Karamo Watches the Toxic Dynamic Between Grandmother & Grandson! | Karamo's Cut | KARAMO

This crowd is so fake, what's cute? Good to meet you, take a seat. So Kiani, that's a lot to hear that you're fighting with your grandmother in the streets. I'm new school in the sense of I understand you gotta be respected in toxic relationships, but I'm old school in the sense like you don't fight your grandma, okay? So what was going on?

So it was right after my graduation. It was a really hard time for me because I was all on my own. When I needed my grandmother the most, I just felt like she wasn't there for me at all. So the fight happened because she had gifted me $100 for my graduation. Later that night, she took the $100 back because she left her wallet at home. She needed to pay for dinner. So I gave her the money. I gave it back to her. I didn't say anything, just gave it back to her. Then a week later, I was supposed to give her some money, I was supposed to give her $100. And then I'm looking at my money, I'm like, wait, she still owes me the $50 from that. So I just went to her, like to go talk to her to see like if she was gonna give it back. At the end of the day, she was supposed to give me the money back. Then the whole situation just turned into something it wasn't supposed to be. She tried to attack me. In front of my sister. Not only in front of my sister, in front of my cousin. My cousin had to hold her back. My room got destroyed. My door was broken.

So you told my producers that this is a pattern of hateful things that she does to you. Yeah. What does she do?

When she's in her mood, she would throw her anger out on the wrong person.

Well, Kiani, it says, you said that your grandma says she fat shames you, calls you the B word. She says all the time that she regrets taking you in.

Yeah.

And she controls you.

Yeah. Well, the regret taking me in part was it happened one time. It happened during COVID I remember me and my friend was sitting on the couch and she had asked me if I knew where something was at. I said, no, I didn't. And she just went off from there.

Okay, so for me, meeting a young man and realizing like all of a sudden he has, you know, lost his mom, had all these issues, like, You know, it's hard because you wanna have empathy for him, but also there needs to be boundaries and respect. And I think the more that you hear his side, you're like, oh my gosh. But then you realize quickly, I don't know, you know, like you gotta respect what your grandmother has done, respect what this elder has done for you to make sure that things are, you're respecting them as much as they respect you. Okay.

Yeah.

So I wanna just clarify, why did your grandmother take you in?

My grandma took me in because at the age of 6, my mom had passed.

Okay.

When I was 6 years old, she was giving birth. Yeah, that's her.

A beautiful mother.

Thank you.

Yeah.

She was giving birth to my sister and unfortunately she never came back home after that.

What was it like for you growing up without your mom?

I felt lost. When you go through a death, no matter what, it hurts. But when you lose your mother, that breaks you.

So this young man, what I realized quickly is that because of this grandmother and the sacrifice she's made is why he had this stuff. And he wasn't acknowledging that his grandmother was a person who did the work for him. Like, she's the one who stepped up. Yes, y'all should be talking to— the communication could be better, but there needs to be respect and love with his grandmother, like, and it showed immediately. The producer said that you've come into some money now. Yeah. What happened?

It's just from what happened.

From the setup, from your mother's death? Yeah. Okay, makes sense to me. So what do you think your grandma Sharon is mad about the money?

I don't wanna say she's mad.

Okay, what language did you use?

I wanna say she does have some like hatred towards it. That's how I feel.

Okay.

I feel like she has some hatred.

Why?

Towards it because I feel like she told me before, she said, I feel like you, she said, she had asked me, she was like, don't you feel like I deserve half of it?

Wow.

Because she said if it wasn't for her, I would've never had it.

Because she's the grandmother. So since she had your mother and your mother had you, that's why she feels like.

No, well that too, but no, because she went, Because she went to go through the whole process of getting it.

Oh, she did the lawsuit 'cause you were a child.

Yeah, I was a child. So she went through the whole process of doing it. So she, I guess she feels like I should give her some of it.

And so listen, you will immediately start to think like the grandma is doing this, this and that. And then you start to hear both sides and you're like, mm, okay, something is not working here. Something is fishy. Sharon, thanks for being here.

Yes, sir.

How are you doing? Okay, first of all, Grandma, you look fly. Yeah, you do. So I wanna know from you, what is going on with you and your grandson?

Sometimes I feel like nobody understands me. I lost my child and I don't try to be slick or anything like that, but I try to get him to understand that if it wasn't for me, it wouldn't have been no you.

You say that all the time.

I do because it's reality. So the thing is, it's not looking for, me doing all this to him, I'm not getting anything back. I feel empty because I done took care everybody. I had to hold up for everybody. He was 6 years old. I had a 3-week-old baby in my hand. I took my daughter to the hospital. She told me she had a headache. I, I, I—

But don't you feel like if you were my grandma, that's something you were supposed to do?

Of course, because it's not only as a grandmother, but I'm talking about that's my child.

You know, one of the things now with the grandmother coming out, you see her passion, you can see what she's going through. You understand that she has been making sacrifices and that she loves this child, that she loves him like her own child, not just like a grandson. But I also realize she's grieving. She never got to deal with the grief that she lost her own child because she had to then step into grandma-mom mode for her grandson. And that's hard because you're losing someone and then you're like, oh, okay, I don't get time to focus on me. It's about focusing on you, which is what a parent is supposed to do, what a grandparent is supposed to do, and she did it right. And yes, there's ways that she can communicate better, but I think the respect and communication needs to be on both of their sides. But there was really a big piece that this young man needed to acknowledge what his grandmother was doing.

I do love you, and no matter what, I try my hardest to not act the way I do towards you. I have that feeling, but it's hard. The words that you had said is going to stick with me for the rest of my life.

What are the words that she said to you that you want her to know?

We was arguing, you was trying to hit me with a stick, and I was holding the stick from you. You said to me, you're a bitch.

That's not true. Don't do that. I've never in my 62 years said that to you.

You probably don't remember because of the healing moment I was going through.

I remember.

I remember.

I never said that to my grandson.

I wouldn't just say that.

I never said that.

You did.

You gotta be kidding me. Never. And I'm not gonna deny having said some things. I said some things like, stop acting like a bitch.

Yeah. You don't say that to a kid.

I said that. I did. I did say it. But y'all gotta, you know, and I'm not trying to make any excuses for my actions or my behavior. But I'm angry too. I'm angry.

Every time this grandmother started speaking, it just broke my heart. I could just feel her pain. I could feel what she was going through.

I apologize. I'm really sorry if I hurt you that way. It was not intentionally. Sometimes it's misdirected anger. I don't know who I'm angry at. I don't know what to do sometimes. I'm sorry for we to get here, to have to do this. I am so sorry. That was not my intentions.

Can you accept all that and receive your grandmother?

Yes.

You can? Yes. She wants to be emotionally open to you. You see what you asked for, she's doing right here on the show. She's showing you she can do it. Can you be a young man that can step into your maturity and do that for her as well? Yes. You can?

Yes, 'cause I need it too.

She needs it too.

Sometimes I feel like I'm just dying inside.

Y'all both are grieving. Y'all gotta be there for each other, all right?

Yeah.

You got somebody who's gonna ride for you for the rest of your life. In your life and who loves you. I also love this young man. I understand what he's experiencing as well. See, that's one of the things with me. I can see what both people are going through, but at the end of the day, it's about respect and loving. And listen, you got a big break off of money and your grandmother's the exact reason why you got the money. Like I said, give her a little bit of, give her a little coin, give her a little bit 'cause she deserves it. Hold up, hold up. Where are you going? I know you wanna watch more Karamo, so click here to subscribe and click here here to watch more so we can keep talking and growing, friends. I love you.