It’s Been 4 Years, Can You Forgive Me? | KARAMO

All right, welcome back, friend. My next guest, Tia, says a drunken fistfight with her best friend, Dijonay, ended their friendship. It's been 4 years since Tia last saw Dijonay, and now she's asking for my help to bring the two back together. Everyone, please welcome Tia to the show. How are you doing? I'm all right.

How are you?

You look beautiful. Let me give you a hug. Thank you. You look stunning.

Thank you.

All right, so take me back. What happened between you and Dijonay?

We had planned a girls trip to Miami and we had, at the time, Dijonay was homeless, you know, but she was my best friend. So she was supposed to come up with like some part of money for her ticket and I was gonna take care of everything else. We also had a mutual male friend there with us at the time of everything. And we kind of got drunk and I was venting to the one, our mutual friend, and before you knew it, a whole altercation came.

So how did the fight start? Because I hear y'all are there, you're having a good time, you start talking to this guy and telling him what?

What did he say? Well, Dijonae was, I felt like Dijonae was being ungrateful.

Okay.

I felt like she was being ungrateful, you know, like, I'm paying for this, I'm paying for the food. Oh, I don't want to eat here. Or, oh, why are we going here? Like, you know, like one of those. She's making my time like miserable.

Yeah.

And I don't want to be, you know, miserable here.

Got it.

So I feel like he went and told her, something else. Like he heard what I said, added his own twist to it, and before you knew it, me and Dijonae were literally fist fighting. Like she reached, we were arguing.

So how bad was that fight?

The fight was really, really bad. Like really bad. Like Dijonae, like she came in and we were at the pool and Dijonae came in, me and the mutual friend were there. Dijonae came in and I could tell that's my friend. You know, we've been friends since we were 13 years old.

Oh wow.

Yeah, so that's like a lot. Like, you know what I mean? Like that's not like no easy thing. Simple friendship, we've been friends. That's my friend I went through the most things with ever. Like, you know, that's my friend I grew up with, graduated high school with. We have our own special names for each other, you know, as best friends. Like, that's like what type of deep best friends. But you know, when she like walked in there, I could tell, like I said, I could tell she was angry. So, you know, as I'm trying to get out the pool to ask her like what's wrong with her, she started arguing, who the hell are you? Who the hell do you think you are to tell him? My business, you know, 'cause I did tell him that he was, you know, she was homeless or whatever. Words were exchanged and I had told her like, I don't give a fuck no more about this. Like straight like that. I don't care about, I said what I said. I don't feel like I was wrong for what I said, you know? The next thing I knew, Dijonay punched me in my face.

So she threw the first punch?

Yes.

Okay.

Yes, she punched me in my face. She's a big woman. I'm a big woman. You know what I mean? Like you can't, you know, just like, punch somebody in their face, like, and just expect them just to be like, oh, let's talk, we're friends. Like, I didn't care at that point. I was already irritated of the whole situation, you know, or whatever. Like, so it just was really frustrating.

Well, listen, hearing this story, hearing that you went from this sweet relationship as little girls to this tumultuous fight to now being unclear of where your future goes, it breaks my heart. But there's always another side to the story. So I think it's important that we welcome Dijonay to the show. Dijonay, come on out. Hey Dijonay, how you doing?

I'm good, how are you?

I'm good, thank you. Thank you for being here. So I wanna know what's going through your mind right now? 'Cause y'all haven't seen each other in 4 years.

She knew I didn't have that much money. But she still wanted to go 'cause if she didn't have it, if I had it and she didn't have it, we got each other. So that's how it was supposed to be. I didn't know that I was going on a whole other side of the town to be talked about like a dog from my best friend of all these years.

I didn't, I didn't.

You did.

I didn't feel like. You did, you was talking. I didn't feel like I was talking shit.

You were. I didn't. Why are you telling my personal business to these people?

'Cause I was venting.

You don't vent to anybody.

'Cause I was venting.

Venting and talking shit to somebody are two different things.

You're right.

That's two totally different things.

You're absolutely right. And did I do that in the best way possible? Then no.

No, you didn't.

I didn't. And I feel like I'm to a point where I can admit when I'm wrong. You were very wrong. We both grew up, but I felt like you were wrong too because you didn't give me a chance.

Why was you wrong by me?

