I'm BISEXUAL So I Got A Girlfriend When He Got LOCKED Up! | KARAMO

So how did you find out that he got another woman pregnant?

So I was at work, minding my business, and the cousin reached out to me and said, "You know your husband got another baby on the way, right?" I was like, "Well, who my husband?" Okay, you needed clarity. Who's my husband? You needed clarity. I'm like, "Leave me alone." So she just ran it down. She said that he was dealing with her cousin and she didn't want, I guess she didn't wanna reach out to me to start problems. So she wanted her cousin to do it. And at the time I was pregnant. With my daughter.

Okay.

And I was high-risk pregnancy and I was like, well, you know what? To be honest with you, if it is his, we'll cross that bridge when we get there, bitch. But right now I'm pregnant.

You gotta focus on you.

I'm trying to have my own damn kids. So I just kind of swept it under the rug and let it go for real at the time.

Yeah.

So did you stay with him after that?

I did stay with him after that. And then that's, I think that's when it got a little messy because I started like posting TikToks and we was cooking in the kitchen and all that other good stuff. So then the bitch reached back out.

Uh-huh.

Like, uh-uh, y'all too happy now. You know how you kind of get silent?

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

And then so they kind of try to, throw it in there, like she was trying to put a wrench on my relationship.

So did you ever bring it up to him and say, hey?

You know what, I did briefly. He denied it, and again, I was high-risk pregnancy.

So you just didn't want to know?

So it was nothing more important than my baby girl.

It makes sense to me.

Nothing more important. I didn't give a damn what he was doing, what she was doing, so I just swept it under the rug.

So this other woman was upset that you two stayed together?

She was upset that we stayed together, so that kind of made me think, like, is it really his baby, or do you just want to see us, You know, broken up. It had got to the point so bad to where her and a girl came to my house.

No.

Everybody know you do not come to no woman house, okay? Do not. Do not show up to the wife house. Like, I'm the wife, why are you here? If anything, I should be coming to your house.

Yeah.

So she came to my house. We ain't gotta get into details. Just know I went to jail. Okay? I went to jail and court.

Well, you can't tell me you went to jail. Now I need the details. Like, what happened when she knocked on the door?

We ain't gonna give no details.

What happened when she knocked on the door?

Just know that charges was dropped, I got out within a week.

Okay, okay.

You can't come to people's house. My husband ended up, we both got arrested, okay? So he ended up staying in jail.

Okay. What happened to the woman? Did she go to jail?

She did not go to jail. She did not go to jail, her or the other woman. Crazy part about it is, two girls linked up on Facebook and showed up at my house together. They was both dealing with my husband.

Oh.

Okay. So it's messy, Karamo.

So hold on.

So messy.

Hold on, so two women came together.

Yes.

Came to your house.

Correct.

That both said they was messing with your husband.

Correct, they weren't even friends.

They weren't friends. And then at that point, you said, "Uh, I'm not playing with any of y'all." Exactly. Especially not you talking to your husband.

Correct.

And then you went to jail.

Yeah, we went to jail. So I ended up getting out and he ended up staying in. For other reasons or whatever, so he stayed in for a while. And I had had my daughter, mind y'all, I had had my daughter at the time. We had just got out the NICU and stuff like that.

How's she now?

Big and bad. She's almost 2 now, so we good. So I ended up getting out the hospital and whatever. I mean, she ended up getting out the NICU and stuff like that, so we were good. He stayed in jail. So it kind of like, I must have got a delayed reaction 'cause when he was in jail, I was like, what are you doing?

Yeah.

What are you doing?

That's when you woke up.

So yeah, that's when I really, especially when he started asking for money on his books. Hell no. Nope, nope, I'm taking care of your kids and you want money on your books? No. So at that time, that's when I decided to kind of move on. But we were still married. I got a girlfriend.

Okay.

I got a girlfriend.

Okay.

You know, I've been, don't get me wrong, I've been always, you know, bi, both ways.

Okay, you've always been bisexual.

Yeah, so it wasn't a surprise to my family or my mom or nobody like that. And she kind of, you know, she picked me up and she put my little pieces together and stuff like that. And we was good. We, you know, we still good. We're still friends. The thing about it is, is that I love my husband. You know what I mean? I wanna be with my husband. I never stopped loving him, but I just had to try to make a decision of who I was, who you gonna put first, you or him?

Makes sense.

And at that time I just stood on business and I said, that's it.

So let me back this up. I'm glad you stayed on business. Yeah, give it up for that. Was that other baby his?

We don't know yet.

Oh, and he's never gotten the DNA test?

He's never got a DNA test.

Okay then.

And she's never given him the DNA test.

Got it. And let me be clear, how long have you two been together, you and your husband?

We've been together 3 years. We just had an anniversary on November 4th. Okay. But last year we did not celebrate together. Aw, honey, honey. He is fine. I ain't gonna hold you.

So right now you separated?

