In this short Q&A segment, a grieving individual (Speaker A) shares that they have been dealing with the loss of a close person for two to three months and are noticing that many of their friendships feel surface‑level, with friends who have historically been supportive now unable or unwilling to reciprocate emotional support. The advisor (Speaker B) acknowledges the pain of losing a support network, commends the asker’s self‑awareness, and offers concrete coping advice: (1) allow grief emotions to surface rather than suppressing them; (2) actively seek out and invest in friends who are present and supportive; (3) re‑evaluate existing relationships, giving more value to those who step up during the grieving period. The conversation ends with the asker affirming the reminder and expressing intent to apply the guidance.
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So what's your question? Do you have any general advice around grief? I lost someone very close to me recently.
Well, first of all, I'm sorry. How long have you been dealing with the grief?
Months, like 2, 3 months.
Months, yeah. Grief is a process and it takes a while for you to deal with it. Do you have people that you can reach out to?
I'm relearning all of that now and seeing who's like actually in my corner right now.
And what have you been discovering?
That a lot of friendships have been kind of a little surface level and these are friends that I've always been able to support and be there for and they don't seem to have the skillset to kind of give it back.
I mean, well, one of the things that you just said right now is a lot of times people get very sad because the people that leaned on them, they can't lean on as well. And you're learning that lesson. But what I love about your intelligence in this situation is that it sounds like you're still looking for other people who can give you that.
Yeah.
In that search, have you been able to find it?
And I'm revaluing certain friendships that kind of, not were to the side, but they're stepping up more and I'm putting my value more into them now that we're sharing this space here.
So lemme tell you what I love about people who ask me for advice. They're actually always smarter than they don't need my advice. Because the only advice I will tell you is to lean in and put value into those who are showing up for you. For sure. As well, make sure that if you ever have a moment of grief, you don't try to stop that. Because a lot of times if you have feelings that pop up and you try to say, you know what, let me hold it down right now, I can't. That's always going to be a negative in your life because at some point the grief will just overflow in the wrong situation. So if you have a moment where you feeling sad, let it out. If you have a moment where you need to scream, let it out. You walk away, you can talk about it because you can't hold it down. And then again, just reach out to those people who are reaching back out to you and put value in them.
Yeah, will do. You already have the intelligence. No, I needed the reminder. You need the reminder. There you go. There you go, brother.
All right, friends, listen, That's Q and K. We're gonna be back with more. See you in a bit.
