

Yeah, she could trust me.

Have you cheated?

I have not cheated. I haven't cheated.

Sexually.

I have not cheated. Sexually. I have not cheated.

P.

I have not cheated.

And if that isn't—

She's just looking.

Well, looking to entertain yourself. Would you like for me to look and entertain myself? Hi.

You handed your phone over to my phone investigators. Are you concerned at all?

No, definitely not. I'm not cheating.

You're not concerned at all?

At all, no.

Okay then. You seem very confident. Yeah. That body language switched. Let me tell you, when I said that, he got anchored and did this. No. Okay. All right, I see it. All right, perfect. Well, listen, before we unlock Gary's phone, I want to know, Nancy, if we find something in Gary's phone, will you stay with him?

The answer is that if anything comes about, I am prepared to cruise along by myself.

Okay? Okay. All right?

Okay.

Well, listen, everyone, it's time for me to unlock the phone. Nancy, you want to know specific things. You want to know if Gary is still on dating apps. You also want to know if Gary is still texting with an ex or has her name saved in the phone in another way. You wanna know all of that, correct? You didn't know that, bitch. She looking for specifics. I see your face. And you also wanna know if Gary has gone to any motel since November 1st, 2022.

Correct.

Got it.

All right.

All right, Nancy, you want to find out if Gary is on any dating apps with a specific date after 2022. Gary, you denied it.

Yeah.

My unlock the phone investigator searched Gary's apps and he is telling the truth.

I told you, I told you, I told you, I told you, I told you, I told you.

You're not done yet, Gary.

Let's go, let's go, let's get it, let's get it, let's go.

Nancy, you also want to know if Gary has gone to any motel since November 1st, 2022. My Unlock the Phone investigator shirts Gary's GPS, and he is telling the truth.

Told you, I told you, I told you, I told you, I told you. Let's go, let's go, let's go.

Nancy, you also want to know if Gary is still communicating with a specific ex. Gary says he is not. My Unlock the Phone investigator searched Gary's texts and we found 8,000 text messages.

8,000 text messages? Yeah, right. Let's see what it is. Let's see what it is. Let's see what it is. Come on, roll it out. Roll it out. Let's go and roll it out. 8,000 text messages.

But I'm gonna tell you this, the text messages were not between him and the ex directly. It was about you and him talking about the ex and him talking to you. It was messages that when I saw the message between you all, that's what I had to pull up because that was a red flag to me. Can I get the evidence bag of stuff that I found? Thank you, yes. Everything that he's saying, he has not cheated on you. And we have went, we found old evidence. We went through.

Thank you so much. He said 8,000 text messages.

It was 8,000 messages between you two. "I ain't even your type, you're just desperate. Call your concerned brother, call each of your every ex, call them white bitches. You gotta get out my face. And you got a Lyft account for some B-word?" Sister, this is your insecurities playing with your mind. It's your insecurities. You know that, right? Listen, I'm not going to sit here and say that in the beginning this man didn't do something that made you feel like, can I trust him? It was in the beginning of the relationship. But what I'm realizing now is that you haven't given an opportunity for y'all to rebuild the trust. You're not giving an opportunity. When you're texting him about this and telling him, calling him these names and doing this, and I looked at your responses, you were supportive in almost every response. What are your thoughts? What's your thoughts?

Well, you know, like, I'm here for her and I'm always supportive of her and I have made my mistakes, you know what I mean? I'm here to give her relief, you get what I'm saying? Because I wanna move forward in this.

What's going through your mind right now? 'Cause you got tears. I know it's part of relief.

Yeah.

But what's going through your mind?

Like you said, it's part relief and I'm aware of some of the damage that I've made vocally because of this and how it has affected me tremendously. He's not responsible for 100% of my insecurities. He's not, I'm not gonna put that on him. And he has been by my side the whole way is I'm still healing, of course. I still have had my doubts about it.

[Speaker:KARAMO] You said you wanna cruise through this relationship, but you're the one causing all the bumps. You making this a bumpy ride. And the real thing is like you even said outta your own mouth that he has been a good man, that he communicates very well with me. These are things you said, he's kind. And I read it in 8,000 messages. I literally sat in my office this morning and read y'all's text messages back and forth. And literally you say things to him and somebody else would've cussed y'all ass out. And he doesn't. He tries to reaffirm you. And I'm glad you're acknowledging that he did not start to start this, and I know that the world has probably beaten you up about how beautiful you are.

Thank you.

I know it has. Mm-hmm. What has that been like for you?

It's been hard. It's been hard 'cause no one believes my background. Nobody believes my culture. Nobody believes it when they see me.

Yeah.

When they see me for who I am.

So I did a little something this morning, and I went to your Instagram, and I also saw that there's a lot of photos of you that you put on filters. And don't get me wrong, I love a cute filter girl. I'll swipe right to Paris in a heartbeat, okay? But your filters lighten you. You know that, right?

I do.

Yeah. And I'm looking at you right now and you're beautiful. So this morning I wanted to remind you. So I had my PAs take a photo of you. That photo. Do you remember that photo yesterday?

Yes.

And I had them go run on the street and I wanted to get strangers' reactions. Oh my God. Real reactions. I want you to watch this.

Wow.

Wow.

Oh, she's so pretty.

She is very beautiful. She's hot, bro. She is fire.

She has nice skin, beautiful brown skin and freckles.

Gorgeous skin.

I absolutely love her skin tone. I love her melanin.

Beautiful black features.

Come on, queen.

Okay, queen, she better work.

Eyebrows working too. Oh my God, her brows are perfect. I need to get mine done wherever she does hers.

Honestly, gorgeous. This is something I'll take home to my mom. I'll date her. Does she have a man? For real, like where's she at?

This is just a gorgeous young lady. Absolutely is.

By the way, we did not. We didn't prompt one of those people. We said, what do you think of this person? You are stunning and you are beautiful. And I know you got a man who was telling you that, but he made you feel insecure a little bit because of his exes. But them exes, he's here with you. He'll tell your woman you love her.

Yeah, I do. I do love you. And I tell you all the time that you're beautiful.

But you gotta start believing it. And I need before you leave this stage today for you to do the work to understand that who you are is enough and how you look is stunning. You got a man that is not cheating on you. He's not going around doing anything. He loves you. He loves every bit of you from your dark skin to the soul to even your feistiness. He loves you, all right?

Yes.

Remind yourself of this. Give your man a hug.

You gonna be all right, sister.

You gonna be all right. Give it up for her. She gorgeous, right? Y'all gonna be all right. You got your answers now, right?

Yes.

You got your answers. Yeah. But work on that self-esteem. Want more unlocked phones, DNA reveals, and family drama? Then make sure you're subscribed to the Karamo Show YouTube.