Right now we are on a trial period. We were separated, I told you it was messy. Okay. Okay. So we was, We don't live together. And so we just decided maybe a month ago that we were gonna try to start moving slow.

Okay.

Me personally feel like he's still on my shit.

Okay.

You know, I feel like he just knows that he got me where he, I'm his wife, I got a new baby. I only had one son, so I didn't want any more kids and stuff like that. So I really, when I married this man and I said I was gonna have your kid, this was really pretty much it for me. Like he's all I see and you know.

I mean, I know you keep calling this messy, but you're setting a lot of healthy boundaries. Oh, thank you. Like you are like literally saying, okay, no, we're not gonna stay together. We're gonna be on trial basis.

Yeah.

You saying I'm not gonna do this. You are actually putting yourself and your family first.

Thank you.

Yeah, you really are. Thank you. I know some things done got messy in there. Yeah. Okay, but for the most part, you are consistently trying from what you're telling me.

Consistently trying. And that's the problem, Karamo. I don't feel like he's trying hard enough.

Got it.

Okay. I feel like people like, well, what do you want him to do? Kiss my ass.

Yeah.

Period. All the time. Yeah. Like you did me wrong, you hurt me, you traumatized me.

Traumatized me.

So at this point, I want his phone unlocked because I wanna know, are you still dibbin' and dabbin' or is your focus still me right now? You know what I mean? And the thing about it is, I know this dude, I know my husband. I know he a hoe. You know what I mean? I just wanna know when you gonna stop being a hoe.

Got it.

For your wife. And if you're not, then what?

What if he says he can't?

Then that's it.

That's it, got it. All right, well I think it's time to meet Darryl and hear her side of the story. So everyone please welcome Darryl to the show. Hey, Darryl, how you doing? Good, good, good.

Nice to meet you.

Nice to meet you. Nice to meet you. Thank you for being here.

Thank you.

So I gotta ask you, why did you step out on your marriage?

Well, I wasn't being valued. Like—

You said he a fuckboy?

Like, to start off lying is crazy. To start off lying is crazy. Tell the truth. Shame on that one.

I felt like I wasn't being valued.

What was to be valued at the time?

I felt like I gave, I was there for one, I was there for your son, I was there for you, I was doing everything that a man should do.

That you felt like you was supposed to do.

I'm just saying.

Okay, you wasn't valued, so that gave you a reason to go cheat on me?

Well, no, that and the fact that, like she said, you've always been bi. So that and her inviting other women into the bedroom, I just thought it was just fair game.

So at some point, did you enjoy that she invited other people into the bedroom?

Yeah.

Okay.

Listen, I enjoy it one time. We did that, all right. I don't like a lot of people around me every day of the week.

Are you trying to move back in with your wife?

No, not right now. I want to take it slow.

Okay.

I want that part. I agree on that part.

I see.

That's what I mean, like the control issues. I told her that 2 weeks ago, I want to take it slow. And then I wouldn't answer her phone. She popped up at my house trying to get in through the window. Yeah.

That's allegedly, Karamo. I was not trying to get through the window. I was acting like I was going to I was gonna get to the window so he could come out.

I was not really trying to climb through the window. Girl, you go crazy, ain't you, girl?

A little bit.

A little bit.

A little bit. I mean, but I'm only crazy when you make up. Like, I'm really cool. Like, I'm real cool.

Yeah.

I'm cool.

But then when you take me there, it's kind of like, you know, you a Scorpio. Don't play. You know how we act.

This ain't me no more, I tell you.

I ain't gonna lie to you. You do sound 20-year-old me, best friend.

Don't she sound like 20-year-old me?

I ain't gonna lie, when you've been talking, I've been like, ooh, this sound like old me. Okay, listen, I think it's time to unlock the phone. Daryl, we unlocked your phone. What you smiling about? Okay, now I know why you smiling, 'cause Daryl, we did not unlock your phone. You refused.

Why did you refuse to unlock the phone, Daryl?

Because I feel like, It's not—

'Cause you's a hoe.

No.

Say it. No. Say it, say it. I'm wrong.

It's 'cause you already know what has transpired. You know that I've been talking to women. You know I've been having relationships.

So you didn't want me to see the freaky details?

I didn't want you to reopen, or you know what I'm saying, a can of worms.

Open up a—

Yeah, yeah, it's unnecessary.

Oh, shut up.

Well, listen, after refusing to lock your phone, my producers say that you opened up about why. Let's take a look at what you told them.

I'm uncomfortable with unlocking my phone because one of my exes keeps contacting me. She's actually crazy. I just had to block her a couple of days ago. She's just at my throat pretty much at this point. At the end of the day, I could have 20 women in the phone and it wouldn't even matter.

You don't—

do you have 20 women in your phone?

No. Yeah.

Yeah.

Well, because you can't get occupied with just one. You know, I just— I can't fall in love with just one. You just got to keep moving. And that's what I'm saying. I live on my own. I feel like if I were to unlock the phone, Siobhan will get in her crazy mind to make up something. And read into it, and then all of this is for nothing. The truth is I don't want to be in a relationship with the other female. I'm just trying to figure out where me and Siobhan stand as far as getting our family back together. Siobhan, she holds a sacred spot in my heart, and I just want to try to build off that and try to rekindle that.

