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It’s not hate, it’s hurt. #karamoshow #shorts

8 Feb 2024 · 1 min

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In this short clip from the Karamo Show, three participants discuss a family conflict, focusing on the difference between hate and hurt. Speaker B emphasizes that both parties are experiencing hurt rather than hate, urging them to stop labeling emotions as hate. They highlight how unacknowledged maternal support can be overlooked when one compares it to other parental figures, and they stress the importance of recognizing each other's pain and the lack of tools to cope with a hard life. The conversation aims to foster empathy, validation, and a reframing of past grievances to improve relational understanding.

I just need her to trust me and understand that I'm here. But if you keep carrying this hatred towards me, I don't think that we gonna be able to make it work.
Well, I'm gonna tell you this, 'cause this is why I said that earlier and I wanna take that word out of it. She doesn't have hate, she has hurt and you have hurt and both of your hurts differently. One is not more valid than the other, but I don't want y'all to keep throwing around this word hate. I think there's a piece of you because of the pain you experienced, may not be fully acknowledging what your mother did for you as a child. And I will say that. But when you say things which you know isn't gonna intentionally hurt your mother, like, "My father who was in jail was there for me more." Yes, I understand you're saying emotionally, "Was there for me more." It discounts every day that this woman's been there for you. It discounts it.
Yeah, I get it. I get it, I understand.
Can you say that I see maybe that life was hard and you didn't have the tools?
Yeah, life was hard and you didn't have the tools.