Karamo tells a viewer stuck in a relationship with unclear boundaries to either end it or redesign it together. Instead of accepting one partner's side relationships, he suggests negotiating mutual terms: both people get freedom outside the relationship, with agreed-on times for togetherness and separate time apart.
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You only have two choices. Either you say to myself, "I'm leaving," which you already established you're not gonna do, or you say to yourself, "Let's reestablish the boundaries of this relationship." And that's just the truth of the matter. Okay. And I know you said I should have been doing something. Right. Listen. Exactly. Maybe you should have, maybe you shouldn't have. I'm not gonna tell you how to change your character or change your morals. But at this point, if you wanna do something, maybe y'all should be having a conversation about how you can get yours going too. Now have you a little side piece. No, no, no, no. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, Charles. Charles, that don't work. Charles, you don't know Charles. You don't get to be the only one over here dipping and doing and not let her get her little piece too. That just don't work. Oh no, oh no. Because listen, Charles, let me tell you what I just gave you. I just gave you a golden pass that I would never give. So don't come over here now and make that golden pass toxic. You are doing what you wanna do. And I'm saying to y'all, if y'all don't wanna stay together, set new boundaries. But you gotta be man enough. If you wanna do what you gotta do, give her an option to do what she wanna do as well. Exactly. I agree with that. Exactly. So great, you said you agree with it. So what I'm gonna just say to y'all is instead of going through this whole thing of like, y'all gonna break up, 'cause I know y'all not, just figure out new boundaries. New boundaries. Communication in relationships don't always have to be bad. You already are in a situation where you're putting up with this. And if you putting up with this because you do love him and you want to be with him, Just set some new boundaries and then, and that way you can be like, all right, you know what? I don't wanna know what you're doing between 12 and 3 o'clock. I don't wanna know, but you ask me to be home at 3:01 so that we can have our time together. That's a boundary that y'all can set in a relationship. We don't have to go with the same structure of boundaries we've seen over and over again. As adults, we have a chance to redefine our relationships how we want. And instead of you being heartbroken and going through the same thing over and over again, you already know he gonna do it, girl. You already know you gonna stay, so why not set a new boundary? And then also figure out if you want a little piece on the side too, girl.
