Three family members discuss how parents can turn their children's achievements into personal competitions. One points out that praise often feels self-serving, while another notes the pressure of being expected to be the first in the family to attend college.
I was hoping you was gonna be the first one to go to college, but I kind of beat you there. I'll beat you there. So you know I'm gonna do it. So hold on. The way that you're communicating him right now, as if it's a competition, I beat you there, I beat you there. If you really wanted to get this to be cleared up so you can move forward with him, the way you just communicate with him is still abusive. It's still abusive in it. I beat you to it. I can celebrate my kids all day long and never have to tell them that I did it first. My children, one of my sons right now is getting in the industry. And there are so many things he accomplished. And when he accomplished them, I say, "Oh my, it's good for you." I have never once come outta my mouth said, "You know what? Well, I did it first.
You know, Dad did it." Oh, okay.
I sit there and I say to him always, "I'm so proud of you. You keep going, you keep making it." I'm always proud of him.
I know, but what I'm trying to help you to see is that—
He was supposed to be the first Gamble to go to college. It's the point I was supposed to make.
Every time that you were around, you know, to witness my success, it was always, not you feeling good for me, but you feeling good about me.
Yeah.
'Cause you seem to think that my success is in some way your success. Everything that I have,
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