In this coaching session, Karamo works with a young couple—Speaker A (the husband) who admits to cheating, and Speaker C (the wife and mother)—to rebuild trust, improve communication, and set healthy boundaries for themselves and their daughter. The conversation moves from A’s apology and promise to be a "better man" to concrete actions such as timely communication, respecting each other's space, and limiting extended‑family interference. Karamo also explores C’s inherited temper, linking it to her mother’s behavior, and highlights how parental patterns affect their child. The session emphasizes accountability, clear boundaries, and modeling non‑violent conflict resolution to break intergenerational cycles and protect the daughter’s emotional development.
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Yes, I done cheated and I apologize and I know you was hurt, but I just want things to work out with me and you. Not just because I love you, but because we have a beautiful daughter.
So I know you want things to work out. So what actions are you gonna take to show her, yes, I can actually show you that I can trust you?
By being a better man and showing you that I can be a better man.
What does being a better man mean?
Be there for you and my daughter.
What does being a better man mean?
I won't do it no more and I apologize.
So if you say, "I wanna be a better man," it's saying, "Hey, I'm gonna communicate with you." So if you text me, even if I'm on my lunch break and I'm busy, I'm just gonna say, "I received it. Let me call you back later." Can you do that to be a better man?
Yes.
What else do you need from him to be a better man for you?
Just respecting me and my daughter. Put boundaries between his family and me.
So if you have family that contacts you, don't pass that on to her. And if they do continue the behavior, you gotta be clear and say, This is my family. You respect it and you respect me and my lady. And that's what you have to do. Can you do that?
Yes.
I believe that. But just because I gave him some lessons, girl, I'm on you too. Let me be very clear, okay? I'm gonna ask you one simple question before I tell you my thoughts. You kept saying, "You hurt me, I'm gonna hurt you. You stomp me, I'm gonna stomp you. You tore me up, I'm gonna tear you up." Who taught you that?
I'm gonna be honest. My mom. My mom.
Mm-hmm.
Well, I can admit I have a very, very bad temper. I have an attitude.
I already know all that, girl. You ain't gotta explain what, you don't gotta explain the obvious. Thank you for being honest. I don't know your mother, but I appreciate you saying that that's where you picked up that behavior. 'Cause that learned behavior is not healthy. And the reason I asked you where do you pick that up is because the same way you pick that up, your daughter's gonna pick that up.
Yes.
And you don't want that for your child.
I want my daughter to be the best she can be. I don't want her to follow in the same footsteps that I was growing up.
I know what strength it has taken for you as a Black woman in this world to stand tall, to continue on, to love yourself, to still be thriving and do what you gotta do. Don't make your daughter's life harder by making her feel like if someone hurts her, she gotta hurt them. Hurt them back. There's other ways for her to protect herself and love herself. And it starts by her mom showing her, I love you and I protect you. So if something happens, you communicate with me. Because the reason that you don't do it is because I'm sure you don't feel like you can communicate with your mom, right? Yes. Y'all don't have a good relationship?
No, I usually talk to my sister.
What would happen if your daughter said one day she don't wanna have a relationship with you because of your attitude?
That's gonna break me to pieces.
Well, the change starts now.
Okay.
So for you as a family unit, that's how you resolve the issues y'all are having when y'all start arguing. Y'all are young parents and there's a little girl that I believe needs y'all and knows needs y'all. And I believe y'all can be better. But if y'all don't stop this communication stuff right now and this tit for tat and all these things, you controlling his life, this is gonna get worse and worse. Get that boy a phone. Yeah, actually not get that boy a phone. You get your own damn phone. Okay? You get your own phone. How do you feel now that you got
