A parent learns that apologies without listening don't fix hurt. A family proverb says it best: you have two ears and one mouth, so listen twice as much as you speak. When someone's in pain, especially a child, validation matters more than quick fixes.
I had to learn how to do my own hair by myself. I had to learn things that you was supposed to be there to teach me. I apologize.
You don't take accountability for my actions. I apologize. I apologize once again. You are a beautiful, phenomenal woman, a daughter. Just keep that attitude.
The problem is, is that you're telling her to let go of the feelings that she's had, but that's easier said than done for you because you've grown past it. But she's still, and I think this is something that I talk about constantly on the show, is that when it comes to our kids, kids are still in that age, even though she's grown, she just told you that, I heard a little kid talking. I needed my mother to teach me how to brush my hair, to do these things, and she didn't have it. So when you say, get over it, it's in the past, I'm sorry, I understand why she feels like it's insincere. My granny used to always tell me, you got two ears and one mouth, you're supposed to be doing one double time. And I think in this moment, you're supposed to be listening to her a lot more than you saying sorrys.