You didn't give me a chance to explain to you exactly what I was doing. And I just feel like He was being messy, he was maybe jealous of our friendship or whatever. And that probably did feed into it to a certain extent, you know what I mean? I can admit that, but I didn't feel like I was wrong. I felt like people are allowed to vent. You were just doing a lot of complaining.

I was.

I don't wanna eat here, I don't wanna eat here. Why do this? We need to get a different one. I just felt like you were complaining about everything. I just felt like you were being ungrateful.

Tia, I wanna know, do you feel like you were belittling her in that moment?

Then no. Now, talking like being an adult, yeah, I could see that.

So don't tell me that, tell her.

Someone would feel belittled, you know? Very.

Nope. Very belittled. And then now after all these years.

I didn't intentionally mean for it to come out as maybe belittling. Maybe I was just fitting and it all just came out and once it was said, it was said.

But why couldn't you just come to me and why wait till we get all the way outta town to bring it up?

I'm gonna ask you, Dijonay, why did you wait Why did you stop speaking to Tia? Why did you? Because I know that after you were done, she left first. Why didn't you call and reach out, especially since you threw the first punch?

Because there, at that point, there wasn't nothing to say. She, there was, I honestly was trying to get home, so I wasn't worried about calling her.

Got it. Tia, I know you have something that you wanna say to Dijonay. Go ahead.

Dijonay, I apologize for leaving you stranded. I apologize for making you feel abandoned. Life is too short. And those 4 years that we haven't spoke, I've lost my mom and I know you've lost your mom.

And my father.

Like, well, I'm sorry about your dad.

And you didn't reach out to me at all.

And I apologize.

And I was up there by myself.

If anything, in that moment, I learned from losing my mom that life is, Life is too short and I miss our friendship. I miss having my friend to be able to call and talk to.

My oldest son's birthday is 3 days after yours.

Yeah, like you got kids that I never got to meet.

You never met none of my kids.

I just wanna be a part of that. I miss feeling like I have family.

Dijonay, do you believe this apology? Can you receive this apology? 'Cause I— One of the things that you said was that you felt belittled and I stopped her right in the moment and said, "Can you acknowledge what she felt?" And she did. She acknowledged and apologized for belittling you. She's also saying she's sorry that she wasn't there. How do you feel? Talk to her.

I feel like, do you really feel like you apologize? Because like after all of these years, you know, I don't understand why you're reaching out to me now. You still know my family members, you know what I mean? Why didn't you reach out in 2019 when my mom passed away? Like why now, you know? And everybody got an ulterior motive. And since then, it's hard for me to accept any type of friendship because of what we went through that night.

Is there an ulterior motive?

No, I just, like I said, losing my mom just really showed me, it just shows you when you lose a parent like your mother, it shows you who's really there because they want to be there and who was who really don't care and they're just there just because that's what they're supposed to do.

So what you just said is the reason why she's hesitant.

Yes.

Because she says when I lost somebody, you see who's gonna be there and who's not.

Yeah, I get that. I get that 'cause I went through that. So I totally understand that.

And see, the thing is, I think we all forget that pride is a dirty, dirty thing. It is. Pride will keep you from acknowledging and apologizing and moving on because you get so stuck stuck in a behavior of like, you know what? Time has passed on. I ain't gonna say nothing. You be the first. You be the first.

Yeah.

But what she did is she let her pride down today and she reached out. And I think she knew that the Karamo Show was a safe enough space where y'all could actually talk it out so y'all could figure this out. And so I feel that hopefully, y'all can clap for that 'cause I'm glad she's here. Because I want y'all to know that it's okay It's okay for you to put down your pride too. It's okay. It's okay for you to acknowledge that yes, y'all both did something wrong. She was wrong for telling your business and you was wrong for punching her face.

I was. I was very wrong.

So good. That's how I wanna get to her. So can you apologize to her and say, you know what, I'm sorry for punching your face. Maybe I could have, I know I was hot, but maybe I could have came down there and talked to you first.

Honestly do apologize. For punching you in your face. I never ever thought that I would have to hurt you in any type of way 'cause you're my sister, not just my best friend. So that I apologize for.

I accept her apology.

Good job. Listen, what is happening right now is y'all are on the road to forgiveness and change.

Can I give her a hug?

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