Karamo Empowers Woman In Toxic Relationship | KARAMO

My guest Brianna says she met her boyfriend Taylor when she was only 18 years old and she fell in love almost instantly. But within only a few months, she caught him in bed with another woman. All right, everyone, please help me welcome Brianna to the show. [APPLAUSE] [Speaker] Hi. [Speaker] Nice to meet you. [Speaker] Nice to meet you.

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All right, so Brianna, Hearing that story breaks my heart immediately.

Yeah.

Just hearing that you were so young and that you've caught someone cheating. I know that you had just graduated from high school when you met Taylor.

Yes, I did.

Tell me about your relationship.

I had just graduated high school. I was a crew leader working towards my manager position.

Yes, goals.

Yes, I had my own car, my own apartment.

Come on, independence. I'm living.

Yes, yes. I went to a party with a friend and that's how I met Taylor. I instantly fell in love with him. We instantly clicked. Like we never stopped talking.

And you two have a child together, right?

We have two children together.

Wow, okay then.

Yes, we have two children.

Where did it go wrong?

It started in April of 2019 when he first cheated on me. That's when it first started to go downhill. He was going out to drink with friends is what he told me. And he ended up not answering any of my calls, any of my texts. A friend of his got ahold of me and told me to meet him. And I followed his friend to where Taylor was at an apartment. I knocked on the door, some guy answered and he was like, were you one of the girls here last night? And I was like, no, is Taylor here? And they're like, yeah, yeah, he's here. And I go inside and he's in bed with another girl. I felt panicked. I felt like I was gonna lose it. It broke my heart. So I walked out, got in my car, and not even 2 minutes later, he was fully dressed and in my car with me.

And did you have kids at that point?

No, we did not have kids at that time.

Okay.

No, we didn't have our first child until 2021.

So if you catch him in bed with another woman, you don't have kids, there's nothing attaching you to him, why stay?

I was young, I was 18. He made me feel special. He told me what I wanted to hear as an 18-year-old young girl. He told me he loved me, he'd never do it again.

So over the years you found many different messages from different women?

Yes, multiple.

How many times has he cheated on you at this point?

I could write 2 pages in a notebook. Yes, I could write 2 pages in a notebook of girls he has cheated on me with. Facebook dating, Tinder, Snapchat, anything.

I mean, we're looking at these photos right now. What does it make you feel like knowing that these—

It breaks me. It hurts me 'cause he doesn't talk to me like that texting, in person. He doesn't make me feel that way like he does these random girls he's talking to. He, I don't get it. He doesn't know them, they're strangers.

Why work it out?

We have two children. Our parents were both not together growing up and that's something we both want for our kids. I can't do it on my own with him anymore. Like, I want him to change. If he wants to change, I want him to change. If he doesn't, then that's on him.

Have you cheated on him since you've been together?

Yes, I have. And I specifically told him, you know, if you cheat on me one more time, I'm gonna make you feel how you made me feel. And that's what I did, and I wasn't happy with myself at all. It made me feel terrible, disgusted, gross. You don't do that to somebody you love. I told him that I cheated on him. He didn't get to find out on his own. I just want him, I want him to change. I want him to change for our kids. We have a daughter, like, what if somebody was doing that to her? That's not fair. Nobody deserves that. Thank you.

You know, it does, it really does break my heart. I have been young and I've been in that position where I'm like, oh, you know what? I wanna show you how I feel. I wanna do to you what you're doing to me. But what I do appreciate about you is that you realize that that type of behavior is not healthy. And something you kept saying that you said over and over again that resonated with me is how do you do this to someone that you love? I'm assuming you believe he loves you.

Yes.

Do you assume that he loves your children?

Yes.

How is he as a father?

I want him to step up and be a better father for sure.

What does that mean?

He likes to sit down and play video games all day. He can't hold a job. He has a lot of work to do to become a better father. And all the work's on me when it comes to the kids.

Okay. I wanna go ahead and bring him out now. Kayla, come on out.

You doing all right? How are you gonna make me look like the bad guy?

Because you are.

