Karamo works with Eric and his partner on infidelity and low self-esteem. Eric rates his self-worth near zero and tried to fix things with expensive jewelry. Karamo tells them their relationship is dysfunctional, not loving, and pushes them toward real forgiveness and boundaries instead.
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You two are unhealthy. It's destructive.
Yeah.
You're grown and you have to track the man you're dating. You're with a woman who's also breaking down your self-esteem. I see you're emotional this entire time.
Yeah.
I don't understand if you've been together less than a year, what is keeping you together?
'Cause we love each other. Yeah.
That is not love. I don't know. Let me tell you. I know that sometimes as we get older and we start to be in relationships that are dysfunctional, we start to redefine what love is. And then you get to a place where now you're 40, you're 50, and you think, oh, Dysfunction is love. But let me tell you, this is not love. This is dysfunction. Okay, from day one, you felt as if the woman that you're with didn't want you, that you didn't feel desired, that she wasn't there for you.
Correct.
But then you then took it a step further because you weren't able to let go and forgive him and now are controlling his life. And you can't be in a relationship where it's controlling. Because all that's gonna do is cause more unhealthy behavior, more and more.
Oh yeah, it does.
And also you're talking to him in a negative way that you're breaking him down. But that's not fair to him either.
No, it's not.
Because if you're gonna be with him and you're gonna take him back, then either you forgive him or you don't. So the question is, are you gonna forgive him?
I forgive him. I was just making sure he was doing what he was supposed to do.
So can you separate your lives? In the sense of like all this phone connected, all this stuff, would you be willing to do that?
I guess I would if he's willing to.
I have nothing to hide.
I have nothing to hide either, so.
Eric, do you wanna stay in this relationship?
Yes, I would love to stay in this relationship and this is why I handed out $2,000 worth of jewelry for her.
Okay.
Yeah, oh yeah, he proposed to me.
At first it wasn't big enough. So I had to go ahead and bring it up.
So you made a gesture and it was not good enough for her?
Yeah.
Okay. So Eric, I'm gonna ask you a question that I sometimes ask women. On a scale of 0 to 10, 10 being the most amazing, where's your self-esteem?
Probably pretty low right now.
Like what? Like a 1, 2, 3? Yeah. I'm sorry. I really am.
Hopefully we'll get through it.
Because unfortunately, I don't think this is fair to you. I know you made a mistake by cheating, but you shouldn't live a life of torment for the mistake you made. And your self-esteem shouldn't be broken down. Here, lemme give you this.
Thank you.
I'm sorry.
I mean, I just was very hurt in a relationship.
What's going through your mind right now?
I just want it to be over. Move on and have a family and a relationship.
I love you.
I love you too. Love you.
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