Okay.

Okay.

What are your thoughts about what you heard?

He's good at that. He's good at throwing shit out there, making me sweat in his jacket, and then buttering it up.

Yeah.

He's good at that.

Okay.

So that's where I need to know like the truth. And to be honest with you, the phone situation, yeah, I wanted him to lock the phone, but like I said, I know this man.

Yeah.

And we were separated, you know what I mean? So I couldn't even, and I'm not the type of person that, oh, I wanna look through your phone, I wanna see that. You a grown-ass man. Either you a grown-ass man, that is not true, that was at the beginning, but after a while I did stop looking through your phone and stuff because I was like, what's the point? For one, I'm hurting my own feelings, and you can't control what a grown-ass person do. You cannot control it. Either you gonna do it or you're not. I'm not gonna keep—

Darryl, what do you want to happen today?

I wanna come to like an agreement, you know?

What does that mean? Do you wanna save your marriage? Do you wanna be married to me?

This is the controlling. See what I'm saying?

I don't think it's— So, okay, I wrote this down earlier. So this is my first thing that I wrote down. When you said it, I said no control expectations. I actually don't think this is about control. I think what happens is that when she's cutting you off is because the expectations keep switching, that she's unsure about the expectations. So to get clarity, she asks you for them and then it seems like she's trying to control the situation.

Right.

Thank you.

Because I need to know what's going on. So what the two of you do do that is healthy is that you actually do put your family first. You actually are trying to make healthy choices. Like, I'm like watching through this and I'm like, okay, green flag there. Okay, green flag there. You're actually trying. But I think the expectations of what this love looks like has never been set clearly. And so therefore when she tries to say, just tell me A, B, and C, what it is, you give her something ambiguous that makes her feel as if I don't know what's going on. And then you feel like she's starting to control you when she says, "Give me A, B, and C." And so if she comes to you and says, "What's the expectation so that I can be clear about my own feelings, the feelings for my family?" You're not giving that to her. And then you feel as if like, "Oh." Thank you.

That's exactly why I brought you here so we can clock it. So we can clock that shit. Thank you, Karamo.

You're welcome.

I feel like it was, A lot of that came with the separation because we are married. But then again, I was dating other women and so it's just—

Well, regardless of what, if you love somebody, I had a whole girlfriend that was doing everything for me. Like I said, swept me off my feet. She was great. She was everything you could imagine, but she was not you. She was not my husband. It is a certain type of love that you have that, and then when you love somebody and you really want that, it doesn't matter what you were doing and how you was doing it.

So at some point, how long did it take you to get to that point?

I've been at that point, but like I said, I needed you to show me.

No, you have not.

I literally needed you to show me. You was not showing me enough, Darryl. You was not showing me enough.

You not showing me enough. What did you show me?

I shouldn't have to. You was the cheater.

Okay, you left. But you can't hold that over her head when you're the one who broke the foundation.

You gotta hold people accountable for their choices.

But you're not holding yourself accountable. You're putting the standard.

Thank you.

It's a double standard here.

Thank you.

Stuck by your side even through the betrayal. She's been honest with you. She has still tried not to bash you. Yeah, I see the crazy in her. I see it, okay? But you get a kick outta that. You like that too. So yeah.

But that's why I act crazy 'cause I hate emotion. It's like it's only so much. It's only so many tears I can cry. It's only so many things I can do and to even express and show you like how much I love you and wanna be with you. But I'm not gonna be no damn dummy.

Darrell, the question is.

That's what I'm not gonna do.

During this trial period, can you commit to not seeing anybody else? Yes.

Yeah.

That was hesitant.

Why that was hesitant?

No, because I had to honestly think about it and yeah.

See, the fact that you can't just say okay tells me a lot about the fact that you're not ready.

No. You're not ready.

Honestly.

And if you can't say that, then I mean, we might as well just leave here separately. If you can't say this is you who I want, I love you, Siobhan Nelson, I wanna be with you when I'm done with them hoes. Let's end it. That's just that.

What do you wanna do? 'Cause this is the moment where you would normally say she's controlling, but what she just said is gave you an expectation.

Well, she gave me an ultimatum.

So the fact that she gave you an ultimatum shows that you might not be ready. And I feel that. Because what she said was not an ultimatum. I feel that. I'm asking you is to just say you love me and I'm gonna be done with women. I do love you, I do love you, but I don't wanna be done with women.

I'm not ready.

That's the most honest thing. He's not ready. So you came here for your answers. He's not ready. And I appreciate you being honest. Now girl, you gotta make your choice.

Now I gotta make my choice.

And I think I already know what choice you about to make.

Yeah, you already know.

Yeah, I already know. Well, I wish y'all the best of luck though. Thank you. I wish y'all the best of luck. Thank you for being here.