You've done the same mistakes to me. You have made the multiple mistakes. I try to be everything I can for you guys. Saying I have no job, but I quit two jobs.

What was your excuse for cheating?

Because you have asked me.

What's your excuse for cheating?

Excuse for me for cheating?

What's your excuse? Excuse for me for cheating?

What's your excuse?

You know what you've done.

I understand that you could be frustrated because your side of the story hadn't been shared yet. But we saw the evidence. I'm all about evidence, proof, and when I'm helping people. So for you to come out and say quickly, why you make me look bad? You made yourself look bad with this. Which leads me to why have you been repeatedly cheating on Briana, the mother of your children?

Well, when you have somebody that pushed you into a relationship when you wasn't ready for one, when you just got out of a relationship 2 years. So why'd you get with her? Then how would you feel? You know, you wasn't ready to settle down and you told her that and she still She still barged her way in. She ended up—

You're a grown man, you make your own choices. That's why you cheated on me, because you made that choice.

Okay, well when somebody sits there and picks at you and—

I need to understand, you said not ready for a relationship. You have children.

I was in a long-term relationship before, and it didn't go so well either, and then like right when I met her, boom, I was sucked into the relationship.

So were you sucked in or did you make a choice?

I was sucked in because I told her I wasn't ready for a relationship.

So then why didn't you express that?

I expressed it to her multiple times.

I would've been with somebody else if that was the case. I wouldn't have kept trying with you.

Okay, but you—

I didn't force you to be with me. You made that choice on your own.

You gotta back up because you're saying, "I'm not ready for a relationship," which is clear by the fact that you're cheating, but then you're putting it on her that you stayed around. You had that option after you cheated and got caught to leave. Why didn't you leave after you got caught cheating?

Because I realized, you know, after all the times that I was cheating, we got two beautiful kids, you know? I try to be everything I can for these guys.

I got a quick question. What does love mean to you?

Love means one and infinity. You're gonna love that one person for the rest of your life. You don't go for anybody else but that one person. That's the person you should, if you love that person, you're gonna be with that person.

So love for you is about being faithful?

Yes.

Okay, so when is the last time you cheated on her?

The last time I cheated on her was back in January.

Oh, so it was true. Taylor, do you still wanna be with Briana?

Yes, I love this girl to death. Okay. I do.

Do you think your actions are killing her and this relationship?

Yes, yes it is. And I see it every day.

So then why do you still wanna be with her knowing that you're killing her?

Because she's my soulmate, you know? She wants to get engaged, but right now I feel like it's not the time because we have broken pieces in our relationship that we need help fixing.

Okay, what's making you cry right now?

Just everything. I want him to change. I want him to stop cheating. I want him to be a better father to our children. I want him to be there. I can't do it on my own anymore. I don't know what to do. He's never listened to me. You don't listen to me.

I do listen to you. I do.

No, because if you listened to me, you never would've cheated in the first place.

Okay, yes, you're right about that, but if I didn't listen to you, I'm saying to you, why did I get rid of social media? 'Cause I knew that was the number one thing impacting our relationship.

Obviously you didn't get rid of it if it keeps coming into our relationship. You say you get rid of it, but then you constantly get on it.

How do I constantly get on it? 'Cause the only one I get on is yours.

So Briana, you came here because you wanted me to unlock Taylor's phone, right?

Yes.

But before I do these results, Taylor, I just wanna give you an opportunity to come and talk and confess about anything else that's going on. And I'm saying this to you as man to man, father to father. We've already seen texts, we've already seen, heard you cheated in January. There's nothing that could be added to this that could make it any worse. So I wanna ask you, before I open up these phone results, is there anything that you'd like to confess to Briana?

No, besides the email and the stuff that she knows that I have, no. There's not. I mean—

So you have not cheated since January?

Correct. I have not.

Do you believe that?

I don't know. He's always lied to me about it. He's never told me the truth, so I don't know.

Well, listen, we did unlock your phone and here are the results. Brianna, you wanted to know what was in Taylor's phone when it came to cheating. Our phone investigator discovered that Taylor has tampered with the phone so that we could not get any results.

No way.

Yes way.

No way.

Yeah.

So is that what you be doing on your little PC computer at home?

No, I will not.

No.

There's no way.

I will not do that. The person who does our phone unlocking is very, very skilled. So we can see when it's been tampered with, which makes complete sense. We've already seen the behavior here.

Yes.

And there's an issue here. You're a young couple. And the thing is that I really wanna start with you. I wanna know why do you feel like you have to keep going back to this man?

Well, now it's for the sake of my children. I want them to grow up with parents who are together. I didn't get to experience that and it hurt.

But this is the thing for you. Sometimes when we have, we're in unhealthy relationships as children, we think we're doing better. But I have to ask you this. Would you rather your children be in a household with two unhealthy parents or a household with one healthy parent?

With one healthy parent, definitely.

Because you keep going back to this man because I heard you tell my producers that he says the right things. He always says what you need to hear and you start to believe him and believe that he'll do better, correct?

Yes, I always believe he'll do better. I see so much potential in him. He has potential, but he doesn't show it.

Listen, he's already showed you who he is. And the thing is, is that you don't wanna believe it. And part of the reason that you don't wanna believe it is because you're young and I don't believe that you've even developed your self-esteem and your own worth. Do you understand your own worth?

No, I lost it a long time ago when our relationship started to go downhill.

Do you know how to start to begin to recognize and grow new worth?

No.

That's where I can help you with. The first step of you recognizing your own worth is saying to yourself, what is it that I deserve? It starts out with you loving yourself. You said you don't want your own children to ever have to deal with something like this. Right. This is the first step for you. Don't put them in a situation where now one day they have to feel this way because they watch mom do this. Allow yourself to be the model for them by saying to them, I can do better. Because let me tell you something, the only reason this man is staying with you, and I gotta get to you, is because you have a comfort with her. You know she gonna take you back, you know she gonna put up with your BS, and you know that she's not gonna be there to confront you. That's the truth, right?

No, that's not the truth.

That is the truth. We're not gonna play these games. That is exactly it. You know that she's going to put up with it and it's scary to you because outta your own words, you were not ready for this life. You were not ready to be a father. You were not ready to be in a committed relationship. And though you're trying to blame her, you made a choice for some reason, and I don't know why, but you made that choice. And now you're torturing her because you're scared to step up and be the man. And that's really what it is. Turn to him and I want you to repeat after me. Starting today.

Starting today.

I'm gonna start to practice.

I'm gonna start to practice.

Knowing my worth.

Knowing my worth.

And I understand today.

And I understand today.

That you cheating on me.

That you cheating on me.

Is not what I deserve.

Is not what I deserve.

And I am worth more than that.

And I am worth more than that. I'm worth more than that.

My children are worth more than that.

My children are worth more than that.

Listen, you can do it. This is the first step for you.

I'm sorry for everything I've done, okay? I love you to death. I wanna be your husband like you've always wanted me to be. I do, okay? I wanna be the father you want me to be. I wanna be everything you want me to be.

Okay, but that starts with you. I mean, you have to change. You can't just, You're gonna change and then not change and just make it a repeated cycle over and over and over.

I can do that. I can do that. I've done everything for you. You ask me to do anything, I do it for you immediately. Do I not?

Yeah, at times, but there's no excuse for anything you do.

That's the thing is at times, but those times you ask me, that tells you what? He's done it for me.

There's no excuse for anything you've done though.

Yes, you're right, but I'm human. Humans make mistakes. You make mistakes, you make mistakes a lot.

I mean, they couldn't even get into the phone. What's your worth? What's your worth? What's your worth? This is the moment when I'm not around, when you get back home, recognize your worth. What's your worth?

I'm worth more than what you put me through.

Thank you, that's the part. Anytime you start hearing these excuses, your only response is, "I'm worth more." Don't engage.

Okay.

No more engagement. You keep engaging, you keep going through the cycle. He started telling you the same BS he's told you before. What is your response from now on?

I'm worth more than that.

Thank you, and you're worth more than that for yourself and also for those kids. Don't engage in this anymore. What is your response?

I'm worth more than that.

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